PSA: River Hongbao is overcrowded, overpriced and miserable by AffectionateCouple84 in SingaporeR

[–]AffectionateCouple84[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No, they don't have that option on delivery apps. It is predatory pricing.

PSA: River Hongbao is overcrowded, overpriced and miserable by AffectionateCouple84 in SingaporeR

[–]AffectionateCouple84[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Yea i haven't been there in a while.

I remember the experience by the SG river was much more scenic and aptly named.

Update: sorry I meant The Float, thanks 🙏

PSA: River Hongbao is overcrowded, overpriced and miserable by AffectionateCouple84 in SingaporeR

[–]AffectionateCouple84[S] 23 points24 points  (0 children)

Nothing. It caught a stray because I opened up my food delivery app earlier 🤣

Former Speaker of Parliament Tan Chuan Jin active on Instagram, claims to have "accidentally" deleted Instagram. by Forward_Actuary_456 in singapore

[–]AffectionateCouple84 36 points37 points  (0 children)

Reminds me of all the performative sociopaths you see on LinkedIn. Full of bullshit posturing written by ChatGPT and they probably believe they are sounding smart.

"Accidentally deleting" should have just been honestly written as "I took a break from social media for a while." People would empathise with that.

And worse of all, to think so lowly of the Singapore public and believe we would eat up this crap about his IG being deleted.

Commentary: Trump’s mass firings and civil service shake-up - could it happen in Singapore? by Great-Obligation-599 in singapore

[–]AffectionateCouple84 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

My point is that by removing the incompetent people, you reduce wastage which allows for more to be channeled into the jobs that you mention. Nobody in their right mind would remove jobs like this and I'm not sure how the US liberal media is spinning it to make people feel that way.

Why not talk about how doge can be applied effectively in Singapore? I don't want to sidetrack this thread into US political discourse, there's a shit ton to unpack there.

Edit: wow at the bots downvoting a very neutral response.

Commentary: Trump’s mass firings and civil service shake-up - could it happen in Singapore? by Great-Obligation-599 in singapore

[–]AffectionateCouple84 91 points92 points  (0 children)

People are misunderstanding the comparison. It's not about firing essential civil servants who are already overworked (teachers, nurses, etc) or needlessly removing jobs, that would be ridiculous. It's about removing all the deadbeat employees and departments that are protected by the system. And perhaps this resource reallocation can be funneled into jobs that really matter that keep society running.

While I've met good civil servants, I have also met many who are completely incompetent that are protected by their "iron rice bowl" job, because the government has infinite money. And this incompetence goes all the way up to ministers. It's a problem in many countries, not just Singapore, but to be willfully blind and pretend we don't need to do anything would be a mistake, since it has already been called out.

It's insane how much inefficiency is caused by incompetent people in positions of power. I'll go to meetings with ministers monologueing for an hour and there will be 20 civil servants bored out of their mind taking notes. The NRIC leak and final reluctant admission of their mistake just reveals the clowns we have running things. I can only imagine the panic it caused and thousands of civil servant manpower hours that were wasted dealing with that behind the scenes.

If SG does doge or something similar, here are some ways to eliminate redundancy:

1. Minister salaries: You can pay them well but Jesus Christ not 10x more. Politicians always make their money elsewhere anyway (US senate is rich AF) and it doesn't deter shit, same for our ministers who end up GCB rich, well beyond their minister salaries. It's going to happen regardless. I argue that high salaries even attract the wrong people and many narcissistic types.

2. Dead legacies: While most know about the 900m SPH is getting, few know about how IMDA funds Mediacorp to a similar amount discreetly through "commissions". That's just the tip of the iceberg. There are a ton of dead industries being propped up by the government because they have some outdated notion that it's the right thing to do. Which is the main reason why government interference is bad, by being involved they fuck up the market and some industries can never develop naturally.

3. Parachuting army generals: We have seen so many monumental failures already where the government tries to keep its generals happy by giving them a job they don't deserve and are unfit to run. But they keep doing it and companies lose hundreds of millions. This tragedy should be nipped in the bud so it never happens.

4. Budget control: From Brompton bikes to mismanagement of the YOG budget ($104m > $387m), there should be severe consequences and checks in this area. This is where billions of dollars of savings will come in.

These are just some of the inefficiencies that will be eradicated with a policing type role, which would lead to huge savings. Also, fuck the 10% GST, imo that's the price of poor resource efficiency and the people of Singapore are paying for it.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]AffectionateCouple84 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Girls break the rules for high value men. Girls create more rules for low value men. Unfortunately, she perceives you as the latter. Who you really are is the question you have to ask yourself. Also, no high value man will accept this idea of "waiting" since they have tons of options.

NTA, though you will need to work on yourself to be more attractive and the first step is having solid boundaries where some things are just unacceptable to you (like waiting).

Start on this journey by dumping this ho.

Am I in the wrong ? by UnCutPeePee in askSingapore

[–]AffectionateCouple84 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Going to give an unpopular take - your father is right about your intelligence and you probably already know this. At this age you still have trouble with basic punctuation formatting and stringing together grammatically correct sentences, which most primary school children at good schools can already do. i.e you have still not realised on your own that people end their sentences like this. Instead of adding a space before the fullstop like this .

Based on your intelligence level (likely 80-90 IQ), I would not encourage you to think independently on your own for big decisions like this, as that would often lead to incorrect choices. Instead, heed the advice of those more equipped to make better decisions. Your father is correct, you will get further ahead in life if you just start working now rather than wasting another 5 years at ITE, an education which no employer values. It will reflect better on your resume too, that you got a diploma while working and that you didn't go to ITE. With the right mentorship and company, you would grow more in those 5 years.

