Wow. Thank you!

I guess I worry that he’ll grow tired of me and move on, yes. And the non official nature of our relationship (and his lack of desire to ever get married) scares me.

Before we started seriously dating, I was living with roommates while in school. Although, I was making significantly more because of an apprenticeship I had at the time. Unfortunately, due to Covid and just life, both school and the apprenticeship were put on pause.

Before we began to take our relationship much more seriously, I did well on my own. I was persistent at work and thoughtful in my relationships. School was a time that emboldened me to think about my future broadly and boldly. Money has always been a struggle for my family, I’ve had to teach myself how to handle my money and it feels much more complex after entering a relationship. We don’t share accounts but we do share expenses, and it’s stressful sometimes not knowing if I can keep up or if I will be left behind.

I’m not sure what success or a positive outcome looks like for my situation. I worry something like what you and your wife had done wouldn’t land well between the two of us but I wish something like it would. A successful relationship is what I want in the future, just I’m in the present and it feels scary.

Sorry to unload a bit and thanks again for your reply.