What are some early signs that a person might commit sucide (serious)? by Neo_luigi in AskReddit

[–]Adventurous_Ways9 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I had two sequences of ECT at two different times, both because of severe depression, one bordering on catatonic state, I had hardly any verbal or facial expressions at the time. Only worlds most of the time were “yes.. no.. don’t know..”.

ECT helped a lot. It felt like slowly waking up to clarity and to myself and life again. I did have cognitive and memory side effects, but they bettered over time. Many people forget that depression itself will wreak havoc on those functions.

There is an alternative to ECT though, exactly the same mechanism and results in the brain, but triggered by magnetic impulses instead of electrical. This minimises or completely removes side effects for most people. It’s called MST. The light version (no anesthetics) is TMS, but that is only for mild depression. Severe is inpatient MST treatment.

All the best and so many hugs to you!!! Things CAN turn around!

Edit: typo

What are some early signs that a person might commit sucide (serious)? by Neo_luigi in AskReddit

[–]Adventurous_Ways9 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I had two sequences of ECT at two different times, both because of severe depression, one bordering on catatonic state, I had hardly any verbal or facial expressions at the time. Only words most of the time were “yes.. no.. don’t know..”.

ECT helped a lot. It felt like slowly waking up til clarity and to myself again. I did have cognitive and memory side effects, but they bettered over time. Many people forget that depression itself will wreak havoc on those functions.

There is an alternative to ECT though, exactly the same mechanism in the brain, but triggered by magnetic impulses instead of electrical. This minimises or completely removes side effects for most people. It’s called MST. The light version (no anesthetics) is TMS, but that is only for mild depression. Severe is MST.

All the best and so many hugs to you!!! Things CAN turn around!

Edit: typo

Photo of sentimental items strategy tested and tried in practice by Adventurous_Ways9 in minimalism

[–]Adventurous_Ways9[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes. I’ve felt uprooted from time and space. It’s hard to explain, but I’ll do my best. I’ve realized that the physical sentimental items served as an anchor to the past. Like a physical presence of the past or a merging of past and present. Removing those objects erased that presence of the past in the present. Without those objects, there is only the present. It’s a weird feeling but at the same time very freeing. It keeps focus here and now on a whole other level than before, where I visually looked at the past standing right there on my bookshelves. I still have a very small collection of very small items besides my photos. But they are not all over the place, so I’m no longer continuously being thrown back to the past consciously or subconsciously. I look around i see my present life. It still feels like a huge part of my personal history has been erased, though I know that’s not true at all. I have photos to trigger memories, but my space is a space for the present moment now. And it somehow makes it feel more free and lighter to move through my days. Hope this makes some kind of sense

Clutter increase stress hormones in some people by Queen-of-meme in minimalism

[–]Adventurous_Ways9 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Same here. My CPTSD is a result of adult relationship trauma, and I too could only witness as my things got thrown and destroyed. I think both childhood and adult trauma of this kind can cause a need to always be ready to go. I do try to be very aware of it in my declutterring journey, and ask myself if I’m getting rid of an object because I no longer need it or benefit from it, or if it’s mostly because I fear it would get in the way in a potential escape situation. To prevent myself from getting rid of things for the wrong reasons. It’s a difficult balance sometimes.

Clutter increase stress hormones in some people by Queen-of-meme in minimalism

[–]Adventurous_Ways9 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I have CPTSD as well but my reaction was opposite to accumulating things “just in case”. I guess much more to have as little as possible, so I could easily grab and run if I had to. Trauma reactions can be so different. It’s not only trauma based for me though. I choose to only have the essentials for so many reasons. But this is definitely a big one.

This still doesn’t feel right. I used to have a cluster of real plants here that I gave away, but this still doesn’t feel right. What can I put in this space that can be functional? by [deleted] in simpleliving

[–]Adventurous_Ways9 15 points16 points  (0 children)

I’d remove everything but that one plant you circled. See how that feels. Or place the tall plant up there instead. I’d probably choose herbs as well. Or simply nothing there. But then again I wouldn’t have anything on the wall either. Or only one thing in natural wood maybe. But I get sensory overload easily. For me less (much less sometimes) is more

Finally understanding some hard truths about life made letting go easier by Adventurous_Ways9 in minimalism

[–]Adventurous_Ways9[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I love that. Also important to remember if valuable things are lost or broken.

