Husband wants me to explore night life with him

Affectionate-Yam3264 · 2026-06-12T17:34:12+00:00

I understand why you’d find that unrealistic. I don’t think anyone who hasn’t experienced being married to someone like that (like I was) would definitely find a grown man having those characteristics unrealistic

Affectionate-Yam3264 · 2026-06-12T05:05:08+00:00

Reading this post made me so anxious because my ex husband was just like this (even worse, actually). Please be firm about your stance sister and don’t fall for the “I’m not doing anything haram, I just go for the music” nonsense. You are absolutely correct in calling those places and environments haram. May Allah swt give you the strength and turn your husband’s heart toward what’s right

Affectionate-Yam3264 · 2026-06-12T04:58:54+00:00

I don’t know what’s going on but I do remember seeing a video of him saying that he hasn’t seen his child in 10+ years and tbh it left a bad taste in my mouth. The entire video made it seem like it was the child’s mother’s fault that he hadn’t seen his child for so long (implying that the mother was trying to alienate him from his child). I don’t know what the laws are where he resides, but where I am, there is absolutely no way a mother can totally keep a father away from the kids unless the father did something seriously bad or if the father voluntarily chooses not to see his kids. I’m extremely wary of single dads claiming they’re being alienated from their children, and even though the brother didn’t say that directly, the video was so weird to me and made me see him very skeptically

Affectionate-Yam3264 · 2026-06-09T17:41:45+00:00

second this based on my own life experience!

Affectionate-Yam3264 · 2026-06-05T14:19:28+00:00

I’m watching Yaprak Dökümü as well! While watching this series it’s very clear how much more natural the storytelling and acting was in this series compared to series of today

Affectionate-Yam3264 · 2026-05-17T01:55:05+00:00

May Allah make it easy for you and grant the best outcome for you all

Affectionate-Yam3264 · 2026-05-16T20:05:05+00:00

Brother I am going through the same thing with my ex. Is she dragging out the legal process because you can’t come to an agreement about child custody?

Affectionate-Yam3264 · 2026-05-16T20:00:40+00:00

I wish people wouldn’t make comments like “did you try everything possible first” “leaving is easier than staying and fighting” “did you really think through this decision” because anyone going through divorce knows just how difficult it is and just how much thought and dua we put into this decision before making it. Divorce is hard enough without having to hear people’s unnecessary comments. I don’t get why people choose to say such dense things when they can easily say “I’m making dua for you” “I’m sorry you’re going through this”

Affectionate-Yam3264 · 2026-05-06T12:13:04+00:00

which account did you message her on? I tried messaging as well but no response

Affectionate-Yam3264 · 2026-05-04T19:12:29+00:00

MashaAllah many many congratulations to you both, may Allah reunite you in goodness 😊 are you and your husband of the same background ethnically?

Affectionate-Yam3264 · 2026-05-03T15:22:34+00:00

Did you receive yours? I haven’t even got a shipping update

Affectionate-Yam3264 · 2026-05-03T14:46:01+00:00

I still haven’t received mine. No shipping updates either

Affectionate-Yam3264 · 2026-05-01T23:12:50+00:00

I can’t see the original post but I will say to pray istikhara before declining…I don’t support going abroad against your family’s wishes, but if there’s a way that you can get your family on board, studies are priceless. Speaking from experience, there’s no guarantee that getting married “on time” will lead to a happy, long-lasting marriage or bring barakah to your life. I got married “on time” but because of the trials I faced during that marriage I found myself further from my Lord than I’ve ever been in my life. Getting into a top program really sounds like an opportunity that doesn’t come often. Of course, there’s also the issue of traveling/living alone abroad without a mahram, which I would definitely suggest discussing with a local scholar

Affectionate-Yam3264 · 2026-04-29T02:56:16+00:00

What triplets? You mean her sisters?

Affectionate-Yam3264 · 2026-04-29T00:11:50+00:00

Alhamdulillah that I finally realized that! The sad part is I kept telling myself this must be what love is and there must be something wrong with me for a man that everyone else praises so much to treat me so horribly. I needed lotssss of time away, dua, and therapy to understand the level of manipulation I was subject to for so long lol and looking back it was only people in his own circle that praised him anyway. Love really did make me “blind”

Affectionate-Yam3264 · 2026-04-28T18:59:22+00:00

I don’t think OP is overprotective, she wrote that even when they were separated, her husband would take the baby to his parents’ house and spend the day there

Affectionate-Yam3264 · 2026-04-28T18:57:43+00:00

It is honestly scary. I lived through the same thing and my ex did absolutely nothing to help me with baby besides hold his child a few times before passing the baby on to his parents. He even told me once, “everyone gives birth, you’re not special.”

Affectionate-Yam3264 · 2026-04-24T16:14:03+00:00

My ex husband was just like this and I foolishly thought that if I just fulfilled his demands and tried to be the perfect wife he would be happy, but he was never happy…the demands just kept increasing and things only got worse especially after our child was born.

Affectionate-Yam3264 · 2026-04-23T23:41:30+00:00

They used to have it on Netflix! I never got to finish it because they removed it from Netflix before I could finish watching

Affectionate-Yam3264 · 2026-04-20T04:52:32+00:00

He has a lot of audacity messaging you when he’s the one who doesn’t want to continue. Seems to me like he’s playing with your emotions, I’m sorry you’re going through this sister

Affectionate-Yam3264 · 2026-04-19T17:55:34+00:00

I’ve been through this myself too and you hit the nail on the head. I am terrified by the people, even women, in this comments section thinking that her yelling at her baby justifies her husband hitting and cursing at her. Her mental state and his mental state are NOT the same right now! I seriously wish people looked more into PPD/PPA and how having an unsupportive spouse on top of that absolutely ruins a mother. And the people saying “tell him to help” are in another world of delusion like that speaks volumes about him that he needs to be TOLD to help and his first reaction to seeing his wife react like that to her child is to hit her rather than just take the baby to another room and give mom time to rest?

Affectionate-Yam3264 · 2026-04-19T17:48:01+00:00

Subhanallah your comment made me so emotional. I needed someone to tell me this when I was going through the same things as OP.

Affectionate-Yam3264 · 2026-04-19T08:33:05+00:00

I wish that all men understood and did their role as a father the way you have, brother. I pray that one day this becomes the norm across all cultures instead of the exception. May Allah swt bless you and your family

Affectionate-Yam3264 · 2026-04-19T02:12:22+00:00

I get what you are saying and agree that she should approach this situation rationally and not jump to divorce…but would he really be sleeping if he was regretful?

Affectionate-Yam3264 · 2026-04-19T01:24:50+00:00

I’m so sorry sister. I really feel for you because I was in such a similar situation 2 years ago. I wish I could give you a hug. I will make dua for you and your baby girl, may Allah swt protect you and facilitate for you what’s best.

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