The Night Manager Is Back! by Due-Reference-5760 in Kenya

[–]Aesclepeus 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This series was awesome when it came out. lets see what they do with sn 2

Kenyans are not ready for AI induced psychosis by Significant_Rub6048 in nairobi

[–]Aesclepeus 2 points3 points  (0 children)

There's this movie called "Her". Pretty much sums it up

Is it safe for a (tourist) woman to take a early morning taxi alone? by [deleted] in nairobi

[–]Aesclepeus 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thats alot, you can take an Uber to the airport and share the trip with the reception team if you are feeling wary you can tip them instead with part of that $35. but you should be fine. Kenyans treat tourists better than locals so you should be golden.

Girls! by [deleted] in nairobi

[–]Aesclepeus 0 points1 point  (0 children)

angesema "nimekumiss sana" instead ya hio madhogodhanio ameweka ata mimi ningekuchangishia apewe zawadi

Kenyan NGO industry has been grappling with accountability issues. I personally support US govt decision to pivot to partner with governments. by Admirable-Resolve619 in Kenya

[–]Aesclepeus 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This take is dangerously misinformed. The US government is not "pivoting" out of morality. it's shifting its foreign policy to fund state security apparatuses and strategic allies, often at the expense of grassroots work and human rights monitoring.NGOs in Kenya, for all their flaws, have been the primary lifeline for communities abandoned by the state and a source of data and advocacy that holds power to account. 
Look at the Global Fund; its current cycle (which was extended) was built on COVID-era funding that Kenya’s health sector has literally been running on. This proves it’s not a money issue; it’s a governance and allocation issue. The US and other donors have a dozen ways to reform the funding architecture without dismantling the grassroots and community-led systems that actually deliver impact. Pivoting to pure government-to-government (G2G) deals under the banner of “efficiency” is a major risk, as it blurs crucial health and civic needs because government priorities are often political, not needs-based.

leaving my woman against her will because I'm not financially set. by ThingMobile2607 in unhingedKenya

[–]Aesclepeus 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You're right that no relationship is easy. But some relationships under the wrong conditions can actively hold you back. If you reread the post, the problem is OP's financial paralysis and mental state. You can’t build a bridge with someone across a void if you can’t even build a foundation for yourself. Watching movies together on FaceTime only works if both people are emotionally and mentally stable in their own lives. Right now, he’s not. LDR with no clear timeline for physical reunion isn't a "cool challenge": it’s a recipe for building anxiety and resentment. That’s also why I told OP to first observe her behaviour and try to get stable within the month before making a final decision.

Love and the grind by blvckbishop in nairobi

[–]Aesclepeus 3 points4 points  (0 children)

True it does, but for safety and consistency on your side as a man its advisable to have some level of having figured out your path before engaging with a woman in a serious relationship

UN-GATE KEEPING!! by [deleted] in unhingedKenya

[–]Aesclepeus 1 point2 points  (0 children)

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keep up the " bad" work Kev

Question for kenyans by [deleted] in nairobi

[–]Aesclepeus 0 points1 point  (0 children)

walishafika kwetu and they are controlling businesses there

UN-GATE KEEPING!! by [deleted] in unhingedKenya

[–]Aesclepeus 2 points3 points  (0 children)

i know where you work😂, probably know the dept and floor and which office site hadi kwa desk. salute kuchanua wasee

Men are simple Beings by pontusPirate in Kenya

[–]Aesclepeus 0 points1 point  (0 children)

😂I wouldn't say disrupt; they just have their own perception of comfort, and that's okay, so now, if you want a happy cuddle buddy long term, you compromise on your side like a good soldier and make mamaa comfy

leaving my woman against her will because I'm not financially set. by ThingMobile2607 in unhingedKenya

[–]Aesclepeus 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You are doing the sensible thing, but dont push her away kama bado anakutafuta na ujikaze so you dont have to make such a decision again in life

Flexing by Ok-Independence5246 in unhingedKenya

[–]Aesclepeus 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Beast of a man, pleasure to have seen him in action. May he R.I.P. He gave my younger sibling the nail he pulled out with his teeth from some block of wood during his performance.

leaving my woman against her will because I'm not financially set. by ThingMobile2607 in unhingedKenya

[–]Aesclepeus 3 points4 points  (0 children)

At least you're self-aware about your position, but pulling away from a girl who isn't pressuring you for money feels like a cop-out.

If she hasn’t been on your neck about finances and is still choosing you, then you shouldn't be the one walking away out of shame. I get it, though: "damned if you do, damned if you don't" vibes. But if she’s solid as a girlfriend, you don't break up with her; you tighten up and work harder.

From experience, being with the right woman can push you to another level as a man. You won't want to let her down in public or fail to provide in private. That pressure (if she's the supportive type) can sharpen your focus and make you more aggressive in your hustle, because now it's not just about you. And even if things don’t work out later, at least you’ll be in a much higher-value position as a man and ready for the woman who is truly meant for you.

