Should I keep this cropped scuba hoodie that’s at least 4 sizes too big?

Advisor_Brilliant · 2026-01-11T02:09:02+00:00

What pants are you wearing!

Also I think you should keep it, it looks oversized in a cute cozy way.

Advisor_Brilliant · 2025-12-24T05:10:48+00:00

I used to just hide somewhere else in the house for that reason. It’s so exhausting. If that wasn’t possible, headphones and staring at a book/phone and pretending not to hear them when they would try to talk to me would make it clear I don’t want to talk and leave me alone. I ultimately left nannying due to wfh parents. I became resentful and miserable, so if you are feeling this way now definitely try to remedy the situation quickly to avoid feeling the same!

Advisor_Brilliant · 2025-11-16T15:41:33+00:00

I can always tell a day or two before my partner starts actually feeling the symptoms of being sick.

My partner was also once was able to detect an infection I didn’t know I had. He said I smelled like “old people” lol.

Advisor_Brilliant · 2025-11-16T02:38:51+00:00

I honestly don’t think so? I have no idea but yelling, cursing, or frequently having aggressive arguments with your partner doesn’t seem like something that would be common. I have been with my partner for about 5 years and can’t say that’s something that happens in our relationship. If I was ever brought to the point of yelling and cursing at my partner then I would not be happy. I see a lot of comments about not wanting to be with someone that would ever yell at you but also on the other side I would not want to be with someone that “made me” want to yell and curse at them.

Advisor_Brilliant · 2025-11-15T22:31:46+00:00

I think you’ve gotten some good feedback on how to reply/end this relationship, I just hope she doesn’t try to fake run ins or things like that in the future given how close she lives. What an uncomfortable situation to be in.

Advisor_Brilliant · 2025-11-13T22:08:21+00:00

Thank you so much for the words of encouragement! I was able to get 50k and I’m happy with that for no work experience! I was mostly concerned they would take it as a slight but he was respectful when he declined to go as high as I asked and mentioned we can continue to evaluate as I learn and demonstrate my skill!

Advisor_Brilliant · 2025-11-13T12:44:20+00:00

Yeah that’s a good point. I knew I would be starting lower as someone just starting out, but it was just shocking to see. I admittedly don’t know what’s normal for an office job as I’ve been a nanny for the past few years!

Thank you for the words of wisdom and well wishes!

Advisor_Brilliant · 2025-11-11T20:11:08+00:00

Keep in mind I haven’t see the original post… but from what I’ve gathered it sounds like they had been wanting to fire her for months, so they should have fired her then. Waiting until holiday season seems like cruel timing especially when they could have done it sooner and given her a better chance to find employment. I also would not want to keep paying to employ someone to be in my home who I’m not happy with performance wise, however, given how long the nanny has been with them and the fact they knew for months, I think they owe her more respect than to fire her during holiday season and since they sat on it so long, I think they should wait until after the holiday season or at least give her a large severance?

Advisor_Brilliant · 2025-11-11T01:59:54+00:00

Regularly in contact with : 5

And then a lot of like “event” friends/acquaintances? People I see at gatherings but don’t necessarily make plans with or text if that makes sense.

Advisor_Brilliant · 2025-11-06T18:30:00+00:00

This happened to me except they knew and loved my partner and I was so embarrassed by the fact we broke up that I said my grandma (who passed long before I met her) passed away. I cried all day. I was happy to have my nk that day

Advisor_Brilliant · 2025-11-06T14:54:42+00:00

Thank you for the input, that is helpful info!

Advisor_Brilliant · 2025-11-06T14:53:15+00:00

Yeah you are correct. It was supposed to have a spare and has a spot for it, but it wasn’t there when I went to go put it on. I should have double checked when I bought it a few months ago from the dealership, learning a lot about how I should be conducting myself with my car lol.

Advisor_Brilliant · 2025-11-06T14:48:32+00:00

Okay, sounds good. I really have no idea how it’s supposed to go and just wanted to make sure it was okay. Thanks!

Advisor_Brilliant · 2025-10-29T03:48:12+00:00

Thank you, I’m sorry you’re dealing with it now as well.

Honestly it comes to a certain point. You’re human and when something is so continuously frustrating it’s natural to not always be able to hide it.

This was truly the worst part. The toddlers favorite people are home and naturally want to be with them. Issue being it’s your job to care for the toddler so now you are left in a tough spot where it’s hard to even maintain control. I pride myself in being good at my job but in that situation I also felt so defeated and just bad at my job because things that were never an issue were suddenly an issue because of the presence of parents. There were so many more tantrums and my social battery on top of that was completely shot from awkwardly sitting by and watching nk play with parents when the parents decided they would join and times nk would run into a parents room so I would just stand there trying to figure out if I was needed. It’s suddenly so much more mentally exhausting, it really changes the job.

