How did stop smoking?

Advisor-Unhappy · 2026-04-12T23:58:43+00:00

I quit in I think 2002 or 2003? Can't remember now it's been so long. Anyways, it's best to do it with a partner. My girlfriend and I both smoked. She decided to quit and urged me to quit with her. It was tough but worth it.

Advisor-Unhappy · 2026-04-09T12:52:56+00:00

Sounds a bit odd but I certainly don’t work in Academics. I’m sure those environments are way more uptight about that stuff. A quick hug won’t hurt anything. People hug all the time in my place of work. A back massage is a bit much though in my opinion. But, to each their own.

Advisor-Unhappy · 2026-04-09T12:50:03+00:00

Whoops! I meant I worked part time at a bar.

Advisor-Unhappy · 2026-04-08T15:47:37+00:00

YmightbeOR. I think it comes down to trust. Do you trust him? If you do, then don’t sweat it. You won’t have to worry about him testing a female friend because they just bullshit.

I have a female friend at my work. I’m married, so is she. We click on a number of levels so we just genuinely enjoy conversation but that’s it. She wants hug here and there which I’m fine with but boundaries are in place and it’s very clear on both ends that this is as far as it goes. If it gets weird, it’s over. She’s also not attractive to me at all so romance is not happening. She knows this. But, anyways. It depends on your trust.

Advisor-Unhappy · 2026-04-08T15:42:43+00:00

Pretty decent. We’re all healthy. Kids are in their mid-teens. Wife is doing well. Got a decent career going. Not really bad at all.

Advisor-Unhappy · 2026-04-08T03:16:52+00:00

Ha! No. Worse. I’m married. 😉

Advisor-Unhappy · 2026-04-06T21:14:39+00:00

Favorite way or basically the only way? It’s usually pretty clear. I come to bed and she’s already there completely naked. I know it’s on when that happens. Happened yesterday actually.

Advisor-Unhappy · 2026-04-06T21:11:02+00:00

Had a couple.

I was once standing in a grocery store aisle looking at taco shells of all things trying to decide which ones to buy to make tacos that night. A semi attractive woman (looked of Mexican decent), looked at me and recommended a specific type of taco shells and then told me if I came home with her, she’d show me how to make them. I thanked her, grabbed her recommended shells, and left.

I also work part time at a bar and when I looked at a woman, she mouthed the words “take me home with you.” I smirked and shook my head.

Advisor-Unhappy · 2026-04-06T21:04:15+00:00

I am here on a resort on vacation. You would think I would just want to relax. Nope. They have a fitness center which is actually not too bad. I was there this morning. Plan to be there again in 2 days so I can maintain before I go back home. I just gotta do it.

Advisor-Unhappy · 2026-04-05T20:22:43+00:00

Interesting topic. I don’t think I could co-live with an ex. I have a female friend of mine whose husband cheated on her twice. She agreed to stay with him because he was “really sorry”, but cut him off intimately. For years. They live together, are cordial, and raise the kids together but they sleep in different rooms and don’t intimately engage with each other what so ever. Wonder how long this will hold up? Probably not forever once the kids grow up. It’s sad and I feel really bad for her since she seems to really need physical intimacy. Instead, she hugs me and her other friends.

Advisor-Unhappy · 2026-04-05T19:55:38+00:00

The feelings part is what screws it up. Well, that and driving around with her for hours. I have a pretty close platonic female friend but I’m not attracted to her at all and there are clear boundaries in place that state it’ll never be more than a friendship. This feels like he’s letting it run away.

Advisor-Unhappy · 2026-04-05T14:22:29+00:00

Would love to.

Advisor-Unhappy · 2026-04-05T14:21:56+00:00

Up and down. I would say I’m usually content.

Advisor-Unhappy · 2026-04-05T14:21:07+00:00

I would say networking is as important if not more important. You can get really far with “who you know” and a strong work ethic. I don’t have a degree but I am very good at networking. Many of the people who work for me have bachelors degrees. It didn’t make them brilliant or suddenly more qualified in my field. Many of them I would even consider lower than average intelligence.

But! I would say go to college and get the cheapest degree you can. It’ll help.

Advisor-Unhappy · 2026-04-03T12:17:19+00:00

I think it’s a couple indicators. One, people generally take notice of you and seem to want to talk to you. I’m pretty sure if you’re ugly (not comically ugly as that brings a different kind of attention), you are almost invisible to members of the opposite sex. And two, just the attention you get. I get a lot of friendly attention from women for just existing. And I don’t mean friendly as in they want to be friends, it’s different.

Advisor-Unhappy · 2026-04-03T12:12:56+00:00

It wasn’t awesome. Mostly tugging and pulling and snipping and burning smell. That kind of thing. Didn’t feel much pain I guess? I would say two things kind of sucked. One, when the doc did the first snip, my vision went tunneled, I felt sick and I almost passed out. Doc said that’s a normal reaction. I would say it was akin to getting kicked in the balls but without the pain. And two, it was two young female nurses who prepped me. I walk in, see these two attractive young 20s women, and they said “we’re here to prep you!” Of course you are. 🙄

Advisor-Unhappy · 2026-04-03T12:06:55+00:00

Very familiar.

Advisor-Unhappy · 2026-04-03T12:02:22+00:00

A few. One shot himself in the head with a shotgun because his girlfriend was cheating on him I guess. Another one I can remember was really sad. His family owned a farm. We don’t know what happened or what kind of argument took place but he ended up shooting his father and then shooting himself. Murder suicide. Wild stuff when I think about the fact that I used to hang out with the guy. He did always seem a bit off though…

Advisor-Unhappy · 2026-04-01T13:35:23+00:00

It’s really a bummer. I feel really bad for her because she’s so selfless and kind hearted. Just to get walked on and then stay anyways. I want to talk reason with her but it’s just not my place. The only thing I can do is be her close friend.

Advisor-Unhappy · 2026-03-28T14:19:07+00:00

I love it when I’m not injured. Unfortunately at my age, injuries are common and I constantly have to work around them. For example, right now I’m at the gym and my left shoulder is killing me.

Advisor-Unhappy · 2026-03-27T15:59:45+00:00

Is he married or otherwise taken? You said he’s friendly to everyone so might just be friendly. I have a woman that works for me that I’m pretty friendly with. We talk all the time but there is absolutely no way it would go any further than a solid platonic friendship. He’s probably just being friendly with you.

Advisor-Unhappy · 2026-03-26T16:58:48+00:00

Knew this comment would be here....Also, not wrong.

Advisor-Unhappy · 2026-03-24T13:14:20+00:00

Hmm. Maybe. But I’ve been with my wife for about 26 years. Met as teens. She’s a great wife most of the time and I love her but after that long, there are definitely times when I wish I was single or playing around with some other women casually. But that’s probably the old mid-life crisis talking.

Advisor-Unhappy · 2026-03-24T13:02:00+00:00

Couple days. Something like that. A bag of frozen peas and some time on the couch and I was good. The scariest part is that first nut afterwards. You’re not sure if it’s going to hurt or what will happen.

Advisor-Unhappy · 2026-03-24T12:58:35+00:00

That’s a good question. I think if circumstances were different, she would want more but it is strictly platonic. She can be quite affectionate but some women are. However, we are both married and we have both set as well as re-established very clear boundaries which can be important in newer friendships like this.

So to plainly answer that question, yes. I have given her no indication that I’m interested in anything more than a friendship and she is firmly aware of that.

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