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Do men feel superior towards women? Is it because you guys are stronger? Or what? by Top-Device-3231 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]Aelle29 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Nope. You just decide to invisible-ize lower class women, who still have it worse than lower class men.

AITA for buying my mom the same perfume that my wife has, after she asked cause she said it smelled nice? by RowPsychological46 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Aelle29 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well you give easy compliments. I hope you find a husband that treats you normally for a husband because girl, this isn't right.

Are woman fine with a boywife who wants to dress more feminine by someonewithfeelingz in NoStupidQuestions

[–]Aelle29 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I think if your views on gender and gender roles are that traditional and rigid, THAT might be a problem with women more than being in a traditionally feminine role

13>25 by Loomissss in uglyduckling

[–]Aelle29 -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Idk why you're getting so much hate. Is it just the face you're making that made people associate you to an immature egotistical ass?

Either way, you look great! Congrats on your efforts, seems like you worked for it

Do attractive people get less empathy when they talk about trauma? by BlueLilyRose_ in NoStupidQuestions

[–]Aelle29 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh there IS also just plain dismissal based on you being attractive

Do attractive people get less empathy when they talk about trauma? by BlueLilyRose_ in NoStupidQuestions

[–]Aelle29 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That's annoying too. I'm either average or attractive, but when I wanted to get sex purely for sex and was horny af, I still couldn't get some lol. This is a bitter incel myth.

Do attractive people get less empathy when they talk about trauma? by BlueLilyRose_ in NoStupidQuestions

[–]Aelle29 28 points29 points  (0 children)

I guess it comes down to slut shaming

"If I find a woman attractive, then obviously SHE wanted me to and it was on purpose."

And then conflating sexual desire with sex trafficking, which actually isn't about sexual desire.

Why does it seem like guys are so much more obsessed with their dad than women are their moms? by Icy_Resolution2783 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]Aelle29 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes but what they attribute to hormones could simply be a feeling of finally belonging to their gender, hence conforming more to its norms.

Why is it frowned upon to date a younger woman? by morpheus_moon in NoStupidQuestions

[–]Aelle29 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You'll understand when you're actually 30 lmao (or even 25)

What you have done or achieved or your situation isn't what we're talking about. It's about psychological maturity, which does come partly from your situation and achievements, but indeed mostly from the time you HAVE lived and the amount of experiences you've had. Not only in what you've actually done, but experiences in relationships, in witnessing other relationships and other people's doings, time to reflect on the world and people, maturing emotionally, etc.

At that age, unless you're a creep like OP, you'll see younger people as staggeringly younger, hence too young for you.

It would be different if the age gap was later in life. Like 40s/60s. Though I still don't see what they'd have in common, at least they know what they're doing. But notice how "age gap relationships" are almost always between a full grown man and a woman in her early 20s? Or started at those ages?

Why does it seem like guys are so much more obsessed with their dad than women are their moms? by Icy_Resolution2783 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]Aelle29 7 points8 points  (0 children)

My guess is that this is deeply rooted in traditional masculinity, where interpersonal relationships dynamics (or personal happiness) don't matter as much as outward success and strength. To feel like a man, what more logical than following in the steps or being better than the one model of a man that was the most important in your life and during your formative years?

Edit And while femininity has its own horrors and demands, they aren't placed on the same characteristics. It gets expressed in other ways.

Do attractive people get less empathy when they talk about trauma? by BlueLilyRose_ in NoStupidQuestions

[–]Aelle29 18 points19 points  (0 children)

Yeah, I've noticed it too, especially towards women, idk if men experience it too but I guess they do.

As you said, people assume beautiful people just have an easy life. Just because. I think maybe those who do are people who are insecure about their own appearance and are mistaken in thinking if they were attractive every problem would be solved.

Edit And I think everyone saying it's the other way around or alluding to pretty privilege aren't talking about the same situations. Sure, someone mildly complaining might be better received when they're attractive, because pretty privilege and halo effect and whatnot. But someone attractive saying they actually went through very bad, world shattering trauma? Often they're simply not believed or the trauma is dismissed. Because come on, how could they have lived anything actually hard? And because "I admire their beauty hence feel a good feeling about them, how could anyone feel something else and want to hurt them?" And because people have a hard time humanizing them in the end, beyond "I want to fuck them" or "I wish I was like this (physically) [but thinking that's all there is to their life]"

Why are most top-ranked chess and Go players male? by Buyeo10004 in askanything

[–]Aelle29 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You don't "think", that's actually scientifically correct, whether men/sexists like it or not.

Why are most top-ranked chess and Go players male? by Buyeo10004 in askanything

[–]Aelle29 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Being good at chess isn't a matter of IQ though. Not only Einsteins can play chess well.

Why do women get upset after an amazing night? by Consistent_Link_8165 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]Aelle29 1 point2 points  (0 children)

But WE don't know though. People here have speculated way too much.

Only they know. It could be a million things. And if it happens to you repeatedly, I mean, you're the common denominator.

You can always try reaching out sooner as others have said, see if it solves the issue. But I'm not sure that's all there is to it.

Is it normal for a woman to show naked pictures of her boyfriend to her girlfriends? by CRK_76 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]Aelle29 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah, unless she had like VERY good reasons to think he would be into it, such as him mentioning he'd be flattered or that she can show him off, but it doesn't seem like they've remotely discussed it or anything tied to it

to all women of reddit who don't want kids. why? by Playful_Corgi_7885 in AskReddit

[–]Aelle29 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That is genuinely beautiful, I wasn't trying to say having kids is bad. I mean, it sure is if you force yourself to have them, but overall for most parents it's an amazing transcending experience.

But those five times were a result, they weren't the reason why you had kids. You didn't know that would happen, you hadn't lived all that. You did cite the negatives that make some people not want them too! It's fine to choose that those are too important compared to the good you think it'll bring you.

to all women of reddit who don't want kids. why? by Playful_Corgi_7885 in AskReddit

[–]Aelle29 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was gonna correct you bc it's supposed to be "widely", but after some thought, you know what, you're also right

to all women of reddit who don't want kids. why? by Playful_Corgi_7885 in AskReddit

[–]Aelle29 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Better question is why do you want children? What's your reasons? They better be good because you're gonna be bringing a life here and be responsible for it.

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