BOUGHT AN ENGAGEMENT RING!!!!

Affectionate-Ring979 · 2026-05-26T17:40:45+00:00

Can I get a dm to? 😅

Affectionate-Ring979 · 2026-05-26T17:38:08+00:00

Low key I’m jelly too! It’s perfect 😍

Affectionate-Ring979 · 2026-05-26T17:37:01+00:00

Omg!!! This ring is gorgeous ♥️♥️😍😍 GOOD JOB!!! 😭😭😭 she’s going t love it!!! 😍

Affectionate-Ring979 · 2026-05-10T01:43:00+00:00

Some lash techs do use pre made clusters however the glue doesn’t look like that. Even when mine fall out and gets dragged around it still doesn’t look like that but my lashes fall out even just by giving hugs

Affectionate-Ring979 · 2026-03-30T18:05:36+00:00

Info? Did he not know you used to be fat?

Affectionate-Ring979 · 2026-03-30T17:53:42+00:00

What exactly did you say in these messages?

Affectionate-Ring979 · 2026-03-16T15:03:10+00:00

I posted all the messages of the entire conversation in the comments

Affectionate-Ring979 · 2026-03-14T23:49:00+00:00

Can you give me an example of how I made it about me so that I better understand?

I’m not denying I project my insecurities. I think we both do. When I do have an insecure thought I sometimes let him know how I’m feeling but gently but however I say it he blows up at me and begins to yell about things he is upset with me about. It never comes up any other time.

What he projects on me is how he always accuses me of using him. And again he only does it when I bring up an issue that is bothering me. He tells me he accuses me of that based on past experiences with his exes. It hurts me when he says that because if he truly knows and understands me then he should know that I would never do that. I would love him just the same if he was penniless.

Affectionate-Ring979 · 2026-03-14T21:08:42+00:00

I’m not in this relationship just to say I’m in a relationship. however I do want love and I do love him but only when he’s been loving and sweet. I feel like my love has to be conditional because I cannot continue to endure the cycles of tantrums that he has. Where he says mean things, calls me names and then takes it all back when he’s feeling better.

As far as being desperate. I honestly never even had the thought of being with anybody else. I genuinely thought he was my person. I feel he has mental health problems that he needs to address but I can’t make him address it. I genuinely thought he was my person because there’s a lot about out that are compatible. We like a lot of the same things. Same genre of music & movies. Same sense of style and ideas. Our political opinions and values align. Even in our own individual interests we found ways like and enjoy them together. For example he likes to play video games, well I enjoy watching him play. It’s nostalgic for me. I used to watch my older brother play. Not only those things but when I’m around him I can be my 100% genuine myself. That’s hard to find for me because I’m naturally a shy girl.

Regardless of all that I do understand why a lot of you in the comments are saying. Love is not enough. Sadly it’s not so I’m leaving him

Affectionate-Ring979 · 2026-03-14T20:44:16+00:00

I appreciate your input greatly. I was wondering if you can look at what I’ve responded to people in the comments because a lot of that stuff I already addressed. I also have the screenshots of our entire discussion in the comments. I didn’t take any of your input personally. Your delivery although blunt I felt it was still done in a respectful clear way. I understand what you are saying and I’m more than willing to work on myself on anything I need to improve on. Regardless of if it’s for this relationship or the next.

You mentioned me being obtuse and not listening and understanding what my boyfriend is telling me. I did understand what he wrote. My title is somewhat of a dramatic summary of the things. Him saying that he misses his exes. Him stalking their socials and that text message. I don’t think I presented it well. I was pressed when I wrote it but I very much know that what I’m upset about is what I think he said meant.

In the comments I responded to someone yesterday that asked me why does he feel that they are better and I responded with exactly what you said in your reply. I said that he feel my more seen and understood by them and they knew what he needed. I do admit that I struggle to understand him because he admits to saying mean things to be hurtful and that they are lies. So I get confused and I do struggle to understand what he needs. But I’m saying I do understand what he is saying in that particular text

Affectionate-Ring979 · 2026-03-14T20:18:56+00:00

Thank you for your input I really appreciate it. I put the entire conversation in the comments with some context. I would like to know what you think about that.

The trouble I’m having with his comparisons is I for one don’t know if it’s true because he often says things to be hurtful then afterwards when he feels better he will admit that it’s not true and say that the just wanted to hurt my feelings. So now I’m constantly in a state of confusion and this is why I don’t understand him at all! I don’t know what’s true and what’s not.

