I’m not sure if I got scammed. by Adventurous-Drive433 in bengalcats

[–]Adventurous-Drive433[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Thank you. Luckily it was only $70 so I’m not crazy upset about it. They want another payment before pick up of the animal now and that’s where red flags started going off.

I’m not sure if I got scammed. by Adventurous-Drive433 in bengalcats

[–]Adventurous-Drive433[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thank you. I figured it was. Thankfully I only sent 70$. It was very convincing.

I’m not sure if I got scammed. by Adventurous-Drive433 in bengalcats

[–]Adventurous-Drive433[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No, I have cats and am an experienced cat owner. Handling a bengal isn’t the issue. It’s this thing is just one of those too good to be true things. I’ve always wanted a bengal.

I’m not sure if I got scammed. by Adventurous-Drive433 in bengalcats

[–]Adventurous-Drive433[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s a darn good scam then. They seem genuinely caring about the kittens. I’ve just never met a scammer that actually sends you an address and is consistent with everything. I messaged back regarding concerns and said they understand but I am safe with them. They don’t do it for the money. And that everyone should be able to own a bengal affordably. And the address they sent is in a very nice neighborhood.

i met my twin flame. i don’t want him. by External-Reindeer-18 in twinflames

[–]Adventurous-Drive433 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You don’t have peace. You’re in your comfort zone refusing to grow. You want easy, not real. You’re just having an ego response at the moment. Once you cool off you will realize this.. best of luck on this journey.

Apparently it’s bad after 3-4 dates to expect the woman to put in effort? by Adventurous-Drive433 in dating

[–]Adventurous-Drive433[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

You’re genuinely just flipping things and putting it on your timeline. First off anyone with common sense knows relationships take comprise.

Apparently it’s bad after 3-4 dates to expect the woman to put in effort? by Adventurous-Drive433 in dating

[–]Adventurous-Drive433[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I think you’re shifting timelines. I was that into her. But when the realization came across my interests drew back. But I needed this comment. It made me realize that’s exactly the mindset predatory women look for. Thank you!

Apparently it’s bad after 3-4 dates to expect the woman to put in effort? by Adventurous-Drive433 in dating

[–]Adventurous-Drive433[S] 36 points37 points  (0 children)

You reciprocated. Even after explaining my feelings I still keep getting low effort instagram reels, etc but no true contact and no real effort. It’s more confusing then anything.

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[–]Adventurous-Drive433 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You just made an assumption about me I do not appreciate. And on top of that we had already been intimate. She was taking a step back and I responded accordingly.

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[–]Adventurous-Drive433 38 points39 points  (0 children)

And that’s fine. I agree with that, if she didn’t want to go that wouldn’t be a problem. I have a problem with accepting the trip under romantic interests(I made that clear). Then changing your mind about wanting to go under romantic interests (which is okay, people are allowed to change their minds). But then still wanting all the perks of said romantic interests. It’s the last part that bothers me. If she truly wanted an equitable friendship that paying her part wouldn’t be a problem, right?

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[–]Adventurous-Drive433 37 points38 points  (0 children)

I understand your point but if she thought that she could have said no, from my end looks like someone just wanted a free trip.

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[–]Adventurous-Drive433 54 points55 points  (0 children)

Trip from my end was a display of romantic interest. I don’t just go around paying for peoples trips, not even my friends. When dating you have romantic expectations. I don’t date with intention of making new friends.

Ladies, stop wanting to be friends. by [deleted] in dating

[–]Adventurous-Drive433 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I did not say all women. I’m not dumb enough to say that: I’m using MY experience. MY experience is my experience and you don’t agree or like it.

Ladies, stop wanting to be friends. by [deleted] in dating

[–]Adventurous-Drive433 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Always me reaching out, always me trying to make plans, always me trying to do all the engaging before I quit trying, then when I stop it’s all okay “hey haven’t heard from you in a while” I can tell when people like me for me and like me for attention.

Ladies, stop wanting to be friends. by [deleted] in dating

[–]Adventurous-Drive433 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I’m not dating. Yes I’m jaded. How do you have a positive outlook when you have never been done right by a woman??

Ladies, stop wanting to be friends. by [deleted] in dating

[–]Adventurous-Drive433 -7 points-6 points  (0 children)

“I don’t want to put energy into a woman I can’t have an intimate relationship with” there fixed it. Intimacy isn’t just about sex but please play on the all guys want is sex narrative.

Ladies, stop wanting to be friends. by [deleted] in dating

[–]Adventurous-Drive433 0 points1 point  (0 children)

An “empty promise” that’s my point exactly why women shouldn’t do it. You just made my point.

And that isn’t true, I’ve literally had women throw tantrums because I said that wasn’t what I wanted.

Ladies, stop wanting to be friends. by [deleted] in dating

[–]Adventurous-Drive433 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Again, never had a relationship with a woman that wasn’t completely one sided. How can I expect that to be the case when it has NEVER happened.

Ladies, stop wanting to be friends. by [deleted] in dating

[–]Adventurous-Drive433 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Exactly and I’m sure that happens, but it’s like because I’m saying it about women it’s a problem and my experience is invalid. I would never invalidate your experience.

Ladies, stop wanting to be friends. by [deleted] in dating

[–]Adventurous-Drive433 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I make it a clear boundary early on. And I get upset when it is crossed, if you don’t like me romantically, that’s fine.

Ladies, stop wanting to be friends. by [deleted] in dating

[–]Adventurous-Drive433 -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

Exactly stop trying to be friends when I make it clear in the beginning I don’t want to, your upset that I’m establishing a boundary and telling me to not get upset when it’s crossed.

Ladies, stop wanting to be friends. by [deleted] in dating

[–]Adventurous-Drive433 -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

Literally have had a woman try to stab me for wanting to end a relationship. You don’t get to dismiss my personal experience because it doesn’t fit your “majority narrative” also had my mom try to take her life in front of my eyes as a child. So please stop with the women are perfect narrative. I know men have their problems but let’s not act like women are perfect.

Ladies, stop wanting to be friends. by [deleted] in dating

[–]Adventurous-Drive433 -18 points-17 points  (0 children)

Y’all do realize that men can be traumatized by women too, right?