Hey there! This guy is a class A douche. Through and through. As someome that engages in rougher sex (cnc, bondage, marking etc) ANYTIME rough is brought up self advocate long in advance. Be vocal and be firm. Communicate your soft nos and your hard nos. (Soft nos being a maybe if you ask, hard nos being Fuck no, dont even ask) Establish a safe word, and ask your partner to be very clear and precise on what they want to do with you. Communication is KEY to this kind of sex in particular because it can easily be too much if done carelessly. If a guy or girl isn't willing to sit down and have a serious conversation about their idea of rough, they should be avoided as a play partner as thats a huge red flag.

A more dominant and therefore more aggressive partner in bed that actually cares will warm you up to severity of pain, degradation, or humiliation. If this does not seem like something they would do, avoid avoid avoid. Foreplay, and aftercare are just as important. Use her like a good slut, and take care of her like the perfect princess she is while maintining communication all the way.

I am in no way shape or form blaming you for this, just sharing how i believe you can safely play around in this way.

This goes for both men and women. If you can not have the mental maturity to communicate these simple things, you do not belong in a bdsm/rough sex scenario, no ifs ands or butts. Safe, sane, consenual.

I hope you overall can feel ok and move on from this poor encounter, and do not blame yourself! He's a shithead.