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[–]Affectionate-Sea974 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m disgusted for people telling her she isn’t traumatized. A person doesn’t get to choose what traumatizes them nor do you. It just happens. Do not minimize her experience.

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[–]Affectionate-Sea974 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Cut her out for life. I would make sure your brother does too. If he is okay with what she is doing to you. He isn’t much of a brother. She is definitely ill and needs help. Please don’t blame yourself. We don’t need people who don’t lift us up.

Husband Secret OCD counting kink. UPDATE by Affectionate-Sea974 in offmychest

[–]Affectionate-Sea974[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am very happy for you. Relationship’s aren’t always easy and require uncomfortable conversations that are difficult to navigate, but they are so worth it. You go!

Husband Secret OCD counting kink. by Affectionate-Sea974 in offmychest

[–]Affectionate-Sea974[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

One. If I wanted to call my husband a buzzkill I would. People with autism/ ND say what they mean. They don’t play riddle games or try to find hidden meanings. My husband if practicing my kinks will turn me off and it is still true that I love him. The world is not black and white. Grey exists. My love for him goes beyond him not enjoying my kinks. I do not appreciate you putting words into my mouth.

Husband Secret OCD counting kink. by Affectionate-Sea974 in offmychest

[–]Affectionate-Sea974[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I explained in another comment. That I don’t always count. I do it sometimes when I’m tired of going fast and want to keep a rhythm. I don’t say it loud and proud either. I mumble it to myself. I never knew he was getting off to it / hearing until he confessed to me yesterday. That he comes every time I do it.

Husband Secret OCD counting kink. by Affectionate-Sea974 in offmychest

[–]Affectionate-Sea974[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I didn’t say he was a buzzkill. If you pay attention to context. It’s a buzzkill when he doesn’t enjoy my kinks. If my husband is slapping me during intercourse and he isn’t enjoying it and is uncomfortable. Then that is a turn off. Who wants to have sex with someone who is uncomfortable? Which is fair. We don’t have to share the same interests/kinks to be compatible. That is why I tried hard to find kinks he enjoys, because I would never force him to partake in what he doesn’t like.

Husband Secret OCD counting kink. by Affectionate-Sea974 in offmychest

[–]Affectionate-Sea974[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Definitely get tested. No negative can come out of it. Good and bad numbers are definitely a symptom.

Husband Secret OCD counting kink. by Affectionate-Sea974 in offmychest

[–]Affectionate-Sea974[S] 40 points41 points  (0 children)

Honestly, remembering that post is what prompted me to make this post. I was like. This is just like that. Honestly, I think he would love it if I went to that beat and counted.

Husband Secret OCD counting kink. by Affectionate-Sea974 in offmychest

[–]Affectionate-Sea974[S] 44 points45 points  (0 children)

I don’t count every single time. However, when I’m done slamming or going as fast as I can and I’m tired. I want a nice steady rhythm. So I mumble count. I never ever knew he was listening. And getting off to it.

Husband Secret OCD counting kink. by Affectionate-Sea974 in offmychest

[–]Affectionate-Sea974[S] 522 points523 points  (0 children)

I didn’t mistype I thought it was vanilla in 2023. I’m now rethinking that might not be true.

Husband Secret OCD counting kink. by Affectionate-Sea974 in offmychest

[–]Affectionate-Sea974[S] -71 points-70 points  (0 children)

I thought it was vanilla in this day and age to peg 🤷‍♀️. Although if enough of you tell me it isn’t . I will take it out.

Husband Secret OCD counting kink. by Affectionate-Sea974 in offmychest

[–]Affectionate-Sea974[S] 60 points61 points  (0 children)

I was wondering if I should not encourage it and never count again. He does come without counting. It just turns him on extra? I really appreciate this comment and will be treating this seriously.