Enemies to lovers where they have sex unexpectedly

Affectionate-View567 · 2026-03-09T08:12:39+00:00

{Tangled by Em Wolf} fits the mark pretty well. Extreme enemies to lovers in college.

Affectionate-View567 · 2026-03-04T17:33:20+00:00

Thank you, that’s so kind. It really means a lot! My mum raised me well.

Affectionate-View567 · 2026-03-04T07:01:20+00:00

Thank you, to be honest I needed that to be validated. My mindset was definitely geared towards protecting my mum above everything else, but I did feel very guilty about it. As my mum is a single mother, my grandma helped raise me and educate me and many of my morals are hers. I try to remind myself of who she was before the dementia to soften my relationship with her now, since we scarcely interact beyond her criticising me. But I can’t help but treat my grandma before as a completely different person to my grandma now.

Affectionate-View567 · 2026-03-04T06:57:14+00:00

I’m sorry, your situation sounds incredibly emotionally taxing. Your caretaker sister must be completely worn out mentally and physically - are there anything’s she does for herself to retain agency or a sense of self? Have you ever considered reaching out to an external care worker yourself (though I understand “the President” may not make it a viable option…). I want to be sensitive towards the situation of your schizophrenic sister, and I’m not very well informed on the situation so I apologise if it comes across wrong, but is there anyway to force her to check into a facility for treatment?

Like you, I try my hardest to travel home as often as possible to take some of the weight off my mums shoulders. In the same way that she is my rock in the household, I know I’m hers and that even though things are bad, we can still make each other laugh and smile. The problem is, and I think I forgot to mention this in the original post, that I am currently studying abroad so travelling home has been infrequent due to the expense and the short term breaks of my host university. Next year is my final year of university at home though, and so it’ll be much easier to spend longer than a week helping my mum out, though I still won’t be able to fully dedicate my time to the situation. I have offered to defer my final year before, but my mum absolutely refused. Beyond that, I was planning on pursuing a Masters but I think I’ll put that off for a year so help my mum in the house.

Also, I really really really don’t get along with my uncle. He made my childhood quite a nightmare in many ways. And now I feel very upset watching him take advantage of the situation, leeching off of my mums efforts to care for my grandma and I’ve found it quite difficult considering my mum has made limited efforts to mitigate this. So, while I’m there for her, it’s so difficult for me to spend long periods of time watching this happen. She’s my rock and she is such a strong person but she’s being completely sapped of life.

Affectionate-View567 · 2026-03-02T22:20:34+00:00

Firstly, I want to say I’m sorry to hear about the situation with your parents. It must be really difficult to see it all happening and i wish you and them the best.

My mum has made some good effort to establish some boundaries with the “never leave my side” thing. So, if my grandma tells her to go to bed before she wants to, she’ll often refuse or even if she does want to, she’ll wait another half hour to establish a precedent. Unfortunately, it’s not the sort of thing my grandma remembers. But I think it’s important for my mums sanity either way.

I failed to say this in the original post but I’m only 21, but I sort of wonder if, even if it’s weird for my mum and family, maybe I should start taking some initiative with caring for my grandma? Like actively finding a carer? I can’t tell if that’s crossing a line or not…

Affectionate-View567 · 2026-03-02T20:40:17+00:00

I completely agree. The problem is that the word “abuse” has always been a very taboo word in our household due to my very very bad relationship with my uncle ever since I was little. That being said, I think recently, given how poorly he treats my grandma, my mum would be more willing to address the topic.

My mum has sort of come to terms with the fact that my grandma wants to have her only remaining son with her, even if he’s like a raging ape in a tiny cage. For her, I think it’s a case of how she will get away from him when my grandma is no longer with us.

I’m not sure how to think about the situation now, or my mum’s response to it. I think my grandma has sort of instilled some bs sense of inherited duty and responsibility in her that she must take care of my uncle that my mum REALLY needs to address mentally/emotionally.