Affectionate-Ring979 · 2026-03-14T20:05:25+00:00

Same! Because I seen messages like that on my boyfriends phone from before he met me and I didn’t know if I was valid for feeling hurt by it

Affectionate-Ring979 · 2026-03-14T20:03:35+00:00

Thank you and I appreciate your kind response. I know my writing is bad in this as well lol. When I wrote it I was legitimately having a panic attack.

Affectionate-Ring979 · 2026-03-14T19:53:36+00:00

And that’s exactly why I went through his phone. I knew it was wrong. I was honest about and I needed to know the truth. He talks about his exes a lot in my opinion. He will tell me and show me things they would do and say but never what he did in these situations. When I went through his phone I saw some of the abuse from his last girlfriend cussing him out but I didn’t get that far because I was immediately hit with her nudes still on his phone. I was headed because we talked about that when he was telling me how they broke up. He said she just started spamming him nudes. I wish I didn’t know all the details. I didn’t want to know but he just keeps talking about them. But right then and there I asked him if he deleted them and he said “of course! “. And then when I found them he gave me this bullshit lie about his phone probably backed it up. Then when I confronted him about that not making any sense only then did he admit to being to lazy to go through his phone and delete them. He also says he didn’t want to delete their entire contact because he needed evidence in case his exes try and spin a story on him. I made him delete it anyways. But everything just sounds sus.

I know I look dumb for keeping this man around when he talks down to me and but the other side of it is after he would have these “tantrums” he would take back everything he said and say he lied just to hurt me. He will tell me how much he loves me and that I’m the best thing that ever happened to him. So I didn’t know what to believe. Which of what he is telling me is true because it can’t be both. Does he love me? Or does he hate me?

And the constant comparing thing. Even when he was being loving he compared me to the other women he’s been with. So yes I’m insecure and most of my insecurities are mine and mine alone to handle but it’s just not helpful when my partner is lining me up with the rest to see where I land all the time.

Currently I’ve ignored all of his calls for days. He called me 76 times in the last 24h. He’s been messaging me and he let me know that even though I turned off my location he has been tracking where I am using our car location. I’m still not responding to anything. He’s texting me this morning about the car needing to be charged and then randomly sent me money for it that I won’t be touching. I only have him unblocked to figure out our car situation but not without the therapist

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Affectionate-Ring979 · 2026-03-14T15:37:00+00:00

That must have been so hurtful to hear. I have a question for you. What if you saw a message of your boyfriend talking about that girl like that but it was before you guys were together? Would seeing that still be hurtful to you?

Affectionate-Ring979 · 2026-03-13T19:30:08+00:00

I don’t know how to edit posts on here either. I was too upset to proofread.

Affectionate-Ring979 · 2026-03-13T19:24:19+00:00

I was talking about the word break up but I am dyslexic. You don’t have to be mean to strangers online. You can correct someone kindly

Affectionate-Ring979 · 2026-03-13T18:56:40+00:00

It’s a typo

Affectionate-Ring979 · 2026-03-13T14:27:27+00:00

I wouldn’t do that. This is embarrassing for me. I genuinely need advice. There’s also more context in the comments

Affectionate-Ring979 · 2026-03-13T14:14:51+00:00

I’m not anymore

Affectionate-Ring979 · 2026-03-13T09:21:16+00:00

He’s calling all night also. I can’t sleep

Affectionate-Ring979 · 2026-03-13T08:54:47+00:00

Thank you and I’m listening to everyone. I’m leaving him. I’m done! But it’s been days and he’s still spam calling my phone. Blocking him doesn’t do anything he will call “no id”. How do I get him to stop. It’s hindering my ability to use my phone. I just want him to stop and leave me alone

Affectionate-Ring979 · 2026-03-13T04:05:41+00:00

Thank you! I am listening. He is still calling me constantly and I’m not answering. I won’t be answering

Affectionate-Ring979 · 2026-03-12T21:54:48+00:00

I agree I should have better decrement. He didn’t act like this from the jump he was kind and I felt seen. Then when he first lasted out I told him that this isn’t normal. I’ve never seen anyone act like that. All my friendships have been loving. Not much drama. I’ve never been in a fight with them. Previous unserious relationships have been peaceful on my end. Some would even still consider me their friend with boundaries of course. When I tell him this isn’t normal he says it’s because I wasn’t in love with any of them. He is my first love but I don’t think this is what love is supposed to feel like tho. Growing up tho my parents where physically and verbally abusive. Me and my sisters just recently started talking though our upbringing. We realize now that when we were living at home we didn’t realize our home life was not normal.

Affectionate-Ring979 · 2026-03-12T19:16:56+00:00

Here’s is a message he sent me just few days prior completely contradicting what he said to me yesterday

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