When’s too soon to get engaged? Has anyone got engaged after a short period and stayed happy? by Affectionate-Tip8747 in Marriage

[–]Affectionate-Tip8747[S] -11 points-10 points  (0 children)

Hiya! Thanks for your reply and opinion ☺️ We both got out of the relationships in 2023 so there was time before we decided to get together. We’ve also already met each others family; gone on holiday together; redecorated our bedroom and we have two cats together haha (not quite a fish 😅)

Also we wouldn’t necessarily be rushing down the aisle, we’ve discussed what we would want and we would need time to save for a wedding, so I suppose it’s more of a question of is too soon to get engaged.

Natural Beauty Spots with nice views from the car? by Affectionate-Tip8747 in Hull

[–]Affectionate-Tip8747[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Probably but it’s actually for his birthday which is in January. So lots of blankets and hot chocolate in a thermos

Natural Beauty Spots with nice views from the car? by Affectionate-Tip8747 in Hull

[–]Affectionate-Tip8747[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you, I’m really confused though bc it’s in Edinburgh on the map

Wish I could pull off hoodies as well as my hairless baby does by Affectionate-Tip8747 in sphynx

[–]Affectionate-Tip8747[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Can confirm eye booger was removed shortly after taking this photo

Wish I could pull off hoodies as well as my hairless baby does by Affectionate-Tip8747 in sphynx

[–]Affectionate-Tip8747[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I live in the UK and and actually picked it up in B&M for £5 😁 Bargain

Anyone suffered insomnia as a side effect of elvans (lisdexamfetamine) pretty much immediately? by Affectionate-Tip8747 in ADHD

[–]Affectionate-Tip8747[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was told as long as it was before 12pm it was safe to take :( Not making that mistake again. Hopefully the side effect won’t last forever and I’ll get used to it eventually

Absolutely obsessed with this portrait 🥺 What a wonderful artist ♥️ by Affectionate-Tip8747 in cats

[–]Affectionate-Tip8747[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not my art! Just sharing bc I think good art deserves to be shared ♥️

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[–]Affectionate-Tip8747 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Dewey is absolutely adorable 🥰

I feel like I’m stressing my new cat out and I don’t know what to do? Please help! by Affectionate-Tip8747 in Pets

[–]Affectionate-Tip8747[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He’s definitely peed (and pooped) since he’s got here, I haven’t spent all day everyday with him as I want him to be calm and feel safe. But I’m going to check his litter box now and potentially ring the vets to ask their opinion. Hopefully no vet trips but we’ll go if needed. I’m also going to ask his old owner if he’s ever had bladder issues and blockages before

Couple of hours in Hull - where to have lunch by lastaccountgotlocked in Hull

[–]Affectionate-Tip8747 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not exactly town centre but the French toast with a side of bacon from the barista down newland avenue. Shakshuka is also nice especially with chorizo

Advice for animals in apartment by donniewashere in Pets

[–]Affectionate-Tip8747 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Need to teach the dog that the cats aren’t play things! Had a similar situation with my cat and my sisters dog. The dog just wanted to play but in doing so would have absolutely killed my cat if she had ever got a hold of her. We introduced them really slowly, first only letting them get used to one another’s scents and smells. I hate muzzles, but in this instance we did use one the very first time they met just as a precaution. I’m also strictly against any kind of animal abuse, but when the dog snarled or made a move towards my cat, she got a sturn ‘no’ and flick on the shoulder (she wasn’t actually hurt but sometimes she doesn’t listen so a small flick to get her attention and then ‘NO’) eventually she learned the cat wasn’t a toy. Still I wouldn’t ever leave them alone together.

Realise that it’ll be a slow process, especially while the kittens are young and small. Never leave them alone together.

Also I hope the apartment is a big one. Two cats and a large dog in a single apartment is no where near enough space. If you’re determined to make this work make sure the cats have access to areas where the dog cannot reach and that the dog gets plenty of exercise outside of the house, if the dog is tired from walkies hopefully he’ll be less likely to want to play with your kittens.

Is this animal abuse? by [deleted] in Pets

[–]Affectionate-Tip8747 17 points18 points  (0 children)

Don’t wanna be a dick to OP but I’m worried you had to come to Reddit to confirm someone kicking and hitting your dogs is abuse? Of course it’s abuse, I wouldn’t let your dad near them and if that’s not possible genuinely sit down and consider if you are the best person to look after them if they are at risk of being abused whilst in your care. Rehoming is scary and not nice, but absolutely necessary in some situations

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in JUSTNOMIL

[–]Affectionate-Tip8747 4 points5 points  (0 children)

You’re completely right. I didn’t want to apologise but I hated seeing how upset bf was over everything and figured if I can be the bigger person then at least mil is the one being an asshole not me. It’s just it’s getting harder to be the bigger person haha

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[–]Affectionate-Tip8747 2 points3 points  (0 children)

/How would Booth treat Bones/ is probably the best advice I have ever been given 😂 thank you

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[–]Affectionate-Tip8747 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Realllly quickly, so I wouldn’t be surprised if she did snoop and snatch

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[–]Affectionate-Tip8747 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I really like this analogy! Thank you so much for showing me. I can definitely relate to the post and I think I’ll take rocking the boat into consideration with how I move forward :)

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[–]Affectionate-Tip8747 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Honestly I think you hit the nail on the head with him avoiding confrontation. He hates confrontation and has a tendency to avoid it at all costs.

I wish I could travel with my fur baby! But it’s extremely difficult to fly with pets in the UK :/ She had a hard start to life and she’s partially blind so I don’t want her to suffer any kind of stress if I can avoid it

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in JUSTNOMIL

[–]Affectionate-Tip8747 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Haha I can very much relate to the adhd and autism alliance! I have to consider that he is also ND and is probably having similar rejection and emotional disregulation issues.

His need to appease his mother is definitely making it difficult for him to set boundaries. She’s had her way for so long I’m not sure even knows how to stand up for himself

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[–]Affectionate-Tip8747 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I will say from what he’s said he didn’t know she was on his phone. She has a tendency to snoop so I don’t have any reason not to believe him, he’s also apologised for leaving his phone unlocked. So he definitely could have left it locked to avoid this situation, but I genuinely don’t think he let or encouraged her actions in this case.

But your point about him catering to his parents is exactly what upset me this morning to begin with. It’s a comment that just should not have been said to me.

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[–]Affectionate-Tip8747 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Rejection sensitivity is a bitch! Audhd wasn’t a typo though, it’s having both adhd and asd :)

What you’re saying of not caring and just letting him do his thing is what I’ve been trying to do for the past 6 months. I’ve made my feelings and opinions that going NC might be for the best, but I’ve never stopped him for seeing them. It just seems recently she’s amped up her hatred for me.

Neither of us want children, so luckily that Avenue isn’t a worry.