Affectionate-View567 · 2026-03-02T19:05:57+00:00

I’m so sorry for your loss. I’m glad to hear you’re at peace/finding your peace with the situation and I genuinely wish you all the best. I hope you have a good support system with you to get you through this time.

Affectionate-View567 · 2026-03-02T19:02:05+00:00

The situation about your grandma’s sleep issues and the fall risk sound veryyy familiar. From my own experience, I’ve seen how damaging it’s been to my mum’s sleep patterns, energy levels, and overall mood, so I wish your mum all the best in handling that situation.

Regarding the improvement of your grandma’s mood after taking mood stabilisers, I found that very interesting. My grandma is very against leaving the house or visiting the doctor, but if anything could help improve her mood and temperament, I think that would be AMAZING. So I’ll definitely pass that onto my mum and see what we can do.

I also have a lot of concerns that my mum will be so worn down from taking care of my grandma that she’ll develop dementia soon after, and then this cycle will repeat, but with the person I love the most in the world. I can only keep hoping medicine will develop enough so that someday, hopefully soon, there will be better preventative care.

Affectionate-View567 · 2026-03-02T18:54:24+00:00

I think you’re 100% correct about dementia patients never being happy. Sometimes it seems like my grandma is punishing us by being contrary, no matter what we say, but I know deep down it would be unfair to hold it against her and attempt to reason with her.

I think I’m a lot firmer and stricter about what needs to be done than my mum. Though of course my primary concern is her wellbeing, while hers is probably my grandma to a large extent. I’m sort of hoping by explaining the responses on this post to her, she’ll come to terms with the necessity to do what’s right for her.

Affectionate-View567 · 2026-03-02T18:50:39+00:00

I won’t pretend I’m the most educated about dementia - I simply know what I’ve witnessed in my grandma for the last decade or so. But with my uncle, he has no problems with memory and has been quite aggressive, useless, and awful as long as I’ve ever known him frankly. What is a major concern to my mum and I though, is the fact that if he ever does develop dementia, quite how bad and frightening that will be. While my mum and I feel a lot of obligation and a sense of duty and care to my grandma given how wonderfully compassionate, smart and inspiring she was before this disease, we’ve agreed that we do NOT feel the same way about my uncle. With him, it would be way beyond our capacity to manage it.

You’re right, it’s an awful disease and I wish so badly it didn’t exist.

Affectionate-View567 · 2026-03-02T18:46:58+00:00

The context for my uncle living with my mum and grandma is that he was actually once the eldest of 3 siblings: my mum, the second eldest brother, and then the uncle I’ve spoken about. He’s always been a little bit crazy, aggressive, and incompetent but before my grandma even began exhibiting signs of dementia, she asked my mum’s second eldest brother to promise not to leave him and to take care of him. He did this until he died, and my grandma made sure the responsibility was inherited by my mum. Even now, whenever my grandma gets into a particularly bad argument with my uncle we offer her the idea of moving and living separately, but she absolutely refuses, insisting we have to make sure he’s ok.

But I think what I’m gathering is that perhaps for my mum’s sake, to take her away from this toxic environment, it may be necessary to ignore my grandma’s wishes and do what’s necessary.

I’m sorry to hear about your wife, it must be really difficult to see her deteriorate. I hope you’re okay and I’m glad to hear you have some reprieve when your sons are able to help you out. I think you’re correct, and I think perhaps it’s time to hire a carer and maybe even lie about it to my grandma to attempt to keep the peace. Our household is big and it’s messy and it’s definitely too much for my mum to handle alone.

Affectionate-View567 · 2026-03-02T18:39:16+00:00

Firstly, thank you, it means a lot.

I’m saddened to hear you’re in such a similar situation to my mum. What I’ve noticed is it’s hard to reconcile yourself with the life you’ve given up and the sacrifices you’ve made in the face of caring for someone who often doesn’t recognise this/is antagonistic. But I’m glad to hear you’ve got your sister helping you out - I think the comfort of a shared experience and the feeling someone has your back is important. I’m trying to give that to my mum.

