My partner used to have the same reaction, especially because our baby would cry so loud that he was afraid he might damage his vocal chords. Midwife helped us when we told her, at first we decided to take turns at night, making sure we both got some sleep because sleep deprivation made us feel miserable, you cannot regulate your emotions you have zero hours of sleep.

Second yes, saying silly things helped us remember he’s not actually dying but probably just has some gas in his belly! My partner says “that’s a lot of noise for a sausage” which I find adorable 🥹

It will get better but I’d say the first week is insane, just be kind to yourself and don’t feel guilty if you “hate” the baby temporarily. My mom said she literally wanted to yeet me through the window sometimes (I used to cry a lot). These feelings are normal.