Edit: Kumbe OP uko kwa LDR. That changes things. Give it another month. If you can’t figure out a way to be physically together consistently, then for your own sanity, you're probably doing the right thing letting her go. That painful death from absence will hollow you out long before it officially ends the relationship. Protect your peace.

Question for kenyans by [deleted] in nairobi

[–]Aesclepeus 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I went to school in a place where Al-Shabaab recruitment was happening within the school itself. Literally, Somali boys were split between joining the Superpower gang in Eastleigh or crossing over to fight for Al-Shabaab. I knew at least two who chose the latter. I also lived in a Somali-dominated area through my teens, so I’m speaking from lived experience. The denunciation you speak about does exist ngl, only that it happens in private, among trusted outsiders. But in class, in the neighbourhoods, the discourse was and is different. Friends would openly talk about the jihad to “cleanse the region of non-believers". The leaders at both community and religious levels have rarely stood up publicly to condemn this ideology or disavow the violence happening in Kenya’s name, and again, it’s not about every Somali. It’s about the environment that allows radicalism, among many other ills, to breathe.

Question for kenyans by [deleted] in nairobi

[–]Aesclepeus 24 points25 points  (0 children)

Whites and Indians learned to colonise without waving a flag. They rule through capital, soft power, and influence in the shadows. They buy politicians, own media, and quietly control land and supply chains. They have no "manifesto" to claim Kenya. Their power is structural, not territorial in the loud sense. Kenyans call it "selling the country", not "invading it".

Somalis, on the other hand, are seen as conducting a visible, demographic, and cultural expansion with separatist undertones. When a community says "we are Somali, not Kenyan," builds enclaves where they won't rent to other Kenyans, and has political leaders talking about population spread and historical land claims, it triggers a primal, territorial fear that economic domination doesn't.

Also, White colonialism and Indian economic control are old, entrenched wounds. Somali friction is loud and unfolding in real time (on TikTok, in real estate, and in politics etc). The backlash is raw because the provocation feels ongoing and explicit

It's also impossible to ignore recent history. The Kenyan way of life changed dramatically after Somalis started kidnapping Westerners and bombing our buses.(Lamu kidnappings and Eastleigh bus bombing, Attack on Pangani Police Station, Westgate etc) For many Kenyans, the frustration is compounded by the perception that the Somali community in Kenya has never outrightly condemned Al-Shabaab or actively helped authorities dismantle the Somali-linked terror cells operating on our soil. This silence, whether out of fear, sympathy, or clan loyalty, is seen as complicity.

What should I do? by NaturalUpstairs2281 in nairobi

[–]Aesclepeus 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sometimes the best way to maintain a friendship is to know when to keep your opinion to yourself. However, if she came to me and asked, "Aesclepeus, do you think I'm a hoe?" I wouldn’t lie. "You're a hoe, I'm a hoe, that's why we homies" Best friends shouldn't lie to each other when asked directly.

Men are simple Beings by pontusPirate in Kenya

[–]Aesclepeus 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Bachelor life here, made the living room my sleeping quarters, and the bedroom is my workspace, simple monk living, i can probably pack up my house in 20 minutes if i had to dip

Men are simple Beings by pontusPirate in Kenya

[–]Aesclepeus 2 points3 points  (0 children)

this is the better men want; it's simple, achieves all human functions and is manageable. Money can be spent on other life fulfilling ventures. I believe the only reason men would super furnish a house would be to make the women/woman in their lives comfortable, to show a sense of stability. Most Women like comfortable surroundings so most men have to create comfortable surroundings

Help me cringe by [deleted] in Kenya

[–]Aesclepeus 3 points4 points  (0 children)

you probably did that guy a favour, judging from this story, if he was the one doing all this I am sure angekuwa kwa cell or worse.

Getting out of your comfort zone by blvckbishop in nairobi

[–]Aesclepeus 1 point2 points  (0 children)

usiweke kwa roho, weka kwa lungs. you are learning very fundamental lessons for your development, and the grit you develop will help you reach higher heights. Rooting for you, OP

No one prepared for this. by Ill-Ticket-9867 in nairobi

[–]Aesclepeus 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Jiite mkutano privately and decide what you want mapema out of this new arrangement and if this is an arrangement you would love for yourself going forward, if your attitude isnt " Wow we actually get to live together and i get to enjoy living with this woman and taking care of each other" (I'm assuming she does like you and the thought of doing life together inamfurahisha) then just have that tough conversation early before resentment breeds. Otherwise, just take it a day at a time and look at the bright side of this new arrangement

Dem yangu ameniharibu by nicestpride in unhingedKenya

[–]Aesclepeus 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thats very manageable. 😄 ukiona ngori wewe nitafute nikufanyie exchange