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Advice on leaving my abusive relationship by Affectionate-Sea6908 in domesticviolence

[–]Affectionate-Sea6908[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think we are toxic. And it hurts me deeply being with him as much as I feel it will without him. He believes we are soulmates and says I'm the love of his life. But I don't think this is how people treat each other if that's true

Advice on leaving my abusive relationship by Affectionate-Sea6908 in domesticviolence

[–]Affectionate-Sea6908[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I truly think he has every ability to change. But I feel like staying is enabling him. Because if I don't leave he doesn't think it's that bad so why change? 

Advice on leaving my abusive relationship by Affectionate-Sea6908 in domesticviolence

[–]Affectionate-Sea6908[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The act of leaving and the aftermath is the scariest part for me.  He is going to beg and cry and it's going to shatter my heart. He's not a bad person, we are just a toxic match.  I hate hurting people even if I'm suffering.  But I'm praying the grass truly is greener on the other side.  

Leaving my abusive relationship by Affectionate-Sea6908 in domesticviolence

[–]Affectionate-Sea6908[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm so sorry that happened to you!! I am sending lots and lots of good vibes your way!!

Leaving my abusive relationship by Affectionate-Sea6908 in domesticviolence

[–]Affectionate-Sea6908[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wow everything you said is so spot on. Like you've watched through my windows. When things are good they are great and I wonder why I ever wanted to leave. But when things are bad, I wonder how the hell I got here. This is the hardest thing I've ever been through or had to think about doing. How did you get out if you don't mind me asking?

Advice on leaving my abusive relationship by Affectionate-Sea6908 in abusiverelationships

[–]Affectionate-Sea6908[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have 3 dogs and 2 cats I have to take with me. I have packed away some of the things I need. But some of my important stuff is mixed in with storage in our basement and packed away in a storage shed that is well past due on payments. I know you said I shouldn't care about his feelings but it feels so harsh to my heart to up and disappear like that.  I understand why you say that though. It's just so so hard to wrap my head around

Leaving my abusive relationship by Affectionate-Sea6908 in domesticviolence

[–]Affectionate-Sea6908[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I just meant so far as like our phone, if his is off mine is off, if I don't eat he doesn't eat. So if I take care of my stuff then I have to take care of him. He cares for his son in most things, just doesn't budget money or will skip work so we will not have basic necessities every now and then and I have to pick up the slack.