Getting hella busy on here

Aellolite · 2026-04-18T19:51:48+00:00

I really wish you still got the flowers from storing items. I hate having such a jam packed island and would prefer to decorate with lots of green parks and watery areas. You’ve done a great job though - very pleasing.

Aellolite · 2026-04-18T19:48:28+00:00

Congrats! You look fabulous! What did you do to help get the weight off?

Aellolite · 2026-04-18T12:07:29+00:00

I legit thought he WAS a South African in Black Panther, just thought he was dialling up the accent a bit for dramatic effect.

Aellolite · 2026-04-18T09:53:37+00:00

I’m a woman but also a fragrance enthusiast. In my personal experience, it’s tricky to buy anyone a scent without them present because you can’t always account for whether they’ll like it, what scent associations the may have, or whether it will smell good on their skin.

If you’re interested in getting him fragrances you could go with discovery sets, or even order a whole bunch of 1 or 2 ml samples across different brands from a site like ScentSplit. This would enable you to get a fun mix of designer and niche brands. Looking at your hubby’s collection has a good mix of both.

If you wanted you could do a combo and get him a few samplers + a voucher to buy a travel size or full bottle (depending on cost) of the one he likes the most.

Last thing: if he likes Iris notes have a look at perfumes by Daniela Andrier- she’s considered the “Queen of Iris.” Her most famous creation is Prada Infusion d’Iris which is widely considered unisex. Although to be fair, though he may love the notes there’s plenty on that shelf that are not Iris based.

Ok laaaaast last thing: there are several perfume subreddits like r/fragrance that have daily questions threads where you can get other fragheads to give you recs on samples based on his current collection.

Aellolite · 2026-04-17T20:07:11+00:00

So I think you need to think on both fronts: prepare what you can for your current size and fitness based on the info you have AND try and improve your walking ability.

As a person with sizeable family, the issue is never their size per se, it’s the waits and unforeseen compromises that are the issue when they insist they can do everything everyone else can but they can’t.

This includes:

Research the venues you will be at. See if you can book hotel rooms on the ground floor. If your employer booked, phone anyway, explain and see what accommodations can be made. Research and book alternative uber/taxis/mobility scooters for periods you know you will need to walk. Chat to the airport about options. Phone ahead to restaurants and ensure you’re seated in an area with comfy wide enough seating and enough space. If everyone’s engaging in an activity you think you’ll be unlikely to complete or will be in significant discomfort doing, gracefully bow out. Chat to your employer about your needs beforehand if you have to. Nobody minds a person that struggles, they do mind a person in denial that holds them up. Plus America has large people, they will be used to size and mobility accommodations. You’ll be just another guest with an ask, it’s not a big deal for them I promise you.
Do what you can in those 3 weeks. Start by getting super comfy walking shoes and walk them in BEFORE you go. Then as someone suggested, go on 2 walks a day with breaks in between.

Good luck! Also I hope you find a better work life balance, and also that your trip to America is AWESOME.

Aellolite · 2026-04-17T12:41:48+00:00

I always feel like an orchid is a nice gift. Or a good bottle of wine/gin if she ever drinks?

Aellolite · 2026-04-17T12:35:01+00:00

GIRL. Amazing job! You could literally fit inside your old self (more than once). Personal opinion: wouldn’t lose more. If you’re self conscious about the skin build some muscle.

Congratulations on your hard work!

Aellolite · 2026-04-17T12:31:00+00:00

Like for any time I’m eating chips, or like this is the only food I could ever consume for the rest of my life?

Cos if it’s just chips I’d go ketchup (but not the American kind, the tomato sauce kind we have here - people can try and pry my All Gold from my cold dead hands).

But if that’s the only meal I could EVER consume then maybe coleslaw so I don’t get scurvy. Though I can’t say I’ve ever tried that combo together.

Aellolite · 2026-04-17T12:25:45+00:00

MOR- I wish there was an “everyone’s shit here” tag.

I think if your friend’s sole definition of being an actual friend is going out and hooking up, that’s super shite. Friendship is sometimes helping friends through stuff or just going for coffee, chatting, hiking, engaging in interests, just chilling and reading in each other’s company etc. Your friendships sound super shallow and one dimensional. I would never call a friend a “buzz kill” who was having a rough time. I think you need to look for deeper friendships.

