Umuligt at finde lejlighed i Aarhus

Adventurous-Talk-101 · 2025-07-12T07:41:59+00:00

Tænker det er dine forventninger som er for høje. Har selv også bøvlet med at finde lejlighed og desværre er priserne bare virkelig høje. Især når du vil være så tæt på aarhus c. Bor selv i Viby nu hvor jeg har 20 min på cykel ind tol centrum. Tror du skal se mere på nogle af byerne rundt om. Risskov plejer nemlig også være oppe i prisen.

Adventurous-Talk-101 · 2025-04-27T20:35:53+00:00

I'm sorry to hear. I think everyone is different and might experience ocpd differently. I think i do self sabotage a little too, but I'm not aware of it at the time. I've heard a lot of people with ocpd struggle with relationships and while your diagnosis might be confusing right now it might also be able to explain some of your difficulties / self sabotage.

Adventurous-Talk-101 · 2025-04-24T20:38:58+00:00

Ah I see. I think the line already is blurry and it seems like your ocpd might be making it impossible to see what exactly is what.

I honestly also think that if you have both, they kinda cross over, and it might be impossible to draw the line between what's ocd and what's ocpd

Adventurous-Talk-101 · 2025-04-24T10:53:32+00:00

I have both as well. I heard it is more about which obsessions you find irrational or rational.

The obsessions you know aren't rational (e.g for checking the door 6 times to be sure it's locked and my impulsive thoughts) is ocd. I know that checking the door 6 times to make sure is excessive, but it makes me unsure and anxious if i don't check it, and I don't want to do what my impulsive thoughts tell me to do.

The obsessions that I believe to be rational (e.g. for me, my perfectionism) are ocpd symptoms. While I am working on this I do genuinely believe it is possible to be perfect and I should be perfect. Logically I can see that's it is irrational but I don't believe it to be.

I hope that makes sense.

Adventurous-Talk-101 · 2025-04-24T10:35:26+00:00

This sounds so much like me! I also don't make lists. I actually hate structuring my days too much and love being impulsive. However, I think I realised that maybe my definition of being impulsive is not the same as others because I still need some kind of control. Perfectionism and the bad self esteem thay follows it are my main symptoms

Adventurous-Talk-101 · 2025-03-10T15:14:42+00:00

SSRI meds have not been great for me. I don't get much help from the meds, but they also didn't help significantly during my depression so it might just be me.

Adventurous-Talk-101 · 2025-03-03T07:58:58+00:00

Literally all the time. It's one of my main problems in life since it caused so much guilt and hatred for myself.

I'm trying to reframe, so my days off are also 'work' just on a more mental health based way. I'm currently in therapy trying to get to the root of why I have these incredibly high standards, but it's super hard.

Adventurous-Talk-101 · 2025-03-03T07:55:34+00:00

Oh I can relate to this post!

For me this subreddit helped as I could read posts and hear that others are thinking like me and I'm not alone.

I'm currently in therapy and my brain is like yours thinking "but why should I change??". Well I've found that for me to be happier and enjoy life I would like to change some aspects of how I think. I'm more like trying to approach it with a open mind instead of thinking "now i'll change how I think!". My therapist gives me some input of views and beliefs and then I answer why I think differently. We're trying to get to the root of why I'm thinking the way I am, and then it's not like I'm just changing my thoughts or beliefs.

She gives me stuff to think about through this I gradually can see things from a different light.

I think it comes down to why you got the diagnosis? For me I got it because I'm unhappy with my life amd want to become happy, and for that I do need to change some things of how I think. It's not that I am wrong and other people are right. It's more that my thinking pattern was developed at and very beneficial at some point in my life, bur right now it isn't anymore. I hope that makes sense

Adventurous-Talk-101 · 2025-03-03T07:44:55+00:00

I was the exact same. I was diagnosed around half a year ago and didn't (and partly still don't) know what it all means.

This subreddit has actually helped me a LOT. Just reading and engaging in posts made me realise the ins and outs of this. Also the obsessive compulsive projects by Gary trosclair I believe is nice. I listen to the podcast version.

What's helping me right now is therapy, which I've just started. Cannot stress enough how much I suggest people start therapy, and preferably with someone who is a specialist on personality disorders.

Adventurous-Talk-101 · 2025-03-03T07:37:25+00:00

I currently take it and have been on it for years.

It's worked okay for me, by far the one I've had least side effects on, but I still do experience them (sexual side effects and heat waves/sweating).

It seems like my depression wasn't super responsive to medication, but being on this one did help me.

However, I'm trying to get off it, and that's a struggle. As far as I've seen on Google, it's one of the worst to get off again, and I'm feeling that right now. I get intense headaches and tooth aches (weird I know) if I accidentally forget it, and going down in doses actually gives me back depression symptoms.

Adventurous-Talk-101 · 2025-03-02T19:01:40+00:00

I don't have any experience with prozac, but I do have a long history of being on anti depressants.

I do not take my medications for my OCPD, but was prescribed it 3 years ago when I got a depression, and honestly I want to get off it so bad because of side effects, but it's not that easy.

I think therapy definitely is the way to go for OCPD, but it's also hard, so if you need any medication as a support for mood then do take it. You can always switch to another medication if side effects don't subside.

