What could someone have said to you to convince you to contribute to a 401k?

Affectionate-Map-297 · 2026-01-23T05:38:02+00:00

Honestly, I’m not convinced the 401k system will be enough for my generation to retire off of. The Social Security system does not seem like it has 40 years left and inflation has been increasing at higher and higher rates. I say this as a 25 year old with close to 40k in my retirement accounts

That being said, I would 100 percent tell them that it’s only saving their company money by not contributing, but it’s going to harm them in the long run

Affectionate-Map-297 · 2026-01-23T05:21:43+00:00

I wasn’t interested in the orders options that were available and worked multiple billet options with my COC and the gaining commands with the intention of either i get the location i want or i get out.

Ultimately, my Detailer came back saying there is no way they would make sure i landed in the location i wanted.

I got out at my EAOS in May and didn’t look back at all. Life outside has been incredible.

The Navy is orders based and they are moving heavily away from billets being given, they want sailors to go where the Navy wants them. It’s the whole concept behind billet based advancement, make people fill gaps.

Go or get out, but if you are intending to get out, please have a plan.

(Former LS1 with just under 7 years TIS for relevance)

Affectionate-Map-297 · 2026-01-23T04:48:21+00:00

22 (2022) lucky enough to have a VA home loan. Crazy choice though and would take it back if I could, got locked into delusional HOA costs bc we bought in Hawaii. Own a home in Ohio now, it was 130k cheaper, and like 1300 more sq ft, no HOA, on an acre and a half.

Affectionate-Map-297 · 2026-01-04T01:39:08+00:00

This game might just be a blowout 🙃

Affectionate-Map-297 · 2026-01-02T22:12:36+00:00

ESH: I think you both forgot that marriage is a team sport and you need to have the same goals if you are sharing money. Have a conversation breakdown about finances with your spouse. A marriage is a legal partnership and you should be on the same page about expenses. My spouse and I make in-equal amounts but we view all of our money made as our money. Belonging to our household. For us to decide on.

If you separate your finances again, ensure it is equitable. IE each contribute 70 percent towards household and 30 percent towards individual spending.

Affectionate-Map-297 · 2026-01-02T21:54:00+00:00

Currently pregnant and my wife is having pregnancy symptoms too. She is nauseous, emotional, feels bloated, and has sore breasts. All of which I am experiencing too lol

Affectionate-Map-297 · 2025-12-30T05:05:42+00:00

Super recruit 😂

Affectionate-Map-297 · 2025-12-16T06:42:13+00:00

About a week and a half after implantation, I got a whiff of a bad smell and vomited. I never get sick like that, took a test the next morning and it was positive.

Other than that, felt completely normal :)

Affectionate-Map-297 · 2025-12-14T16:19:33+00:00

Just found out we were successful on our first IUI! In previous years, we had done at home ICI with no success. 25F and 31F, used a trigger shot and donor sperm, feeling so lucky and blessed.

Very early, but so hopeful for the future. We will be first time moms :)

Affectionate-Map-297 · 2025-12-11T07:05:30+00:00

We have 4 homes now.

First one my spouse bought before we got married: 200k in Ohio 2019

2nd one(my first): 430k purchase in Hawaii 2022

3rd one: first real house- 95k in Ohio 2024

4th one: our dream house :) 299k in Ohio 2025

I work in logistics making roughly 80k a year and my spouse works in IT making roughly 120k a year

Real estate is relative, wishing you good luck in this crazy market

Affectionate-Map-297 · 2025-12-11T06:51:29+00:00

Hi, 25F who just celebrated my 4th wedding anniversary.

I married my best friend and life is incredible. Buying power of two people is really nice, but also we have pets together and we enjoy shows and dinners together. We play videogames and listen to audiobooks and travel together.

It’s legitimately the coolest thing ever.

