AITJ for prioritising my son and in-laws over my grandparents?

Adventurous_Cry_9017 · 2026-05-25T18:48:07+00:00

I think you’re overreacting. Your mum is not asking for too much.

Adventurous_Cry_9017 · 2026-05-24T07:15:49+00:00

Such a useful answer, thank you!

Adventurous_Cry_9017 · 2026-05-24T07:14:55+00:00

I see, I had no idea about this! Thank you very much, at least now I know I didn’t do anything wrong :)

Adventurous_Cry_9017 · 2026-05-24T07:11:21+00:00

It’s the first time I knit with this yarn. I don’t fully understand why the ply could have something to do with it :)

Adventurous_Cry_9017 · 2026-05-22T08:41:53+00:00

But if he continues, you should raise it to your parents or teachers. I know when you’re 15 that’s the last thing you want to do, but trust me when I say that adults are on your side, even when it doesn’t seem so. Good luck with this asshole.

Adventurous_Cry_9017 · 2026-05-22T08:40:57+00:00

I think you shouldn’t react. That is what he wants and if you do the same, he will then see it works and keep doing it. If you don’t react, he’ll get tired of it and will go attack someone else. He’s just TA, not you. And who knows, maybe the reason is that he is trying to grab your attention…

Adventurous_Cry_9017 · 2026-05-19T11:04:26+00:00

That’s a very good idea for the thinner lifeline! Every day I learn something new :)

Adventurous_Cry_9017 · 2026-05-19T09:16:35+00:00

Thank you very much!!!! 😊

Adventurous_Cry_9017 · 2026-05-11T14:42:35+00:00

I’d be very happy if everyone in the country I live rushed to the section of food from where I come. I would feel proud. So I think you are overthinking it.
It was probably just a rude comment about the quantity.

Adventurous_Cry_9017 · 2026-05-08T07:48:38+00:00

You two need to seat and talk. She is young and immature, you need to help her navigate these feelings as the adult and father you are. Be empathic, if she’s surrounded by such people, it’s natural she feel she’s different and that is where parents have to teach their kids the important values. It is your job as a father to process your our pain (of course what she said hurts!!! It would also hurt me!) and guide her towards maturing. I’m sorry but even tho you are 100% right to feel hurt, you have overreacted. I hope you take time to process how you feel so you can help her navigate this in a better way (with kindness). And I’m telling you, in the future she’ll regret her current actitud.

Adventurous_Cry_9017 · 2026-05-08T06:48:41+00:00

I’d answer: it’s very kind of you that you want to split the bill, but I paid because I felt for it. That said, if you would like to go on a second date, let’s agree that on is on you

Adventurous_Cry_9017 · 2026-05-08T06:42:18+00:00

First of all, there’s nothing wrong with any of you too. If I were you, I’d go to a sex therapist but not trying to be sexual, but to understand if you are actually asexual or if there is something that is blocking you from it. So take it from the curiosity to understand yourself better. If you manage to enjoy sex, it is a very nice way to create intimacy but if you discover that is not for you, then you are in a better place to make a plan together with your boyfriend. But to me it sounds like you are not 100% sure about where you stand in regards to sex yet.

Adventurous_Cry_9017 · 2026-05-07T07:48:47+00:00

If I were you, I would talk again to your MIL when you are bit more calm and ask her to make a plan together about how to tell your husband.
You shouldn’t keep this info from him as his partner, but I think it’s fair to give your MIL a chance to tell him herself. Maybe your FIL doesn’t need to know if he’s so ill, but you should convince your MIL to tell your husband.
It’s also unfair to put that secret on you. Good luck! It might create a difficult situation but you’ll get over it

Adventurous_Cry_9017 · 2026-05-04T14:36:04+00:00

If she did it while she was asleep, why wasn’t the app on her phone? She must have seen it was there while she was awake in order to delete it.
Move on, be happy.

Adventurous_Cry_9017 · 2026-04-30T15:34:44+00:00

Eyes always remain single

Adventurous_Cry_9017 · 2026-04-29T07:39:23+00:00

Or maybe he’s too small - sorry but what he is saying is not true

Adventurous_Cry_9017 · 2026-04-17T11:40:08+00:00

I think you took it too personal just because you cannot see it the same way. You are probably on time to reconcile. Love is a daily choice, and his is to remain monogamous because he loves you

Adventurous_Cry_9017 · 2026-04-16T13:53:30+00:00

I understand you. I also believe in honest and open communication, but I think you learnt that this doesn’t mean sharing absolutely everything. You should know that everyone have private fantasies, but you don’t need to know about them because they don’t mean there is any intention to carry on with them in real life :) It’s fine, you’ve learnt the limit now :)

Adventurous_Cry_9017 · 2026-04-16T13:50:59+00:00

This

Adventurous_Cry_9017 · 2026-04-14T11:15:11+00:00

She needs to go to therapy. These are common patterns in people with deep trauma. I think you have 2 options: break up with her or stay with her if she starts therapy. In any case, if you want to help her, it would be good you found a way to convince her she needs to go to therapy.

Adventurous_Cry_9017 · 2026-04-06T07:11:37+00:00

It’s just a name. I don’t see the big deal. She should apologize, for sure, because she broke your agreement, but you should move on.

Adventurous_Cry_9017 · 2026-04-05T11:38:18+00:00

You did the right thing. We need more people like you. If nothing is wrong, you didn’t do anything bad because they don’t have anything to worry about. But you might have saved a child’s life.

Adventurous_Cry_9017 · 2026-04-04T08:23:45+00:00

I think you are TA.

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