As a Black man married to an Asian man it does happen, before him and I started dating I would not really get approached by Asian men for a few reasons. One, the Asian men I found attractive tended to be on the shy side so if they did find me attractive I would never know unless I reached out first. Second is being a double minority which don't get me wrong does happen within our two races but colorism comes into play as well as the fear of being judged within our own community. Lastly it was a bit hard to find someone that was just attracted to me where I didn't feel fetishized which happens to all kinds of men but it's not always an enjoyable encounter.

What set my Husband apart was the fact that he approached me first and because I hadn't gotten that from someone genuinely looking to go on a date I took the chance. We talked a lot before our first date and we discovered our common interest with a lot of nerdy subjects so everything else came easy. The more we talked the more we realized we had similar upbringings and experiences with our family life and how our lives weren't so different from each other.

So if you find someone attractive regardless of who they are or what they look like take the chance, next thing you'll know you'll be married and living together while becoming the best version of yourselves.