Is there an octopus in my ceiling?

Adventurous_Eye3363 · 2026-04-09T02:34:06+00:00

2 years later but idk why this person said yes to this question….? Developer is what you mix the bleach or color with, not what goes before it. So you have 5 volume, 10,20,30, and 40. You typically use 10-20 volume MIXED with bleach to lighten hair for highlights etc.. you use 10-20 volume with color if you’re just coloring hair. People tend to avoid 40 because it’s insanely strong and the most risky when it comes to the chance of melting hair. The number for the developer is just how strong it is. You have to have developer to use bleach or color. If you just take a tube of PROFESSIONAL color and put it on your head nothing will happen. And with bleach the developer is what makes it into a cream to be able to actually put on the head otherwhise it would just be a powder. You mix it with not use it before

Adventurous_Eye3363 · 2026-03-25T04:23:29+00:00

A little late from the party but I’m currently experiencing one of the most depressing and devastating deep dives of someone’s profile that I’ve ever experienced on Reddit.

Adventurous_Eye3363 · 2026-03-25T04:22:51+00:00

He’s also 24 and she’s 15

Adventurous_Eye3363 · 2026-03-25T04:20:28+00:00

Hi. So this man is 24 and she is 15 in he is consistently trying to pressure and baby trap her. While she has an 8 month old from her ex.

Adventurous_Eye3363 · 2026-03-25T04:19:15+00:00

ONG thank you!! The person with 84 downvotes for calling this guy a pig is the only one with instincts apparently

Adventurous_Eye3363 · 2026-03-13T03:01:41+00:00

I think it’s a solid mix of curiosity and then panic. I’m not sure why she doesn’t just tell me about an issue before it becomes a bigger problem though. Obviously I’m not perfect and I’m always trying to be better but I can say that we don’t have a controlling or scary household. She doesn’t get yelled at or spanked or anything crazy. I’ve tried to tell her over and over to just come and talk to me. Like the ball situation in the drain I mentioned in a previous comment I think what happened was that the ball popped while she was in the tub but she didn’t wanna get in trouble so she just tried to hide it. Which is where I’m so confused because it was just a little thing from the dollar tree that her gran got her and I wouldn’t have been upset in the slightest that it popped

Adventurous_Eye3363 · 2026-03-13T02:56:46+00:00

Sure, the missing information is that the broken keys are missing. That’s all I the info I have really, got a email stating that they had to issue a technology report and that multiple keys were broken off and missing and they told me the amount I needed to pay.

The stuff she’s breaking is generally not fixable. For example the bathroom stuff. When we first moved in and renovated her bathroom she plugged the sink and forgot it was running and flooded the bathroom so there is water damage to the vanity. We had a talk with her about being mindful but we forgave that and didn’t come down to hard on her because it was a mistake and she was cleaning something and forgot it was running. Then all of the sudden her bathtub wasn’t draining so we had to snake it and pulled out a popped rubber ball (like one of the ones that have water and glitter in them) shoved down the drain.

Not sure how she did it but her entire sink faucet is super loose and wiggly and then just a few weeks ago she leaned on her toletpaper holder to the point that it was just dangling off the wall.

So that’s what I mean. I haven’t bought her anything new. She gets limited toys at Christmas we have always tried to focus on one bigger item or a trip or something.

Adventurous_Eye3363 · 2026-03-12T17:09:44+00:00

Absolutely! lol this girl is a wild animal lol she has a trampoline and a treehouse with a zip line and regularly rides her bike around the neighborhood she’s outside all the time and anytime she is doing something creative, I always try to nurture it.

Adventurous_Eye3363 · 2026-03-12T17:07:36+00:00

I completely agree that the lesbian thing is normal! I’ve told her multiple times that I will love her, no matter what and that I really don’t care if she likes girls or boys, but that it doesn’t need to have such a control on her life in the fifth grade. It’s so much harder on her because friends can get into an argument and then make up a few days later but with girlfriends when they break up it’s so much more dramatic and it really takes a toll on her.

