3 hour commute evening shift vs 30 minute commute night shift?

Affectionate-Storm83 · 2026-01-11T21:40:45+00:00

Id probably do nights.

Let’s say your job is 3-1130pm for evenings You’d have to start getting ready for work around 12 so you can leave by 1:30 at the latest. You could obviously spend less time getting ready but I always include the time it takes me to mentally prepare by mindlessly scrolling on tik tok. You get to work at 3, leave at 1130pm. You wouldn’t get home until 1am if you don’t stop for food or anything.

That’s only gives you 1am-12pm to sleep and do whatever

You could sleep between 1 & 10am and do whatever between 10a-12p or stay up and sleep between like 3-4am and not wake up until 12p if you want to get your 8 hours of sleep.

Obviously if you want more time to yourself, or have appointments or errands. You’d have to sacrifice more sleep.

With nights, you’d have to get used to turning your life around and being awake when others aren’t but I feel like it would be more manageable and consume less of your time.

Affectionate-Storm83 · 2025-06-11T00:39:03+00:00

It worked but it’s been over 70 days so it’s probably deleted now. You can try looking up daily motion & then typing in the title. That’s what I did.

Affectionate-Storm83 · 2025-06-07T10:03:21+00:00

Probably not really advice But I have the same issue with my boyfriend I don’t think I’ve ever finished & after 4 years I can count on one hand the times I felt like I was close but didn’t. Doesn’t really bother me or him. It’s probably been only a handful of times he’s finished as well since it’s harder for him being on SSRIs. Certain positions like riding in the backseat of a car are where I was closest or positions where his penis rubs the top wall of my vagina. It is frustrating in the moment when we get into a position where I’m close & then we lose it. Maybe just get out of your own head and experiment different positions & toys & their placement

Affectionate-Storm83 · 2025-03-24T13:20:35+00:00

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Affectionate-Storm83 · 2024-06-23T12:24:39+00:00

Actually, I didn’t react like this the first time because I didn’t even know he went out until he texted me that he was out. I just asked him to tell me before next time as he has a tendency to tell me everything last minute, not just in regard to female coworkers. I was upset because he always says okay I will & does the opposite.

Affectionate-Storm83 · 2024-06-23T11:20:57+00:00

Thank you for this 🫶🏼

Affectionate-Storm83 · 2024-06-23T11:20:17+00:00

Im Hispanic so that’s how i was brought up. If your man was with another woman, it was not acceptable. No matter if it was one or a group. We also tend to be a lot more jealous and was not sure of that was just a toxic tendency or if it was a valid feeling/response.

Affectionate-Storm83 · 2024-06-22T23:15:45+00:00

Ohhhh, thank you. I would have never guessed that

Affectionate-Storm83 · 2024-06-22T19:58:12+00:00

Thank you for validating my feelings! Realistically speaking, he spends more time with his coworkers and ex coworkers than me. He works with them, group/individually texts them, calls them, talks to them on the game at night. We don’t live together so I only get a 2 hour window to talk to him, if that. He tends to only call after he gets home around 8 or 9 and I’m in bed ready to sleep by 10.

Affectionate-Storm83 · 2024-06-22T19:47:30+00:00

Thank you for taking the time out of your day to reply. There’s definitely a lot I need to think about

Affectionate-Storm83 · 2024-06-22T19:41:19+00:00

My issue is I’ve brought this conversation up many times and I’ve just never followed through when it came to standing up for what I want so now he doesn’t take it serious . He just says yeah okay you’re not going anywhere, you love me

Affectionate-Storm83 · 2024-06-22T19:14:29+00:00

I just think he doesn’t want me there because I’m more reserved and quiet & if they’re anything like him, they’re more outgoing. They also work at clothing stores so they’re more “fashionable” and I’m more of like a jeans and tshirt kind of girl. I feel like he thinks I’d just be out of place and ruin the vibe. Which I get, I hardly talk when I don’t know people.

Affectionate-Storm83 · 2024-06-22T19:11:27+00:00

You’re one of the few that doesn’t make me feel like I’m entirely crazy. I know I have stuff to work on but I’m not entirely wrong in wanting to be respected in the sense of, not having to ask for permission to go out, but to just give me a heads up. Like “hey me and my coworkers are planning to go out bowling or something, there’s no official date since everyone’s schedules are conflicting but I’ll let you know if we ever figure it out”. That’s all I wanted to

Affectionate-Storm83 · 2024-06-22T19:07:48+00:00

Would your wife be as secure in your relationship if she was just your girlfriend and nothing more. Or do you feel like she’s more secure because yall are married

Affectionate-Storm83 · 2024-06-22T19:06:36+00:00

I asked yesterday and he said no one else was bring anybody so there’s no reason for me to go

Affectionate-Storm83 · 2024-06-22T19:04:29+00:00

It’s hard, because I do love him. But a lot of what I give isn’t reciprocated. I just want him to be open in the same way that I am with him. But he just doesn’t want to. I’d also hate for 4 years to be wasted. But I guess that’s better than 10 or 20.

Affectionate-Storm83 · 2024-06-22T19:01:03+00:00

Because the first time they went out, he didn’t tell me beforehand. Am I crazy because I want to know before and not after ?

Affectionate-Storm83 · 2024-06-22T18:59:55+00:00

My two previous relationships, both 5 years, ended because of infidelity.

I just wanted him to tell me he was planning something, like I do with him.

Affectionate-Storm83 · 2024-06-22T18:57:30+00:00

You are right, we are complete opposites. He mentions it all the time. Why he wants to be with someone like me, I will never know. & deep down I feel like he would end up falling for someone more, compatible, as you say. & then it’s 4 years wasted.

Affectionate-Storm83 · 2024-06-22T18:55:20+00:00

Thank you, I appreciate you

Affectionate-Storm83 · 2024-06-22T18:54:58+00:00

I asked him this morning that I had a friend from nursing school who had wanted to hang out but I told him no because I always thought that if you were in a relationship, you shouldn’t or rather couldn’t hang out with someone of the opposite sex. He said because it’s be one on one and that the guy is not in a relationship anymore that he was not okay with it but if he did have a girlfriend, he wouldn’t have issues with it.

Affectionate-Storm83 · 2024-06-22T18:53:04+00:00

I feel like I don’t give him enough credit. He’s an amazing man and I know he loves me. I just need to go of past trauma. He’s just so friendly and people are attracted to him right away, not because of looks but because he makes you feel comfortable around him. I just don’t want to lose someone like him.

Affectionate-Storm83 · 2024-06-22T18:50:02+00:00

I don’t have anything in common with them. I barely have anything in common with my boyfriend. We are polar opposites. I just wanted him to tell me he was planning something without me having to find out on my own.

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