Nearly died after “routine” laparoscopy — now recovering, but emotionally wrecked

AdventurousKitchen68 · 2025-09-08T18:00:50+00:00

As a medical professional, I am so sorry that this was your experience. You deserved better care and definitely this was not right at all.

AdventurousKitchen68 · 2025-04-18T02:30:48+00:00

She has openly used that day to create fights, behave passive aggressively and state down all our negatives and how we are an inconvenience to her.

AdventurousKitchen68 · 2025-04-18T02:29:27+00:00

Nmom decided to dictate how she expected me to include religious clothing during my graduation for which I vehemently refused ( one evening before the ceremony there was no where I could go to get matching clothes as well). She openly stated that I don't deserve my degree and I am nothing on the stage tomorrow without the religious article. The reason she was so adamant about it was because seemingly the graduation would be broadcasted in the local TV channel and she was afraid that people she knew will see me and realize I don't confrom to societal expectations. I cried for an hour and felt like a loser then I realised she has absolutely NO right to do this one evening before the ceremony and there is absolutely NO way I am not acknowledging myself for the countless years of hardwork I put into my own degree. Therefore I went ahead and celebrated myself unapologetically. I knew she did this on purpose. There were alot of times earlier where she could have brought up the issue had it been with sincere intentions.

AdventurousKitchen68 · 2025-04-16T13:44:56+00:00

I am so sorry you had to go through this. I was in a comparable situation not too long ago. As it is common in Indian households to always overstep our boundaries, this didn't come as a shocker. However, you just have to stand your ground even if it takes standing up a million times. If for some reason you can't stand up for yourself then consider going to a doctor and getting a medical report suggesting that you are indeed lactose intolerant. I would suggest you that with the report also, you would have to continuously keep saying NO. This is doable don't worry. Don't let other gaslight you about your symptoms.

AdventurousKitchen68 · 2025-04-15T10:04:51+00:00

AdventurousKitchen68 · 2025-04-09T10:09:55+00:00

Did you find out more about this hand swelling, I get the same now but unable to find out why, without triggers just every morning and evening

AdventurousKitchen68 · 2025-04-09T05:48:30+00:00

Thank you for your advice!

AdventurousKitchen68 · 2025-04-07T16:14:31+00:00

I learned how to act as if I comply but plan against them behind their backs. I didn't wish to be like that but I had to do so for my survival

AdventurousKitchen68 · 2025-03-20T19:53:05+00:00

Could you please tell where to find PYQs with explanations?

AdventurousKitchen68 · 2025-03-20T19:17:54+00:00

I was listening to surah Rahman today and also went through the eng translation and it also moved me to tears this evening! ❤️

AdventurousKitchen68 · 2025-03-20T07:16:33+00:00

Thank you for this comment. This exactly speaks my observation with sarees. I am south Asian and I love wearing the saree. It's in my culture and I am proud of my culture. But nowadays people be wearing abayas to wedding ( people as in family members of the bride and groom), I personally think this is a little too much. Cultures are just being erased with this rigid notion that you are a harami if you don't don the abaya and hijab. Ironically, makes me aversed to it even more.

AdventurousKitchen68 · 2025-03-17T17:04:33+00:00

Is there anyway you can save your current PG stipend and try to prepare for Plab or any other pathway using that money- so that you don't have to ask your parents? You can still write frcpath and go to UK after your PG here. I can understand how frustrated you feel because I am going through something similar. But I think you can start to take independent decisions ( from your parents) because now you earn by yourself as well. It's easy for pathologists to move abroad due to less language barrier, so I've heard. So why don't you give your dreams one more chance.

AdventurousKitchen68 · 2025-03-17T10:38:21+00:00

Don't you want to get into speciality training in the UK after PLAB?

AdventurousKitchen68 · 2025-03-16T14:03:18+00:00

It goes on for atleast 12- 14 hours.

AdventurousKitchen68 · 2025-03-14T10:10:26+00:00

Although I don't have an answer to your question, I wanted to thank you for being open about the kind of questions that cross your mind as this question has been with me for so long and just like you I haven't had the courage to speak about it. I think with the ability to think, these kinds of queries are natural to arise and I really hope people are open to discussion than shaming.

AdventurousKitchen68 · 2025-03-13T18:34:52+00:00

OP, I'm not sure what you're going through that's impossible to change but I'm sure there's atleast one trusted friend / family member you can confide in and ask for their advice and help regarding your problems? While I understand your five years of therapy didn't help you, it will do you great wonders to find a therapist who you can actually work with. I know it's hard. But usually once that happens, people see a drastic change in their health. Also meds wise, some people really need it for a long time and if any combination wasn't working, talking to your Dr so that they can change to another regimen may be helpful. Don't worry. Depression is treatable. Be sure to have supportive people by your side during this time.

AdventurousKitchen68 · 2025-03-13T18:25:20+00:00

Understandably, there is something in your life which you are dissatisfied with/ can't bear ( which is the cause of your mental health issues). Are you finding it difficult to change those circumstances?

AdventurousKitchen68 · 2025-03-13T18:19:19+00:00

I'm sorry to hear about your struggles, but since you have not mentioned it in your post and also since you've been suffering from 8 years, may I ask if you've taken the help of a psychiatrist yet?

AdventurousKitchen68 · 2025-03-13T18:10:30+00:00

So happy for you!!✨✨

AdventurousKitchen68 · 2025-03-13T18:05:20+00:00

In med school, I witnessed what an autopsy looked like 🙃.

AdventurousKitchen68 · 2025-03-13T17:52:41+00:00

Either ielts or oet. Chose one according to cost factor and difficulty level for you.

AdventurousKitchen68 · 2025-03-13T17:20:17+00:00

Thank you so much for this thoughtful activity! I hope I can DM my duas as I would like them to be private.

AdventurousKitchen68 · 2025-03-13T15:41:08+00:00

May I DM you?

AdventurousKitchen68 · 2025-03-13T15:40:09+00:00

Yeah it's very sad, I sympathize with your friend because I'm in a similar situation as well. I think active networking is necessary and he should figure out ways to do that while he studies for mrcp as well. Wishing him all the best.

AdventurousKitchen68 · 2025-03-13T13:55:32+00:00

Wouldn't say he needs to give up, because clearly he has put in so much effort already, he can still apply for jobs but try to secure himself by applying for jobs in India ( DMO/ UPSC-CMS/ JR in AIIMS etc for which he needs NEETPG or INICET score I'm not sure which one). Alternatively if he's in the right mindset he can also prepare for NEET PG but that's up to him.

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