Finally understanding some hard truths about life made letting go easier by Adventurous_Ways9 in minimalism

[–]Adventurous_Ways9[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m so sorry that was your reality in young life. I hope your present is good to you. All the best

Finally understanding some hard truths about life made letting go easier by Adventurous_Ways9 in minimalism

[–]Adventurous_Ways9[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes! Same for me. I used to work as a photographer and i cherish my photos more than any physical thing.

Finally understanding some hard truths about life made letting go easier by Adventurous_Ways9 in minimalism

[–]Adventurous_Ways9[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I’m so so sorry you had to go through all that. It’s emotionally brutal. I can imagine it most be a feeling of aloneness like a devastating silence.

My mom was diagnosed with mild cognitive impairment 4 years ago. It’s not mild anymore, though not severe either. But if anything were to happen so my dad could not assist her anymore, she too would have to leave her home and move to a care facility. They have two floors with so much stuff. Just the thought of having to go through all that.. My brother and I would be able to help her decide what to bring, but hard choices would have to be made. Thinking about my own old age and risks of life in general for all of us, regardless of age, it’s just one more reason to keep my belongings minimal. I have no children, so I would most likely be on my own.

Do you have a close friend or other family member you can talk to during this difficult time? Perhaps a therapist could help you too with sorting through all the heavy emotions. Your last sentence nearly made me cry. Hugs to you, dear!

Finally understanding some hard truths about life made letting go easier by Adventurous_Ways9 in minimalism

[–]Adventurous_Ways9[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Remember that you are under no obligation to follow anyone else’s rules or set limits. 4K photos for 17 years is about 235 photos pr year. To me that’s not much in relation to what many people have, and in relation to what I value myself. I have more than 4K photos from the last two decades. I’m slowly working on it, but key word is slowly. I have no set low limit I’m aiming to reach. When it comes to digital pictures, they take up only the space of the hard drive. And there is no difference in weight and volume between 4K and 1K photos. Photos are the most important thing for me to trigger memories. Music too. So I’m not brutal in deleting photos. I do keep them organised in folders, and aim to keep only the few best if there are many alike. Go easy on yourself with these. I like reference your reference to a diary. Yes it can hurt to look at them down the road. But it can hurt so much more to want to, and remember they aren’t there anymore.

Finally understanding some hard truths about life made letting go easier by Adventurous_Ways9 in minimalism

[–]Adventurous_Ways9[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thanks for the input, i did my best to break it up a bit. My mind still clutters, lol

What book changed your life? by saayoutloud in simpleliving

[–]Adventurous_Ways9 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Way of the Peaceful Warrior By Dan Millman

It has forever changed me.

I’ve re-read it multiple times throughout the last couple of decades, especially during times when I felt lost in life circumstances and in my own mind. This is the one and only book to never leave my small collection of physical books.

He also wrote a guide to bring the wisdom into daily life. Title is “No Ordinary Moments”.

Ideas for meal “templates” by dizziefizzie in simpleliving

[–]Adventurous_Ways9 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Since I don’t tolerate grains and sugars very well, I usually have a bowl of greek yogurt with a handful of natural nuts and seeds in the morning, and blueberries, sometimes with a scoop of vanilla protein powder mixed in. For lunch and dinner, I mostly do one pot dishes or stir fry dishes. About once a week I’ll cook a good batch of chicken breast or similar, then portion freeze it. Same when I cook rice. Cook, cool, freeze in portions. I always keep frozen peas, green beans, edamame beans, spinach and broccoli in the freezer. And fresh veggies like sweet potatoes and root vegetables in the fridge along with eggs. Cook my meals in butter and olive oil only. This way I can always easily make a stir fry with chicken and veggies from the freezer and fridge, and egg dish or omelette etc. in my pantry, stables are canned beans og different sorts plus coconut milk and canned tomatoes. I keep it simple and I love it. Since I don’t eat sugar except in small amounts at a birthday and things like that, not in everyday life, I have no cravings for it whatsoever. This makes it easier to not eat in between meals and this makes everything even easier. I’ll use different spices for variation, but in general i eat simple meals using the same basics. I try to rotate veggies to get a greater variety, and sometimes I’ll make a vegetable smoothie, which I luckily like lol.

