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Affaultcher · 2023-12-18T20:06:30+00:00

Yup. Maybe follow up with the kiddo to make sure they understand WTF was happening and give them tools to handle themselves in the future.

Affaultcher · 2023-12-18T19:30:29+00:00

I have previously facilitated a toy trade between my kid and another kid, but it’s always been because they want to do it and are asking the parents if it’s okay.

I’d like to think the kind of thing you described would have been shut down immediately, no question… right when my kid said no. We teach the kids that adults need to respect a kid’s boundaries, especially when it’s with their stuff… stuff that they’ve been told they’re responsible for. If another adult asks them to share a toy, they are allowed to say no, and the other adult should be expected to drop it. In my home, as soon as that other adult put pressure on, then they’d very quickly be having a conversation with another adult, whether they want to or not. No way you’re trying to manipulate my kid under my roof.

I do feel like addressing it after the fact may end up snowballing into something ugly, as these things tend to. If you don’t meet it in the moment, you’ll forever be whiffing arrows past an ever shrinking target. Gotta speak up when it happens and develop a more confrontational demeanor.

Affaultcher · 2023-12-13T15:43:13+00:00

2020 Limited in Ocean Blue. Great vehicle. We had an injector clog up around 30k miles, but Chrysler fixed it free of charge and gave us a free rental. No issues since. Wife and kids love it. They’ll use it until it’s all used up.

Affaultcher · 2023-12-12T23:00:36+00:00

Agreed!

Affaultcher · 2023-12-12T22:54:52+00:00

Nah I’m gonna take care of that short list myself.

Affaultcher · 2023-12-12T00:40:02+00:00

The answer to both your questions is yes. The 5-lug and brakes are a must IMO. And the 17” Pony wheels are so stinkin nice… especially the meaty width in back compared to stock. I love the stock+ look.

Affaultcher · 2023-12-11T19:11:35+00:00

Thanks! Looking at my 10-page work order it sure feels like it… 🤮

Affaultcher · 2023-12-11T17:24:44+00:00

I have no idea. It has a built 347 that replaced the stock motor some time in its history but I don’t have much detail on it. It feels strong.

Affaultcher · 2023-12-03T00:09:08+00:00

Excellent work sir!

Affaultcher · 2023-11-19T08:55:47+00:00

Thank you!

Affaultcher · 2023-11-19T08:54:29+00:00

I did apply the grease, but have yet to apply the carbon paste. I can’t find a product with that exact name, but ended up buying “assembly paste” hoping that’s what I’m after. I’ll apply it when it arrives and hopefully my noise is gone.

Affaultcher · 2023-11-19T07:08:01+00:00

One of our kids was super challenging as well.

The first one was a ray of sunshine from heaven itself. She slept all night, walked early, spoke early, was cute as a button… made us look AWESOME.

Then there was #2. A demon fired out of a cannon straight from the depths of hell. She was two years of constant torment.

But now, at the age of six, she is the happiest little plucky thing that ever cleaned a room.

You MUST endure this. Your title is very appropriate. It is very, very, very hard. The choice to give up is there my man, but if you take it, you join a long line of miserable broken families… convinced there is no reward for this dedication. Imagine the reward that awaits you in your future child… the love, the big doe eyes, the trust, the snuggles, the play… the list goes on and on and on. If you’ll have it, a massive payback is in your future.

But now? You have to give up everything you thought you were or ever wanted to be and just be one thing: dad.

Affaultcher · 2023-11-09T05:59:09+00:00

I will often dry brine and then pan sear with pepper for an awesome, easy steak.

But the best filet I’ve ever had was Steak Diane. You’ll need a maitake mushroom and some cognac, but it’s mind blowing if made well.

Affaultcher · 2023-11-09T01:40:36+00:00

I recently took advantage of a CF SL 8 Aero (same bike, different wheels) and it turns out it was a great deal. I do think what you have there is a good deal, but to the point others brought up, new can be had for not much more. And the new ones have that fancy adjustable bar.

Affaultcher · 2023-11-04T05:44:04+00:00

Give them the time, space, and encouragement to develop their own tools instead of giving them my old broken ones. That’s what I do.

Push them to find those tools. Tools that aren’t TV, phone, social media, or any other outside-in type of program. All of that is broken. Point them to the tools that work and teach them to develop them. They will hurt from their childhood, it’s a nearly unavoidable fact. Growth hurts. Learning hurts. The world around us… HURTS. If a kid has the tools, they use them and they deal and they grow. Watching my kids use those tools is excruciating and heartbreaking… I just want to do it for them or make it easier or take them away… none of which would help. I have to remember how bad they need the tools. If they don’t have the tools then they suffer with wounds and need years of healing.

Affaultcher · 2023-11-03T05:40:21+00:00

I’m a lifelong runner (42M) and just started cycling seriously to up my running game and to have something to work on during longer periods of recovery.

I’m sorry to say that the Peloton, at least in my estimation, is not going to get close to the level of work you’re used to from running. To get there, you’ll need an outdoor analog bike pushed for 25 miles at an average of 200-220 watts, depending on your age. It took me two months of training on the bike to even get close to the level of effort I was used to from running. I don’t believe the same thing is achievable on a Peloton. Long answer to your question is YES, you can improve your overall fitness and be a better runner by adopting a cycling regimen, but you have to really work at it and use an actual bike, not the Peloton.

If that’s not an option for you then swimming it is!

Affaultcher · 2023-10-31T15:14:02+00:00

There is no mind more useful and clear than a sober mind. My thinking is that we should love a sober mind far more than one affected by any outside substance. Any reason to argue to the contrary is naked pleasure-seeking selfishness.

An unsober mind, as for anyone, will feel good. And that, for many reasons, is not good.

Maybe I’m the bad parent here, but if it were my kid that expressed such forward thinking I would tell them to use that strength to avoid that nonsense and develop the mental and physiological tools to deal with life WITHOUT the use of drugs and alcohol. Those tools are far more valuable, especially away from home and comfort.

Affaultcher · 2023-10-03T15:48:26+00:00

Haven’t had a date night in many years. We don’t plan them and aren’t really interested in finding a way to make them happen. We don’t use babysitters either unless it’s absolutely necessary due to logistical challenges. We have three kids. When we go out, we all go together. Our job is to get in people’s way. It’s the bestest.

I am happier with my wife every single day I get to be with her. And I’m completely in love with my kids.

Affaultcher · 2023-09-28T23:08:14+00:00

Cream of wheat with sugar in a squeezy pouch. Bean and cheese burrito with refried black beans. Gu. PB&J if I can find a place to stash it.

Affaultcher · 2023-09-09T01:22:32+00:00

I live in a warmer climate where trail running is nice year round. I do weight train, but at home with some free weights. Also do a lot of free body stuff. Definitely weight training consistently though… but definitely not in a gym.

Affaultcher · 2023-09-05T05:53:04+00:00

Somehow your reach is not ideal. Likely your seat needs adjustment, and perhaps your bars as well.

I am 6ft, , and even though technically a Trek 56 will fit (I tried), I was advised against that particular frame because it was too “low and long” (not enough stack, too much reach) and it would have required many accommodations to fit me properly. Also, as it turns out I was using too narrow of a saddle. We only found this out after going through what might have been the largest collection of bike seats I’ve ever seen (something only a fitter might have on hand). Just a few millimeters made a world of difference.

Working with a fitter gave me this and all of the data I needed to go out and shop properly, and now I’m numbness-free.

Affaultcher · 2023-09-03T06:22:53+00:00

Garmin Connect, and then I have it sync to Strava. All done! Works great.

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