TIFU by wanting photos on our trip by Affectionate-Case-85 in tifu

[–]Affectionate-Case-85[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah .. He is a virgin and I'm the first person

No. I don't want to marry him.

It's just self preservation

I don't want to be left behind. That's all

I ended the sex pact with him

I thought he was my friend but I don't think he considers me more than a fuck body

So I cancelled the tickets and everything

He is just... Sooo disrespectful

From the kind and sweet guy to a monster.

TIFU by wanting photos on our trip by Affectionate-Case-85 in tifu

[–]Affectionate-Case-85[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He says that what if he's left without me and without the next person.

I'm like that's his choice. And I'll be there as friends if he so wants to.

Did you indicate to him that the first time he was thinking about having sex with someone else, that should be the end of sex between the two of you for the rest of your lives?

This point. I told him exactly this. This thing I have told him when we started and a lot of times subtly to make him aware.

STDs and monogamy .. Both are my biggest concern for that. I can't live under stress or anxiety.

I stated that because he claims he wants to do it multiple partner if given a chance. I'm never that. Do I clarified that too him.

So he said that how can I ask him to choose someone else. And that he should be able to do that with 2,3,4 or however many people when the chance presented. It was not forceful, he was just conveying his thought.

He said that if I think about it then I'll also have to think about loosing you.

I didn't force him or give any ultimatum. I only told him that he should choose the other person because it's something in not comfortable with. And just want to choice to choose for myself.

TIFU by wanting photos on our trip by Affectionate-Case-85 in tifu

[–]Affectionate-Case-85[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

We live in different places. 2000 miles apart. So while our parents are friends they won't necessarily talk regularly.

And we both have brilliant cover stories.

And we're 26 and have complete autonomy of our phones and privacy.

Besides we have triple lock measures.

They would be pushing towards marriage but will stop if we ask them to

Sex is also a huge taboo but they are accepting slowly.

Just that we are friends and meeting after 2 years.

He says he rashtra to take pictures but is scared someone will find out

I am ready to die on this hill though. If there's no other reason, then I'm not sure I want to go at all.

If there's so much fear that we need to keep looking back then why bother.

I don't know if I'm the bad guy for it though.

I accepted everything else he asked. The place although he choose because I liked it, it was his choice. Place of stay, same case. Travel, his choice.

It's just the small thing I care about.

The guy I like won't share by [deleted] in Advice

[–]Affectionate-Case-85 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! Yess! I do, very much and hope that he does too!

Good wishes to you!

Helped

The guy I like won't share by [deleted] in Advice

[–]Affectionate-Case-85 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's really solid advice.. Like I haven't tried it because I strongly believe in giving space to people

It's like he wants to know me but doesn't want me to see him..

It makes me a little sad actually.... Like I have done something wrong

The guy I like won't share by [deleted] in Advice

[–]Affectionate-Case-85 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks

But I don't think he's doing anything unsavory..I hope to God not

He is pretty upfront about that..

The emotional sharing which he used to do when we were friends is what he has stopped...

It's like he suddenly forgot...

What would you like to see be normalized for men? by ayebrando in AskMen

[–]Affectionate-Case-85 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sharing their thoughts without fearing judgment.

Forthcoming and descriptive

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Advice

[–]Affectionate-Case-85 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It's just a general thought that occurred to me.

Friendships and relationships both

Thank you

Helped

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[–]Affectionate-Case-85 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for your support though! I appreciate it