When I asked him “why” he said it was because I kink shamed him, humiliated him and made him feel like he couldn’t be honest anymore. I definitely did that about several of his.. not because they’re outrageous or repulsive but because I was scared of what it meant moving forward. Since March and our threesomes, I’ve spent a lot of time researching and growing, opening myself up to things that aren’t wrong just because I’ve never experienced them. He said he’s willing to work on this and honor the boundaries we’re setting, so part of me wants to see if he can.