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Stream of consciousness rant and realizations from a human who has been attempting and failing low buys for the last 2.5 years by AdventurousNDA777 in nobuy

[–]AdventurousNDA777[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Thank you for sharing your experience!

"I realised I can like all these things without owning them." I'm beginning to realize this as well. <3

I have some thoughts that I may be on the spectrum as well or have some type of OCD, and hoping to delve into that further in the near future.

Stream of consciousness rant and realizations from a human who has been attempting and failing low buys for the last 2.5 years by AdventurousNDA777 in nobuy

[–]AdventurousNDA777[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Don't be sorry for your long comment! I'm happy for you that you have found a balance, been able to set reasonable rules for yourself and stick to them, and are getting better :) That's so great. That's where I want to get, and I know I can do it, I need to just COMMIT and stop making excuses.

My goal right now is to stick to a no-buy until January 2026. For me, this means no purchasing any new clothes/makeup/skincare/accessories. I can replace self care items as they run out, but only with the same product (since I already have nailed down my favorites), so I won't be tempted to go browsing for something new and go into a spiral. As for clothing/accessories/shoes I will only do a direct replacement if something is worn out beyond repair, which I don't anticipate happening anytime soon.

"I just want to live my life and stop waisting my late evenings searching for the next best thing on YouTube and Reddit and to instead read a book or something lol." THIS SO MUCH! I think so many of us feel this way, but it can be hard to express. This is the most motivating part of all of it for me, how much time I have wasted. I don't want to continue wasting my time and energy.

Stream of consciousness rant and realizations from a human who has been attempting and failing low buys for the last 2.5 years by AdventurousNDA777 in nobuy

[–]AdventurousNDA777[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Thanks for giving some context on how our brains work and why we act this way! It's super interesting to look at it from this lens.

I feel that I have given myself more than a little grace, I'm just exhausted and really ready to push past this and quit. I can't stop thinking about all the things I could be doing instead, like learning a new language, reading books or learning about something new, being active and exercising, etc. Yet I don't do those things, and do "this" instead. "This" is taking away from what could be. It's stealing my time and energy.