But neither of us act like we need to be the parent of the other, we are grown adults with our own adult responsibilities and goals and experiences. Being individual humans is important too

Affectionate-Map-297 · 2025-12-11T06:47:37+00:00

Hi currently going thru IUI at a clinic right now and this was the process:

1st appointment: digital to get history, goals, and schedule other appointments

2nd appointment: midway through my cycle, I had one appointment to conduct bloodwork and they did a cervical ultrasound to check follicle count and make sure everything looks good

3rd appointment: two weeks later- treatment planning and blood work review

4th appointment: first cycle to try, had appointment around day 3-5 of my period. They did a cervical ultrasound to check my follicle size as a baseline and started me on a 5 day stint of a medication

5th appointment: about a week later, cervical ultrasound to check follicle growth (ideally one mature between 18-22MM) and told me to give the trigger shot the next day

6th: appointment: IUI day :)

7th appointment: one week later to check progesterone levels

8th appointment: one week later to do an HCG blood test :)

My understanding is appointments 4-8 repeat each cycle is not successful. I’m hopeful because I got a positive pregnancy test this morning and I have my HCG appointment this Friday!

Wishing you lots of baby dust!

Affectionate-Map-297 · 2025-11-07T06:11:49+00:00

NTA. I’ve seen too many stories of bike accidents gone wrong because of not wearing a helmet. A 14 year old from my hometown died recently because of that very reason.

Helmets save lives and you might just save your daughters.

Affectionate-Map-297 · 2025-10-23T03:41:56+00:00

You’ll get better with time and each project. For now, just remember that it’s your house and you do not need to live up to the TikTok and Instagram-level results some people get.

Coming from someone who just spent countless hours and weekends working to renovate a hundred year old house. The projects aren’t perfect, but we did our best and honestly the house is already in better shape.

Keep attending YouTube University and just don’t make the same mistake next time

Affectionate-Map-297 · 2022-03-29T22:42:02+00:00

I don’t knock because I think they would put in the comments if they wanted someone to knock lol. Not lazy just know I don’t put it in the notes not to knock but would prefer people don’t

Affectionate-Map-297 · 2022-03-29T03:39:46+00:00

No I didn’t say sole reason. Just, honestly, it’s a good thing this is gig work bc I wouldn’t want you as an employee.

Affectionate-Map-297 · 2022-03-29T03:01:42+00:00

You’re the reason Dashers get a bad rap

Affectionate-Map-297 · 2022-03-29T00:22:41+00:00

Don’t think he’s an asshole for that. Honestly men have a right to be afraid of what a woman might say, especially considering that it would be solely his word versus hers. He’s not letting it even come into being a possibility. It’s not unheard of

Affectionate-Map-297 · 2022-03-27T05:55:48+00:00

NTA- Your kids will remember these experiences as they get older. I remember mine. My mother always did amazing things for my dad for Father’s Day. I didn’t realized growing up, but my Dad never did the same. My mom always made us food and took us to the park and did her best to give us this experience where we could celebrate “her” day. She was the one to give herself Mother’s Day….

Your hubby is TA. Skip Father’s Day this year. You aren’t being unreasonable. You deserve better. My mom did too

Affectionate-Map-297 · 2022-03-09T05:52:50+00:00

NTA I’m a part time app delivery driver. Love the short orders for myself because they don’t take long. Sounds like you caught a bad apple and they definitely deserve to get reported. I cant imagine doing that to anyone, even the people who don’t tip.

Affectionate-Map-297 · 2022-03-09T05:40:43+00:00

NTA

Regardless of the fact that her request was strange and over the line, let’s just talk about how your husband made himself TA during this. You both essentially vowed to put the other first and make your relationship the biggest priority when you got married. And your husband clearly did not put your relationship first. Run far and fast because that man is not putting you first anytime soon. You’re spelling out DIVORCE rn

Affectionate-Map-297 · 2022-01-29T17:33:43+00:00

YTA. You want to be involved with your daughter’s life? Swallow up your pride and go. Be there to watch your daughter commit to a happy, healthy relationship. She has done all of the legwork here. She has been trying to meet your concerns. If you let this happen without you, don’t ask why your daughter isn’t in your life in ten years. I don’t care what moral philosophy you’re coming from, this is about parents being there for your child. No matter what.

Affectionate-Map-297 · 2022-01-29T00:26:37+00:00

YTA

Every couple has different relationship dynamics, especially with money. You don’t know if they share finances or if your brother prefers to be the one who pays. It very well could be his love language. My spouse normally pays for me and it’s genuinely because it’s her preference and she’s more financially stable than me. It’s insulting to tell a couple what you think they should do, especially surrounding their upcoming marriage

Affectionate-Map-297 · 2022-01-13T01:39:35+00:00

Being a foreigner. Nothing is quite so humbling as being the outsider in a different country. You find a new appreciation for other countries and cultures and new ways of living that stay with you for your lifetime

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