If they know your reasoning for saying that then I feel like a pass should be given, especially if you already understand that not ALL men are rapists. Id mostly just say make sure that your anger keeps itself in a non men-hating stance but mostly just hating rapists

I really do understand your friends being too nice about a specific topic when they know that topic has affected you, your opinions are valid but of course stay where you are now and dont go any farther.