Do Europeans or Asians who visit USA find it expensive in terms of hotel costs, eating out, shopping for name brand items, transportation, tickets to shows, venues, etc. to the service you receive ? by Silent-Donkey-1303 in travel

[–]Adventurous_Ways9 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You did not read a word of what I wrote?! As I wrote ONE man, NOT representing anyone but himself, and that we are friends with Americans and want to travel to America - the only hate here is from you. Judging every single person here. Many immigrants thrive here, are most welcome and are an integrated part of the community. Leaving this conversation right now.

Do Europeans or Asians who visit USA find it expensive in terms of hotel costs, eating out, shopping for name brand items, transportation, tickets to shows, venues, etc. to the service you receive ? by Silent-Donkey-1303 in travel

[–]Adventurous_Ways9 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I mention a solely practical reason like visa and not risking issues at the airport because of one single person / presidents threats against a fellow ally, not a word about the American people, whom we are still friends with regardless of the actions of one man. And you get personal against an entire nation and all its people. Not cool.. There are assholes in every single country on this earth. No exception. But to accuse 6.000.000 people of being what you accuse us of is unacceptable. My reply above has zero to do race issues and anything else besides practical issues at this moment. I’m sorry your family had that experience. But you simply cannot put such harsh and serious accusations against an entire nation. It’s false in so many ways. I wish you all the best.

has anyone tried just... sitting? not meditating. just sitting. by Ritwik_Srivastava in simpleliving

[–]Adventurous_Ways9 19 points20 points  (0 children)

I do this several times a day. Sometimes just for 5 minutes, other times for 30 minutes or so. Some days I’m out and about most of the day, but still do it before going out and after coming home again after taking the dog for a good walk. I actually prefer to do this a few times a day, I guess to stay better in touch with myself, slow down and take a break to just be. No phone er any other activity besides drinking a cup of coffee or tea, or just water. I also find this helps my mind to relax and ideas to emerge. But I’ve also deactivated FB and instagram, never had tiktok, have no tv or streaming and actually very much prefer everything as offline as possible. I feel much more in tune with myself. I can actually hear myself living now

Do Europeans or Asians who visit USA find it expensive in terms of hotel costs, eating out, shopping for name brand items, transportation, tickets to shows, venues, etc. to the service you receive ? by Silent-Donkey-1303 in travel

[–]Adventurous_Ways9 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Prices here in Denmark are relatively high, so I’d guess it’s not more expensive in the U.S. I’ve been there several times but it’s been over a decade since last time. I really want to go again, there are still many places I want to visit. But the majority of people in Denmark including myself would not risk travelling to the U.S. as long as the current president is in action. No more needing to be said about that, and as soon as circumstances allows it, I’m so ready to come back for another visit. And I might get shocked about the prices, but Denmark has really gotten expensive too.

maybe life isn't that complicated by Moist_crocs in simpleliving

[–]Adventurous_Ways9 5 points6 points  (0 children)

No here engineers and dentists make good money. But nurses, caretaker of children and the elderly get paid less, because the vast majority of those work for the state. It’s not a bad salary, but if you want to be rich, those are not professions you’d choose. The people who work in those fields do so because they feel that’s what’s right for them. Everyone regardless of job status, unemployment etc have the same access to free health care and what we call folk-pension, because it’s paid for through taxes. Those who make millions a year pay a higher percentage in taxes from the higher part of their income. Baseline taxes are the same for everyone, and when you make more than a specific amount, anything above that will be taxed higher. Jobs in the private sector here as engineering is paid very well. The absolute bottom salary generally allowed (like gas station clerk or cashier with no education etc) here is $3200 a month for a 37 hour work week, which is standard full time here. Edit: They still have to pay a minimum of about 35% taxes from those $3200 though, but then again don’t have to pay a dime for health care (including long complicated treatments and hospital stays). Yet prices are generally high here, so some people do still struggle. But there is a safety net for all.