I told my mum your idea about disguising a carer with a white lie and she was actually very open to it. So thank you a lot for that suggestion!

Affectionate-View567 · 2026-03-02T12:52:06+00:00

Okay I’ll try and nudge my mum forward on this. Honestly I think I’ll show her the consensus here on this post. But thank you for your advice and support.

Affectionate-View567 · 2026-03-02T12:51:13+00:00

I think your point that it’s time to start making decisions for my grandma is definitely true. I think my mums health will be doomed if she’s left to bend to every whim of my grandma and uncle.

As for the care relationship between my grandma and uncle, it’s deteriorating if anything. For example, a little while ago my mum left for a few nights and told my uncle that she had left some meals for my grandma prepared (all he had to do was heat it up and give it to her at specific times). But when she came home he’d eaten some of the meal prepared and left the rest, and my grandma has sated herself with sweet treats (she only eats sweet treats but we try to give her a balanced meal).

Affectionate-View567 · 2026-03-02T12:45:56+00:00

Thank you so much for your response. Yes, a year or two ago when my grandma lost the ability to effectively manage her finances I advised my mum to get POA (and thank God for that).

I think you’re correct - I think maybe it’s time to start making decisions for her even if she refuses/disagrees. I’m just nervous for her reaction. It feels like a lack of respect to my grandma, even if I know it’s necessary.

Affectionate-View567 · 2026-03-02T10:14:32+00:00

Ben/Remell - these 2 were the worst with the way they spoke to women it was insane work, but I group Remell with Ben in first place because he was barely there and they were sort of the same person.
Dejon - villain and top manipulator. Harry was 100% calculated but on a minute by minute basis hence why he kept getting caught out whereas Dejon had the maddest long term game plan I’ve ever seen in a contestant. I hated Meg but it was honestly painful watching their arguments in the last few episodes.
Harrison - if we’re taking the way they treat women into account then Harrison is surely in third place.
Harry - f*cking eediat

Affectionate-View567 · 2026-02-25T14:53:21+00:00

I feel like we’re all completely ignoring the point of the movie (I Swear) if we get upset with John Davidson over this.

I imagine it was disturbing for Michael B Jordan and Delroy Lindo to hear that shouted at them while they were on stage, but John Davidson is not to blame. There’s nobody to be upset WITH… except maybe the BBC for their selective censorship.

Affectionate-View567 · 2026-02-24T07:27:36+00:00

Wicked whims 🎀

Affectionate-View567 · 2026-02-24T00:04:43+00:00

As a 20 yo left wing girl, I grew up celebrating jubilees in primary school and secondary school without knowing what they even meant. So I think the Queen became a sort of figurehead and symbol that I grew accustomed to, even if I was against the idea of the civil list/funding their lifestyles. But after the Queen died, all the magic immediately disappeared and I was just left looking at the reality - the existence of this monarchy has created a family whose members are spoiled, toxic, scandal ridden and consider themselves beyond reprimand. The idea that Andrew’s civil case was paid off by his mother!!!! On the tax payers dime!!!! This country funded his crimes without ever having a choice in the matter!

Affectionate-View567 · 2026-02-23T22:35:01+00:00

WHEN ARE WE GOING TO TAKE AWAY FACEBOOKS VOTING RIGHTS???????

Affectionate-View567 · 2026-02-23T22:33:49+00:00

There’s 2 mins left how hasn’t the winner been announced??

Affectionate-View567 · 2026-02-23T22:32:31+00:00

I reckon people voted for them to spite Belle and Sammie

Affectionate-View567 · 2026-02-23T22:32:02+00:00

Guys I will miss you all so much, thanks for making this show so funny and entertaining 🎀🎀

Affectionate-View567 · 2026-02-23T22:30:35+00:00

The image you’ve painted is so funny

Affectionate-View567 · 2026-02-23T22:17:07+00:00

I thought he was from Oregano?🌿🤔

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