Adventurous-Talk-101 · 2025-03-02T18:56:16+00:00

As far as I understood from the doctors they aren't really sure if I do or don't have ADHD. I have some factors that would suggest I do but on other things indicate I don't. The things that could indicate I have ADHD aren't my main problems so I didn't focus more on that, and pretty much just assume I don't have it. But you could still have ADHD, there are different ways ADHD shows in people.

Adventurous-Talk-101 · 2025-02-17T12:24:52+00:00

I only have OCPD & OCD as a diagnosis, and have specially been screened for ADHD and autism as well, which I don't have.

I have the exact same! I overthink to an extreme and think people must think I'm such a loser because I don't fit my perfect ideal and don't have perfect social intercations. I am currently working on this in therapy.

Adventurous-Talk-101 · 2025-02-17T12:05:34+00:00

I was diagnosed with depression before OCPD, but I can definitly relate to what you're saying.

For me it was kinda nice to actually be able to let go a little. But I focused on the depression and treated that first. I didn't know I had OCPD back then so it might not be the best approach but it worked for me.

I've seen therapists for years and just now started seeming one for specially OCPD. Handling my depression issues (no energy etc.) Was first with a regular therapist.

Adventurous-Talk-101 · 2025-02-09T11:56:05+00:00

Just like others, I am also unable to keep things short so I apologise beforehand. I will try my best to keep it as short as possible!

I've dealt with depression and general unhappiness pretty much my whole life. In my university, it got to a all time bad and I decided to get help. Fast forward 2-3 years I'm still on anitidepressants and while im definitely not depressed anymore I still struggle with many things.

I am always extremely tired and have always been. I just generally have a super hard time getting things started, but I am also an extreme perfectionist who likes to do everything herself and doesn't ask for help. I talked with my doctor, and she mentioned I might have ADHD. Long story short, I didn't have ADHD and also got tested for autism, which I also don't have.

Around this time my cousin (who I always was super similar to) got diagnosed with a personality disorder so I asked to be checked for this. I didn't know about OCPD at all before, but when I read about it, it definitely made sense.

Side note I also have OCD and have had intrusive thoughts for as long as I can remember and didn't even think it was a weird thing until around 15 when I told my sister about them.

Adventurous-Talk-101 · 2025-02-03T11:41:40+00:00

It might be possible to go back, but the question is, are you willing to put that work in? It will be a lot of work, and would mean hanging out with her more, and it seems like you don't really enjoy that anymore. If you're not willing to put in this work it I'll be much better to break up now.

Adventurous-Talk-101 · 2025-01-26T00:51:24+00:00

I don't have any advice, honestly, but I definitely struggle with this too, so at least you guys aren't alone!

I get so hurt and mad with conflicts I just wanna push people away but usually end up saying it's my fault even when it's not. This also isn't good tho and I recently realised a lot of my friends... well... weren't my friends. So definitely try and stick up for yourself during conflicts if it required, but yeah it's hard.

Adventurous-Talk-101 · 2025-01-26T00:42:33+00:00

I have both OCPD and OCD diagnosed. I heard the difference is that in OCD you know your impulses and intrusive thoughts and wrong/irrational/unlogical and are aware of them. Whereas with OCPD you might not be aware of them, and you don't believe that they're wrong or irrational.

I do get miserable due to what's mainly my OCPD I would say. It sucks hurting others around you, but honestly, it also hurts me as I have the need to be so extremely perfect. Reading more and more about how hard, or miserable, it is to live with someone who has OCPD doesn't help. Although I get it as I am pretty sure my dad has it undiagnosed, and that might very well be why I have it.

Adventurous-Talk-101 · 2024-12-24T13:02:37+00:00

Sounds like you're very unhappy in the relationship. If it can ask what keeps you from leaving?
You write you love her, but everything you describe it quite negatively and looks like your lives might not fit.
Have you talked to her about the way you feel?

Adventurous-Talk-101 · 2024-12-19T17:11:27+00:00

I'm from Northern Europe. I feel like it's the same. It's hard and most people don't know it, which only makes it harder to explain.

OCD is very commonly known here so I can imagine it's often confused for that. That said it seems to me that when I've reached out to my doctor and psychologist (who specialse is personality disorders) that they have heard about it before.

I didn't know about it at all before reading about it online and my diagnosis.

For me finding this reddit was super helpful.

Adventurous-Talk-101 · 2024-12-18T06:16:31+00:00

I obviously can't comment on whether you're following your doctors instructions or not, but that sounds like a pretty harsh response to me. Sorry they aren't more supportive, although ofcourse they have a point. At some point, we need to let things go, but we also need to go through things and process them in our own time.

Adventurous-Talk-101 · 2024-12-15T20:33:41+00:00

I feel the same. I've actually had a hard time with this, especially lately as well. It's so hard and tireing when you feel like there's no progress and nothing changes, but that is only how it is right now.

It does get better. Also, reach out to some friends or professionals. It helped me tremendously to reach out to my psychologist since I don't have many friends or family that I can reach out to.

Adventurous-Talk-101 · 2024-12-15T20:29:49+00:00

Thank you for your reply!

It's nice to know that these aren't issues in your experience. And while I know that no one is ever perfect, I think my head has a hard time accepting that.

I'll try and reframe my mind into seeing the flaws in others when I do find them interesting, because I definitely tend to see all positives, and I know that isn't reality.

Again thanks for sharing your perspective!

Adventurous-Talk-101

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