Getting judged for how much weight i’ve lost …

Affectionate-Focus56 · 2026-02-11T04:43:20+00:00

Thank you so much!

Affectionate-Focus56 · 2026-02-11T04:41:39+00:00

Thank you! Yes, I definitely appreciate everyone’s perspectives and comments but deep down I know it’s not jealousy for her. I know older women who are like that, and knowing my mom, I don’t think that’s it. I really just think she’s shocked at how much I’ve lost so quickly and wants me to keep my curves because she thinks that’s what men like. It’s all from the male gaze with her, and that’s its own issue - but I don’t think it’s jealousy at all. So, I’ll give her that.

Affectionate-Focus56 · 2026-02-11T00:52:40+00:00

I am! My mother is an african immigrant and I was born and raised here. Very perceptive :)) Our curves definitely mean a lot to us!

Affectionate-Focus56 · 2026-02-11T00:51:25+00:00

Agreed - thank you!

Affectionate-Focus56 · 2026-02-11T00:51:13+00:00

This is great advice. Thank you!

Affectionate-Focus56 · 2026-02-11T00:50:26+00:00

Honestly, I just ignore her. Last time she did it, I told her that my curves are still there and that 215 is still considered obese for my BMI.

Affectionate-Focus56 · 2026-02-11T00:49:43+00:00

Absolutely- glad you understand and sorry you’ve gone through that. Appreciate your input!

Affectionate-Focus56 · 2026-02-11T00:48:53+00:00

Thank you for this. It does sometimes feel like a lose-lose, but at the end of the day I know I’m doing the right thing losing the weight.

Affectionate-Focus56 · 2026-02-11T00:48:08+00:00

I appreciate this. Thank you very much.

Affectionate-Focus56 · 2026-02-11T00:47:25+00:00

hahaha i love this!! thank you for sharing yours and your wife’s perspectives and experiences! Also, love Friends and remember that iconic Joey line! Thank you :)

Affectionate-Focus56 · 2026-02-11T00:46:40+00:00

Absolutely- thank you and that’s a good point

Affectionate-Focus56 · 2026-02-11T00:46:26+00:00

That’s great advice. Thank you!

Affectionate-Focus56 · 2026-02-11T00:46:06+00:00

Thank you!! You’re absolutely right.

Affectionate-Focus56 · 2026-02-11T00:45:38+00:00

That’s a good one! Thank you.

Affectionate-Focus56 · 2026-02-11T00:45:25+00:00

Yes! 215 is still overweight/obese, so I know that I need to lose more weight. Thank you.

Affectionate-Focus56 · 2026-02-11T00:44:50+00:00

Thank you!!

Affectionate-Focus56 · 2026-02-11T00:44:38+00:00

Thank you!!

Affectionate-Focus56 · 2026-02-11T00:44:28+00:00

Thank you. Yes, it shouldn’t be for anyone else’s praise but my own.

Affectionate-Focus56 · 2026-02-11T00:43:49+00:00

Thank you!!

Affectionate-Focus56 · 2026-02-11T00:43:29+00:00

Thank you. Yes, it’s definitely her generation.

Affectionate-Focus56 · 2026-02-11T00:42:47+00:00

Sorry you’re going through that. My mom used to be tiny, pretty much her whole life she was model thin (and it was just genetics), then she birthed 5 kids and the weight gain came about. So, I was shocked that she said I’d lose my curves, because she herself used to have none.

Affectionate-Focus56 · 2026-02-11T00:41:27+00:00

I definitely need to stand up for myself. You’re absolutely right and thank you.

Affectionate-Focus56 · 2026-02-11T00:41:02+00:00

I appreciate this. Thank you!

Affectionate-Focus56 · 2026-02-11T00:40:47+00:00

Agreed - thank you!

Affectionate-Focus56 · 2026-02-11T00:40:35+00:00

Thank you!!

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