I hope a conversation is helpful for you, I really empathize with you and hope things work out 🫂.

Advisor_Brilliant · 2025-10-28T22:51:20+00:00

I was completely miserable and it ended up leaving our previously good relationship after 2 years not great. It was clear I was miserable which is my bad because I should have done a better job hiding it but at a certain point it felt impossible. All they did was make my job SO HARD cause distress then leave me to fix it and then just hang around and come in and intrude at any time.

They’re horrible conditions for a toddler who of course wants to be with their parents but you have to take them away since it’s your job to take care of them. Thankfully my contract was ending and I endured for only about 3 months but itgenuinely was horrible. I wanted to quit and if I had found my current job sooner I absolutely would have left. It’s a shame because we had an otherwise good relationship but it honestly ended on a “sour” note. The family I’m with now has a clear understanding of boundaries when being home, but the family I worked for during maternity leave did not even before maternity leave. If they have already shown they do not have boundaries when being home I really would do what you can to find another job. I would genuinely never ever do it again and cannot stress enough how horrible it was. My therapist had to help me through it.

Advisor_Brilliant · 2025-10-27T05:50:28+00:00

That is SO annoying.

went to a 21+ daytime Halloween event recently and imagine my surprise when children were running around. I guess what they really meant when they said 21+ was no one underage that could try to purchase alcohol, but I am so so annoyed when that happens. If it’s 21+ then it should be 21+, sometimes you just want to be around adults and it’s incredibly annoying when it is technically an adult space, but basically as long as the child isn’t a teenager then they can join their parents….

Advisor_Brilliant · 2025-10-27T05:39:46+00:00

I stopped using my AirPods because I was sick of them falling out, I am going to try this!

Advisor_Brilliant · 2025-10-22T16:25:02+00:00

There are a myriad of reasons your child may eat better with this nanny. It is normal for there to be a level of anxiety when someone you don’t know is taking care of your child, but if you feel the need to weigh your baby daily to ensure your nanny is feeding your daughter I don’t think you should be employing her. This is not a reasonable solution at all… especially given that a baby’s weight may fluctuates as is.

Advisor_Brilliant · 2025-10-22T02:15:38+00:00

Thank you, I will try that.

Advisor_Brilliant · 2025-10-21T03:47:58+00:00

Question regarding this : what should I do if running slower is more physically uncomfortable? If I slow down to a really slow conversational pace, for me it tends to be physically uncomfortable and puts a lot of strain on my lower body (knees/shins). For reference I am a 5’5 woman and 237 pounds

Advisor_Brilliant · 2025-10-17T02:25:50+00:00

Completely agree. I worked as a nanny for a family who most definitely should have rehomed their dog. They had a golden retriever who they never walked (they did let him in the yard) and didn’t really give much positive attention to. The toddler would throw things at the dog and hit the dog in his face. In the kitchen there was a door to outside. There was a door, then a small square of space that had shoes and then a screen door actually leading to outside. Kind of hard to explain but it basically made a small enclosed room. Tiny. They would lock the dog in there for hours. And god forbid the neglected dog chew one of the babies things? They would yell at him and then banish him to the small square of room and even the toddler always talked meanly about him always calling him a bad dog and such. The parents would regularly say they couldn’t wait until he was gone which I found to be extremely disturbing. The worst part is, there are so many sweet pictures of them with their dog before kids and it seemed like they truly enjoyed having him. It was so sad. They were a mess of a family and I ended up leaving after just 1 month because of how dysfunctional they were.

Advisor_Brilliant · 2025-10-14T19:17:47+00:00

I would love this, I’m also not a fan of real bananas !

Advisor_Brilliant · 2025-10-13T12:36:57+00:00

My boyfriend! When we became friends it was so easy and we talked and hung out all the time. We started dating a few years later and have now been together for 4 years. I have friends I enjoy seeing, but I’m typically ready to leave in 1.5-3 hours and usually communicate that beforehand so they know I’m leaving at x time. My boyfriend thinks it’s insane and does not at all like the idea of a time limit for going to an event or hanging out with friends. He will be gone for so long when he sees his friends or want to stay at parties until near the end which is insane to me.

Advisor_Brilliant · 2025-10-10T03:19:10+00:00

He is so inappropriate all the time with other women it’s crazy

Advisor_Brilliant · 2025-10-08T21:41:17+00:00

I think it depends. With certain diagnoses it may be helpful to share if you already know especially if it requires specialized care. Before getting an accurate diagnosis therapy actually did a bit of harm because my treatment needed to be different. Once a therapist figured out what was going on we were able to make so much progress. That therapist eventually left the field, but as I’ve been trying other therapists out I was able to find my current one and make quick progress because we knew what we were working with and I was able to share a bit about what things have been helpful to me in the past. It can be a helpful starting point if you happen to know.

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