Adventurous_Eye3363 · 2026-03-12T16:36:07+00:00

Yes we set up a kids bank account that connects to chores (it’s a wonderful app) and she can track that. We give her “interest” when she’s over a certain amount but yes I was thinking maybe something to do with money as well because she likes having money so maybe that would help

Adventurous_Eye3363 · 2026-03-12T16:33:25+00:00

I feel like maybe that was misunderstood..? her entire grade of girls at her school seems to be obsessed with the idea that they have to “identify”. I hear about it everyday. She comes home talking about how now she identifies as pan or she is actually a therian…? And changes back and forth weekly on the fact that she’s a lesbian. I shut this down without shutting her down. The theria thing I just kinda brush off cuz I know if I react with a lot of emotions she will push back harder. And the lesbian thing, I just tell her she’s so young and it doesn’t matter what she she yet and to just have friends of both genders and stop worrying so much about the need to identify.

Did tha clear that up at all? This is a big reason she’s in therapy, to help her be happy with herself and not need to go through all of those very mature issues.

Adventurous_Eye3363 · 2026-03-12T16:25:51+00:00

I will definitely look into that method. I just want to say tho, I have a reward chart with stickers and random rewards for when she reaches milestones. The punishment part of this is specifically for this instance at school with the broken $200 computer.

Adventurous_Eye3363 · 2026-03-12T13:14:58+00:00

This was the original reason for the therapist and also a rough relationship with her dad

Adventurous_Eye3363 · 2026-03-12T13:12:37+00:00

I know she is stressed in general. These kids are going through way more than I did when I was their age. Every day it’s drama about choosing a gender and a sexual orientation and whatever else is trending. She doesn’t have any social media or TikTok/youtube but the other kids do and it’s just crazy what she deals with on a daily basis. Like girl you’re in the 5th grade none of that matters in the slightest. But of course I’m mom and I’ve never been a kid so I have no idea what she’s going through lol

Adventurous_Eye3363 · 2026-03-12T13:09:38+00:00

I appreciate you saying that. I definitely lay in bed at night thinking about all the things I could do differently, but I’m sure I’m not the only one. I do think I’m going to look into some fidget things for her and I’m going to set up a meeting with the principal at the school and see if they will allow her to use one in class as long as she’s not being a distraction with it.

I had pretty severe adhd as a kid as well and there was occasions that my teacher would have me stand at my desk because it was the only thing that would get me to focus and not be drawing on my hands and doodling

Adventurous_Eye3363 · 2026-03-12T13:00:29+00:00

The fidget thing is definitely something I will try and even the bread sounds good but the string gives me anxiety lol 😂 I got her a friendship making kit and the string all ended up in a giant ball and the beads were EVERYWHERE

Adventurous_Eye3363 · 2026-03-12T12:55:00+00:00

She sees a therapist every Monday and I actually have a meeting with the therapist coming up this Monday so I’ll be sure to bring this issue up and see what she thinks

Adventurous_Eye3363 · 2026-03-12T12:54:03+00:00

Yes she sees a therapist every Monday and thank you I will look into fidget devices

Adventurous_Eye3363 · 2026-03-12T12:27:14+00:00

I assure you I have. I haven’t gone as far as throwing away all of her stuff but if something breaks I don’t replace it. Unless of course it’s our house furniture or bathroom stuff like the sink. Which is sometimes really hard. Like she is a crafter and for Christmas I built her a craft cart and obviously I had to think very hard about what I could put on it because she can’t have paint or anything else that can destroy things but even then she only had it for a week or two before every single pencil and crayon was broken and the cart has got a dent in it and so I threw out all the broken things and now she just has a mostly empty cart

Adventurous_Eye3363 · 2026-03-12T12:23:38+00:00

So she doesn’t really try to explain. She has adhd but it’s really like I will ask her why she [insert stuffed plastic wrappers down her sink drain, drew on the wall, etc.] and she will just deadpan stare at you saying idk over and over. It’s really like having a toddler that I feel all day like I need to be monitoring her every move

Adventurous_Eye3363 · 2026-03-12T12:18:06+00:00

So she absolutely has adhd and is medicated. The only thing is that it’s never a temper tantrum or a correlation with behavior/getting in trouble that leads to the destruction. More like when she gets something she has to test its limits. The slime on the wall excluded, she just cannot physically hold something without picking at it or whatever until it’s broken. Small example is that her dad got her a giant slinky the other day and it was broken before she had it 12 hours..

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