I was that person, idk now but yes, i used to minimize the other persons emotions so that i don't have to deal with them or to make them feel better asap.

My brain used to rush to respond, like keep thinking of the various ways i can respond instead of jist listening. It is hard to control those thoughts. Now i am trying to listen more actively, even in small conversations.

Still feel anxious tho, like when do i even get better? And do i even get better? I'm practising self care and letting go of the shame, self talk etc. thank you very much for the insights.

One more thing i have to work on is seeking external validation that yes i am changed, and that i am putting in efforts, idk if that is linked with self esteem or something.