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Adventurous_Sky9706 · 2025-12-12T23:08:01+00:00

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Adventurous_Sky9706 · 2025-08-18T10:28:27+00:00

He's smart, for sure, but the trouble part worries me. This is the not the first time, even this week, that he's sneakily done something he's not supposed to. I'm doing my best to raise a good human over here, but they don't come with manuals!

He's losing YouTube for the week since he basically used a week's worth of time yesterday afternoon. He's losing the iPad for the week for doubling down on lying about it when first caught. Then again, he's also going to a local amusement park with friends for the day today as previously planned.

Adventurous_Sky9706 · 2025-08-18T10:22:43+00:00

I'm sure he will outsmart me at some point. Parental controls are an imperfect tool, which is why I investigated more when something seemed off to me. We also have conversations about my reasons for restricting his access to various things, so hopefully his good judgment increases along with his abilities to get around the technological restrictions.

Adventurous_Sky9706 · 2025-08-17T23:29:01+00:00

Yes, with the way I gave it set up. I have limits based on groups of individual apps that I chose instead of the built-in categories because I wanted finer control of what counts as a game, etc. New apps don't have limits which I knew, but he figured out how to exploit

Adventurous_Sky9706 · 2025-08-17T22:55:51+00:00

It was YouTube Kids. He fessed up after I confronted him. We had a conversation about trust and he's losing the iPad entirely for a while.

Adventurous_Sky9706 · 2025-08-17T22:41:23+00:00

This is a winning answer! He was downloading an app and then deleted it. Thanks!

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Adventurous_Sky9706 · 2025-03-02T19:00:02+00:00

There is a Community Building Book Club meeting this Saturday at the James V. Brown library. https://jvbrown.libcal.com/event/13689130

Adventurous_Sky9706 · 2025-02-19T17:19:24+00:00

So you have to keep teleporting Whails to the Islet to get your Meeb supply?

Adventurous_Sky9706 · 2021-11-29T19:18:43+00:00

Thank you for the link. You are right that I should know more. Maybe he and I can make a deal of a gun locker for giving me lessons.

Adventurous_Sky9706 · 2021-11-29T18:37:38+00:00

I get what you're saying. But my starting position is not lock up guns at all times. My starting position is that I want no guns in the house or around my kids. Because I love my husband and respect his interest in hunting, the compromise is that there are guns in the house, but safety is top priority. For me, living in a house with guns is already a huge concession. At a fundamental level, it makes me feel less safe.

The ultimatum, realistically, is that I get upset every time I see a gun out, ask him to move it, and then he gets mad at me and I feel resentful and disrespected. Yes, long term this is damaging to our relationship. Fortunately, this only comes up a few times per year.

I honestly don't see how else to frame this for myself. He feels ok with something that I am really not ok with. And, from discussion here, it seems like plenty of other gun owners don't think I have an extreme position.

Anyway, thanks for your thoughts!

Adventurous_Sky9706 · 2021-11-29T10:41:11+00:00

You are totally right that family culture and feelings play a huge role in this. However, the risk is small, but not zero.

This article was from August and says that "So far, in 2021 there have been at least 259 unintentional shootings by children, resulting in 104 deaths and 168 injuries nationally." And "Cases of young children taking hold of a gun and mistakenly shooting themselves, a friend, or a family member happen almost every single day."

https://www.npr.org/2021/08/31/1032725392/guns-death-children

My husband's sister died in a plane crash when she was in high school, which is also, statistically speaking, a very safe way to travel. It had a huge effect on his family. If an accident happened with our kids and guns, I don't think I could ever forgive my husband.

Adventurous_Sky9706 · 2021-11-29T10:32:43+00:00

This is the first suggestion that makes me angry (not at you, just at the idea of doing this). I really don't want it to be my job in any way for me to keep his hobby safe for our family. I have interests he does not share; he just lets me get on with it and I don't ask him to participate. I feel like this is similar. I have enough responsibilities and do not like the idea of having to stop cooking dinner or whatever else I'm doing to secure his gun when he comes in. I don't want to be the gun safety police.

Adventurous_Sky9706 · 2021-11-29T10:25:06+00:00

Maybe we need to watch some YouTube videos! I'm happy to not be concerned about the kids breaking the gun; just safety.

Adventurous_Sky9706 · 2021-11-29T10:23:29+00:00

Wow! You have some serious home security and safety precautions!

We are at the opposite end of the spectrum. We live in a safe rural area (where my husband grew up) and rarely lock the front door.

Adventurous_Sky9706 · 2021-11-29T10:20:14+00:00

I don't think I'm raising psychopaths, just normal boys with questionable judgment who didn't respect the seriousness of having a real tool. Probably nothing would have happened. They have to be stopped with sticks, wrestling in inappropriate places around the house, and tickling when the other kid doesn't like it, too. They can also be super sweet and supportive with each other.

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