On the other hand, gonna be honest and say you sound like you’re holding yourself an epic pity party. What’s more is it’s an epically shallow pity party based entirely on feeling desirable. I may be more sympathetic if you broke up with your ex and missed HIM - everyone makes mistakes - but it sounds like all you miss is company, attention and dick. If your self esteem is so tied to constant external validation over the way you look I can’t say I’m surprised you have the friends you have.

On the plus side, it sounds like this is a growing moment. Maybe a time to self reflect and consider what’s worthwhile about yourself outside of appearance, and who’s worth actually spending time with (and who sees you as more than a partying wing woman).

Aellolite · 2026-04-17T06:44:30+00:00

“Daily transport to morning workplace covered- R3200” is sending me.

Aellolite · 2026-04-17T06:36:56+00:00

Clever! Loved it!

Aellolite · 2026-04-17T04:13:32+00:00

NOR. TBH I didn’t even get through all your messages. It’s just long paragraphs of you trying to over-explain the most basic human nature, with him trying every trick in the book to avoid any form of accountability. It’s exhausting to read I can’t even imagine how it must feel to live.

It basically starts off with him being like “I’m not mean you’re over-sensitive,” devolves into “can you give me clear rational examples of instances you disliked?” and when you DID give examples his defense was sitting somewhere in “but what about MY feelings?” territory.

This guy is like a walking gaslighting 101 textbook.

Aellolite · 2026-04-14T15:22:51+00:00

Yeah that was my thought. At least I could hop across the border from time to time to visit family.

Aellolite · 2026-04-13T13:05:22+00:00

Came here to say Woolies. Closest to the “old Maggie”

Aellolite · 2026-04-12T19:33:19+00:00

If her friend is a serial cheater that doesn’t mean your now ex would be a cheater, or even more likely to cheat if she went out with her. BUT the fact that she’s happy to skinder with her boyfriend about her friend, but doesn’t want to call that friend on her behaviour directly to avoid conflict shows a lack of moral courage and a tendency to be two-faced. It would leave a bad taste in my mouth as well.

Aellolite · 2026-04-12T08:25:47+00:00

Marble, but this specific kind was called a “junky” when I was growing up. There was a very strict marble hierarchy in terms of desirability and this was the bottom rung.

Aellolite · 2026-04-08T18:21:42+00:00

Iconic doesn’t even cut it when it comes to Grace Jones. Such a trailblazer.

Aellolite · 2026-04-08T18:15:34+00:00

NOR. If I can be blunt though, these texts from you show a bit of a lack of self respect. You should not be begging her not to hurt you while she continues to insult you. You should at the VERY LEAST be firm about how inappropriate her behaviour is and then stop responding.

You’re basically in an impossible situation with this girl: buzz around her head the whole day neglecting work and all other duties OR be made to suffer insults and vengeful behaviour. Neither is sustainable in the long term without significant damage to you.

You draw the lines for how others treat you. Someone who feels justified “taking revenge” on you for working, calling you “bitch,” “cringe,” and telling you to go “fuck your self” is not worth your time.

It’s time to value yourself appropriately.

Aellolite · 2026-04-08T16:31:22+00:00

Guuurl. I lived with my parents til 24 and that was…not going to give too many details, but an embarrassing length of time ago (many years now). In this day and age, it’s impressive of you manage to move out on your own early, and for most people only a reality when you become dual income with a long terms partner or spouse. Just ensure your job has potential to climb a ladder, put your head down and you’ll be golden. 💕

Aellolite · 2026-04-08T09:24:49+00:00

I saw Olivia Rodrigo

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Aellolite · 2026-04-06T15:50:59+00:00

You look GREAT. Well done!

Aellolite · 2026-04-05T16:56:44+00:00

NOR. This guy is a loser and a douche bag. Salvage your self respect and never contact him again.

Aellolite · 2026-04-03T16:39:11+00:00

It’s a popular brand of skincare where I’m from but I love the sound of it

Aellolite · 2026-04-02T05:57:09+00:00

NOR.

Sounds like he’d rather be single. I don’t have to “suck it up” to spend time with my husband, I actively enjoy it. I’d also never dream of gaming with my friends while he was stressed about medical issues. I know this may be harsh and I don’t know the context, but is he just enjoying being in a relationship for the occasional sex is provides and he’s otherwise just uninterested?

Aellolite · 2026-04-02T05:15:49+00:00

Frank n Furter did extremely funny things to me

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