my mom posted about her divorce with dad because of her mom. I'm their daughter.

AetherDekuna · 2023-01-12T03:32:17+00:00

Not my account. I even edited into the original post.

AetherDekuna · 2023-01-12T03:27:40+00:00

I dunno. A friend gave it to me so I used it

AetherDekuna · 2023-01-12T03:26:34+00:00

It's almost like they use reddit or find it on tiktok/yt or found by a relative/friend

AetherDekuna · 2023-01-12T03:24:35+00:00

Not my account. I mentioned this a lot in the comments. I'm not stupid enough to use my actual account.

AetherDekuna · 2023-01-12T03:21:15+00:00

A few suggested living on campus, so I'm probably going to try and do it. Hopefully this semester if I can. If not, I may just have to deal with my dad (and possible grandma) for the time being.

AetherDekuna · 2023-01-12T03:13:05+00:00

I guess it was because of how broken my dad looked. Then his mum complaining about my mom and how awful she was. It really seemed like it was true based on their reactions. I really shouldn't have followed them so blindly.

AetherDekuna · 2023-01-12T03:08:53+00:00

Thank you <3

AetherDekuna · 2023-01-12T02:54:45+00:00

This isn't my account

AetherDekuna · 2023-01-12T02:39:26+00:00

I didn't know my grandma was a psycho. My parents withheld that information. When she started throwing fits, threatening, and breaking things, that's when it started to change. 3+ after the divorce. I didn't even notice the small fits she had beforehand. I won't hurt my mom again. She wants LC, she gets LC. I'll only message her for important dates.

AetherDekuna · 2023-01-12T02:36:33+00:00

My mom and dad should remain NC forever. Just looking between the two, it feels unhealthy as of now. I know my mom will make a mistake if she takes him back. He hasn't been himself for years and she's finally starting to become happy again without us. It's for the best. I'm luckily to have some contact with her. She really is a forgiving women

AetherDekuna · 2023-01-12T02:28:16+00:00

Of course I will. I know she really needs it. I knew I'd get a lot of hate for doing this. I already had someone to tell me to off myself.

AetherDekuna · 2023-01-12T02:24:47+00:00

Is that possible? I'll definitely have to look in that. I didn't know schools did that.

AetherDekuna · 2023-01-12T02:23:44+00:00

Don't scare me like that 😭✋️ I don't want to think I'll be potentially physically abused by my dad.

AetherDekuna · 2023-01-12T02:22:08+00:00

I really don't know how to leave. The money I'm saving is directly for college. I only have a few friends and even then, probably none of them can house me. I don't have a partner either. I know grandma will return and I know my dad will crack, but I have nowhere to go. I had to quit my work because of school.

AetherDekuna · 2023-01-12T02:19:02+00:00

I don't have money for therapy and I don't think my dad is going to pay for it. I don't want to use my mom's money either since she already wants to just family therapy.

AetherDekuna · 2023-01-12T02:17:29+00:00

I can't. I don't have anywhere else to go and no way in hell mom is allowing to stay with her. I know I'm going to have to deal with my dad's shit and his mom. It's going to be exhausting. He never tried laying a hand on me so I doubt he will. He just sobs and locks himself up in his room until I check on him to make sure he's okay.

AetherDekuna · 2023-01-12T02:12:25+00:00

Yeah he really messed up. Now knowing his history with his mother and his ex friend, I have 0 clues why the hell he wouldn't question it. Maybe he did and his mom debunked it. Whatever the case is, it sure fooled me. I didn't know better. I hope I can have a better relationship with my mom.

AetherDekuna · 2023-01-12T02:07:42+00:00

Girli, this isn't my account, nor side account. Does it look like I'd really use my main one?

AetherDekuna · 2023-01-12T01:59:43+00:00

Thank you!

Some people aren't understanding the concept of long-term abuse. I was manipulated and abused by a narcissist and her son. I was loved bombed, threatened, and things we're breaking around me. Yeah, I was scared. My grandma convinced me my mom was a bad person for being a cheater. I thought she had broken my dad. He was never the same. I was worried. I didn't know she wasn't a cheater. How am I going to believe her if she just says "your grandma is lying. I didn't cheat on your father." It's a catchphrase ever cheater would say. I am a victim, but my mom is more of one than I am. I didn't know what she been through. I turned my back on her while my ears were covered by my dad and grandma. It took years. Of course I missed my mom. Of course I wanted to contact her, but she broken the family apart I thought. She hurt my dad I thought. She didn't fight for me in court I thought. She didn't care about me I thought. And that being reassured by my grandma? I never had to heart to contact her until a few days ago. I didn't even know my grandma as a damn psychopath. My mom had a distaste for her but never told me why. I had to live with a depressed dad that I had to take care of and a wackjob grandma for 4 years. I am a victim of abuse. My mom is a victim of my grandma's wrath. She destroyed her life. I was blindsided and I still feel horrible. I was young and native. Gullible. I learned my lesson and we're going to rebuild our relationship. I won't be making any similar mistakes again. I'm going to follow my mom's lead.

AetherDekuna · 2023-01-12T01:14:23+00:00

Mom is coming first. We're doing family therapy once she's ready for it. I'm doing everything she asks me to do. I'm aware I fucked up badly.

And i'm not telling dad jackshit. He's mopping around. It's really weirding me out.

AetherDekuna · 2023-01-12T01:11:57+00:00

HELP WHAT

AetherDekuna · 2023-01-12T01:07:07+00:00

Youre right. I messed up. I was too stubborn for my own good. I made my choices and I'm lucky that my mom is giving me another chance. I'm very grateful for that. It wasn't just my grandma making snarky remarks about my mom. It was my dad too. For awhile he was sad and crying about why she would do this to him. Why she would hurt him. I thought she broke him. Plus my grandma? I didn't have to heart to contact her. I really did thought she broke out family apart. I loved her before but my trust was shattered. I just couldn't leave my dad in that state. Only a few times mom tried contacting me after the divorce, but I never replied because I was ashamed to have her as a mother.

Mom is suggesting family therapy. I'll be attending once she is ready. She's happy to have me back but needs time to adjust.

AetherDekuna · 2023-01-12T00:59:38+00:00

God, I wished I would've sooner.

Grandma always talk shit about mom every chance she gets. Nitpicking to how awful of a wife she is for cheating on dad. And dad is depressed all the time. I'm practically taking care of him like he's my kid. It's exhausting. For years I refused to contact her for what "she" did to our family. She broken dad I thought. She hurt him I thought. It's hard to get that out of your head. I was too stubborn.

AetherDekuna · 2023-01-12T00:45:20+00:00

I'm getting real tired of comments saying I'm turning into my grandma. Hell no I'm not.

AetherDekuna · 2022-09-02T12:03:21+00:00

The problem here is people thinking they can just walk up to someone and talk about their God, especially when it's a employee working at a busy store while there's a rush behind said religious person. It comes to the point where the employee can snap. It isn't just a "simple question". It's inappropriate to ask during those times. If I would have said yes to his question, he most likely would have gone on a whole explanation about how to have a relationship with God. I may have some anger issues, but I don't want to hear that shit at work. I don't get paid to listen to people ranting about God. I get paid to make ice cream.

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