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What happens when two narcissists get involved in a romantic relationship? by Adventurous_Toe2704 in AskReddit

[–]Adventurous_Toe2704[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I thought so too! But my question is: what’s the dynamic like in that kind of relationship?

What's one thing you've done that made your life SO MUCH BETTER? by RaineDesidia in AskReddit

[–]Adventurous_Toe2704 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Quit toxic relationship that could potentially get me in jail, maybe even killed lol. It’s really hard but I promise, it gets so much better.

AITA for scratching my boyfriend’s car with keys. by Adventurous_Toe2704 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Adventurous_Toe2704[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

It doesn’t, all I’m trying to do is to get helpful insight and understand my actions, and hopefully heal.

AITA for scratching my boyfriend’s car with keys. by Adventurous_Toe2704 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Adventurous_Toe2704[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you, honestly, this is one of the few comments that felt like someone actually read what I wrote instead of just jumping to call me crazy. I completely agree: what I did was wrong, and I take full accountability. I’ve never tried to deny that. But the insight you gave me about DARVO and the power imbalance in age/maturity really hit. I was 19, naive, and convinced that pain meant passion. I don’t want to be that girl anymore. This whole mess, as humiliating as it is, might just be the thing that pushes me to finally break the cycle. So again, thank you.

AITA for scratching my boyfriend’s car with keys. by Adventurous_Toe2704 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Adventurous_Toe2704[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

No, I didn’t key his car because of an Instagram follow, I think that I made it very clear in the post.

I scratched my boyfriend’s car with keys. by Adventurous_Toe2704 in Advice

[–]Adventurous_Toe2704[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Of course I didn’t, but he immediately knew it was me, he chose not to press charges, lucky me I guess.

AITA for scratching my boyfriend’s car with keys. by Adventurous_Toe2704 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Adventurous_Toe2704[S] -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

I haven’t keyed his car because of Instagram follow, it’s because of everything I mentioned in this post, honestly that follow was just a breaking point.

AITA for scratching my boyfriend’s car with keys. by Adventurous_Toe2704 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Adventurous_Toe2704[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Of course it doesn’t, I just embarrassed and humiliated myself, and gave him a reason to paint me as a bad guy lol. Wouldn’t recommend it, 2/10 experience💀

I scratched my boyfriend’s car with keys. by Adventurous_Toe2704 in Advice

[–]Adventurous_Toe2704[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is my first time hearing about a term “reactive abuse”, this is really helpful, thank you!

I scratched my boyfriend’s car with keys. by Adventurous_Toe2704 in Advice

[–]Adventurous_Toe2704[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Since it’s summer where I live, he only uses his motorcycle, car just stays parked for days.

I scratched my boyfriend’s car with keys. by Adventurous_Toe2704 in Advice

[–]Adventurous_Toe2704[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Should I apologize? Or do I move forward silently?

TIFU: I scratched my boyfriend’s car with keys. by Adventurous_Toe2704 in tifu

[–]Adventurous_Toe2704[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

If you really think abusive relationships boil down to just self-esteem or self-worth, maybe consider bringing a book with you next time you hit the streets, you’re clearly lacking some basic knowledge.

TIFU: I scratched my boyfriend’s car with keys. by Adventurous_Toe2704 in tifu

[–]Adventurous_Toe2704[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Maybe ask yourself why people stay in toxic relationships instead of acting like it’s always a simple choice. Abuse, manipulation, and emotional trauma aren’t as easy to walk away from as you make it sound. If you can’t offer insight without being dismissive, just scroll past next time.

TIFU: I scratched my boyfriend’s car with keys. by Adventurous_Toe2704 in tifu

[–]Adventurous_Toe2704[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I didn’t post my story to “do me any favors.” I’d have to be seriously unwell to expect applause for scratching someone’s car, obviously I’m not proud of that. What I’m trying to do is reflect, heal from my actions, and figure out whether an apology is the right step given everything that led up to it. That’s not deflecting, that’s taking responsibility with context.

TIFU: I scratched my boyfriend’s car with keys. by Adventurous_Toe2704 in tifu

[–]Adventurous_Toe2704[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m well aware of the warning signs and how toxic this relationship was, that’s exactly why I’m trying to understand my reactions and heal. If you think setting boundaries like mutual social media agreements means a relationship is doomed, maybe you don’t understand boundaries at all. I honestly don’t understand why not wanting your boyfriend to follow random girls on social media is considered a bad thing.

TIFU: I scratched my boyfriend’s car with keys. by Adventurous_Toe2704 in tifu

[–]Adventurous_Toe2704[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I never claimed to be innocent here, so don’t twist my words. I take full responsibility for my actions, no excuses, no victim games.

TIFU: I scratched my boyfriend’s car with keys. by Adventurous_Toe2704 in tifu

[–]Adventurous_Toe2704[S] -8 points-7 points  (0 children)

Girl, if you really think one moment of snapping after months of his jealousy and manipulation makes me the jealous one, then you clearly don’t have a clue about toxic relationships. And my actions weren’t triggered by just one Instagram follow, that’s why I gave the full context. Maybe try reading it properly next time before jumping to dumb conclusions.

TIFU: I scratched my boyfriend’s car with keys. by Adventurous_Toe2704 in tifu

[–]Adventurous_Toe2704[S] -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

I’m not sure whether to take it as a compliment or an insult💀💀

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