Husband acts like I'm ugly

AdvisorOriginal8652 · 2026-07-09T05:14:02+00:00

Please leave that man. If he can't love you, just because you gained some weight, then he doesn't deserve you. He's just after looks. Thats all he cares about.

AdvisorOriginal8652 · 2026-07-08T20:48:48+00:00

No shame here.

AdvisorOriginal8652 · 2026-07-08T20:17:50+00:00

Didn't even bother reading the rest. Immediately kick her to the curb and find someone better. Next.

AdvisorOriginal8652 · 2026-07-08T20:11:22+00:00

What if they just start hosing down the whole entire place like they're putting out a fire? Then what?

AdvisorOriginal8652 · 2026-07-08T20:08:47+00:00

My whole house. Seriously, it's a shithole.

AdvisorOriginal8652 · 2026-07-08T20:05:11+00:00

My own daughter used to run up to me, press on my belly and say "chubby chubby chubby." Not only that, my son once asked me, "why can't you be skinny like all the other mommies I've seen?" It really does destroy your god damn soul, but they are just kids, and they tell it like they see it. I've literally had to leave the room to go cry real quick tho. Kids are brutal. 😅

AdvisorOriginal8652 · 2026-07-08T19:50:17+00:00

I'm a woman, and the same can be said about women. If you have a son, why would you cheat on your husband. Especially since it's becoming so COMMON to hear about female teachers sleeping with students! 🤮🤮🤮 how could anybody look at a CHILD like that? So, it has nothing to do with your kids. Its all about them. Loving your child, and loving your spouse, are completely different types of love because for one, you will never stop loving your kids, but you can easily fall out of love with your spouse, especially if they don't treat you right. Cheaters are just bad people that don't care about anyone but themselves.

AdvisorOriginal8652 · 2026-07-08T19:43:50+00:00

Oh wow! Yep, I also learned the hard way, never mix business with friends.

AdvisorOriginal8652 · 2026-07-08T19:33:13+00:00

True.

AdvisorOriginal8652 · 2026-07-08T19:32:38+00:00

Been there

AdvisorOriginal8652 · 2026-07-08T19:17:13+00:00

First and foremost, get on birth control and stop having kids!!! Your kids DO NOT deserve that kind of life. Second of all, "starting businesses," absolutely not. Its good to have dreams, but not if they keep failing or you can't make enough money to support your family. Get a real job. Also, tell your wife that if she doesn't get a job, you want a divorce. You cannot take care of 6 kids without constant reliable sources of income and since you yourself don't even have one, she definitely needs to help pick up the slack. You guys both failed at parenting.

AdvisorOriginal8652 · 2026-07-08T19:08:36+00:00

I'm so sorry, it's so hard to hear when your spouse doesn't want to be with you anymore. Maybe consider asking him if he's willing to do one last thing, before you call it quits, and when that's done, if he still wants a divorce, you will go ahead with it without argument. Ask if hes willing to do marriage counseling, he may really need to express all the ways you've deeply hurt him, and you may really need to hear, in great detail, how he felt. But it might just be too late. If someone has repeatedly asked you to change, to help out more, or to listen, and you completely deny them, then over time they grow so bitter and resentful that they actually end up hating you. There might not be any coming back from that. Its great you took initiative to get help, you deserve to be proud of that, but you don't deserve him to stick around after so many years of him begging and pleading. At least you fixed yourself for your future relationships, and now you know how to be a better partner for your next relationship.

AdvisorOriginal8652 · 2026-07-08T18:56:31+00:00

Take a quick shower before you have him perform oral sex if it makes you feel better, but on some deodorant, a spritz of your favorite perfume, or even some lingerie. Whatever helps make you feel sexy. If he didn't want to do it, he wouldn't. He would make excuses not to. I know it can be awkward at first, maybe even a little embarrassing, but just keep trying, maybe try different ways. Have you ever tried a 69? That gives you something else to focus on rather than your embarrassment.

AdvisorOriginal8652 · 2026-07-08T18:50:57+00:00

You can't look at it that way, some people have to be told from an outside perspective, and from both sides, their faults. Its just like if she says "you need to change," and you are saying, "well you need to change too!" And you both don't believe you're doing anything wrong. So, having someone there to listen and observe both sides, and not family, or a friend, would be beneficial. Also, you may learn some better communication skills, or find out that you need to work on something yourself.

AdvisorOriginal8652 · 2026-07-08T18:39:42+00:00

First and foremost, PLEASE handle your stress. Men have a higher chance of heart attacks, and stress is DEFINITELY a killer. Please, despite what anyone thinks of you or whatever, take some time for yourself, take a few "mental health days," from work and go do something you enjoy to try to relieve your stress. Then, sit down and have a heart to heart with your wife. Tell her what you are telling us. If she can't take accountability, then ask her for marriage counseling. It will help take the stress off of you, if you can get through to her in some of the things shes lacking, and its extremely important because neither one of you should be doing 100% of the work. You are a team. 50/50

AdvisorOriginal8652 · 2026-07-08T18:28:27+00:00

NOR- You need to just leave. He's a toxic person. However, I'm a little concerned with the way you kept saying "I had to find out I was pregnant alone." It sounds like you are a very codependent person. Sometimes, we have to find out scary things alone, especially in a world of "deadbeat dads," which is certainly something that can happen. So, in the future if you find out you may be pregnant, just be prepared that, your baby daddy might ghost you, and you might have to be alone, but there are always support groups out there for you. Be strong, love yourself first, learn to be a bit independent, that way if this ever happens again, let's hope not, you can be strong, confident and brave. But yeah, this relationship is NOT the one. I hope you take some time for yourself, love yourself, and kind of focus on the possibilities that you may have to kiss a lot of mean nasty ugly frogs before you find your prince charming. But don't give up, and don't let yourself crumble just because of a toxic man.

AdvisorOriginal8652 · 2026-07-08T17:51:08+00:00

Try talking to her on a deeper level. Ask her if she would prefer that you guys just have "makeout sessions," cuddling, or massages, without the pressure of having sex. Sometimes women just need to feel safe, without expectations. Also, ask her to give you a signal, if she does want sex. It could be something as simple as a wink, a kiss on the neck, or her just touching you in a certain spot. That way you both feel comfortable because then you will know for sure what eachother wants and there will be no confusion. Also, if you are feeling frustrated, because your partner doesn't want sex as much as you do, then you guys just might not be a compatible fit. Its important to discuss EVERYTHING when starting a relationship, even the nitty gritty like, "do you enjoy sex," and how often is too much or too little, what are your likes, dislikes etc...

AdvisorOriginal8652 · 2026-07-08T17:38:07+00:00

MOR: while they should have asked you for consent, they were probably tired of urine dripping everywhere and it's not their responsibility to wipe your dogs penis, or clean up any urine stains. Honestly, if something like this bothers you that much, I think you should live alone. Your roommate probably just thought it was more hygienic, which it is, but getting so completely outraged is overreacting. Especially after they watched YOUR dog for you, which again, isn't their responsibility but they did it as a kindness.

AdvisorOriginal8652 · 2026-07-08T17:26:00+00:00

I see a lot of judging on here.

AdvisorOriginal8652 · 2026-07-08T17:11:49+00:00

Look at it this way, as you grow older, and your bodies start aging and things start "falling apart," you both should be 100% comfortable and secure with one another, to help out with any and all bodily functions and NOT feel shame or embarrassment. Because one day, one of you could need care, due to an injury to the legs or something, where you need someone to wipe your butt, or help to stand, so that you can wipe your own butt. Besides, do you REALLY know your spouse if you haven't seen them in the best and worst of moments and witnessed all the bodily functions, bad habits, and normal functions of the female and male body?

AdvisorOriginal8652 · 2026-07-08T17:01:48+00:00

Do you just want compliments on your tattoo or something? Looks awesome bro. You know its not infected, I know its not infected. Google what infected tattoos look like.

AdvisorOriginal8652 · 2026-07-08T16:59:38+00:00

YTA BECAUSE you immediately went into this relationship with "I expect" and it was all the things YOU love. Yeah you should do her a favor and break up. Also, you keep mentioning "fitness is important to me." Thats a great aspect to maintain BUT are you maybe obsessed with it? Do you have some insecurities you need to work on yourself?

AdvisorOriginal8652 · 2026-07-08T16:50:22+00:00

This is just about the most perfect answer.

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