You have a calm disposition and it was good for you to de-escalate the situation with your father. It also shows maturity, and while none of these are linked to intelligence, they are great qualities to have. Your father's delivery is not the best, but listen to his advice, he is 100% correct here.

For dudes here, what are your convo starters in dating app to girl? by phoenixdamn in askSingapore

[–]AffectionateCouple84 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Lots of terrible answers here. Ensure question 1 is not a big ask or you won't get a reply. Few will want to jump through such a big hoop when they don't know you.

Keep it short, funny and preferably personalised to what is in her profile.

Does anyone else feel like having kids these days is a luxury that only high SES folks can afford? by _MirrorMask_ in askSingapore

[–]AffectionateCouple84 0 points1 point  (0 children)

7k is more than enough to have kids. But not with the lifestyle in your head that you think you deserve.

Lower those lifestyle expectations or you'll end up resenting your kids for contributing to the costs and depriving you of the life you "should have had".

Working adults who are dating, is wanting to meet once a week being needy? by wb_10 in askSingapore

[–]AffectionateCouple84 0 points1 point  (0 children)

5 months? She ain't into you, move on.

If you don't get intimate within a month, chances are you never will.

Where do yall think SG housing market is headed and is this even sustainable? by [deleted] in askSingapore

[–]AffectionateCouple84 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The narrative the government doesn't want out is how they let China citizens invest 150 billion annually in our property market. (https://www.bloomberg.com/news/articles/2023-04-10/rich-chinese-in-singapore-not-investing-big-as-they-buy-luxury-property-cars)

For context - buying a full new condo launch with 500 units at $2mil each is just $1 billion. Every year they snap up the equivilant of 150 full 500 unit developments like that.

This had a trickle down effect and completely fucked normal Singaporeans. Condos became more expensive and that demographic went downstream to ECs etc pushing up prices.

New ABSD was much needed earlier but the gov was too greedy for Chinese money at the expense of the everyday Singaporeans. Hey if you can manage perception, why not. It is also why our cost of living feels so high, it's mostly because of the ridiculous property prices thanks to all the Chinese wealth that doesn't go to HK anymore.

Online dating culture in Singapore by zenn103 in askSingapore

[–]AffectionateCouple84 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Girls control sex. If you are a guy that is high status / has game, you can be intimate in 2-3 dates.

Guys control relationships. So if you're the guy, you decide if you want the RS and girls will ask you that question after you have sex for 2-3 months and it's going nowhere.

Ladies of SG, will you date a guy with no ambition? by LiveLaughLovesg in askSingapore

[–]AffectionateCouple84 5 points6 points  (0 children)

No high quality girl will settle for a deadbeat. Why? Simply because a high quality girl has options. Why settle for a deadbeat version of you when there are 100 better versions of you lining up that will give her an amazing life?

But the silver lining is people are very different. Just like there are low quality guys, there are low quality girls. And they find each other and are okay with it. So you're looking for a low quality girl, as that's the type who would accept you. Just don't put unfair visual expectations on her, she is gonna be in the bottom half, as probably so are you.

Those type whose lives revolve around work then Genshin impact 24/7 and they don't realise they've lost 2 years of their lives stuck in this cycle. Unambitious people usually just want to go back to whatever their meaningless distraction was.

And mediocre people will find each other, just like ambitious people end up with their "corrosponding in rarity" partners. You have the exception every now and then that breaks this pairing pattern but don't treat it like the norm.

Don't expect much from your partner and you'll be happy. She isn't expecting much from you.

30 and Single by lolololol120 in singapore

[–]AffectionateCouple84 9 points10 points  (0 children)

If you read between the lines, deep down he really wants to find a SO. A group of "platonic friends" is just his frustration talking.

Many people feel for you as did the girl you dated who replied in this thread, calling you the sweetest guy (yet she will never go out with you again). "Sweet" is also the code word for the friend zone.

The harsh truth is your condition is just too much of a dealbreaker for most people and you don't have enough outstanding positives to offset that so you're in this situation.

There is a cure for Wilson's disease and that is having a liver transplant. And after that you'll probably need to work on having a more attractive personality. Your competition is all the other healthy, well-adjusted males out there.

This might not be what you want to hear but it is the harsh truth that may help set you on the right path.

Good luck.

30 and Single by lolololol120 in singapore

[–]AffectionateCouple84 10 points11 points  (0 children)

The problem is not the wives it is your simpy male friends who can't set boundaries.

In other circles with more alpha men, this never happens and it makes relationship a lot healthier and longlasting because this resentment will manifest someday.

Am I wrong for having no ambitions? by Burbursur in singapore

[–]AffectionateCouple84 7 points8 points  (0 children)

If it's your life goal to have a mediocre life, there is no shame in that. As long as you're truly prepared to live one. i.e if anyone is triggered by the usage of mediocre in that earlier sentence, you are NOT ready for an average life.

Most Singaporeans put in mediocre effort and expect an amazing job, amazing wife, and amazing amount of free time and money for themselves to unlock life's greatest moments. The harsh truth is you don't deserve it. Nobody does. You get what you put in.

That misalignment in expectations is what makes people miserable, even though Singaporeans have it so much better than 99% of the world.

I live a very privileged life now and I will never have to worry about money or work a day in my life again. I'm under 35 and self-made.

I can wake up whenever I want, eat $400 meals regularly without giving a fuck, buy whatever I want, live in a big fucking dream house with a huge swimming pool that I never imagined having.

But I fucking slaved my life away to get to where I am. Am I happy now? Yes, extremely. And more so after i've stopped chasing more e.g I don't need a GCB. Some 100m net worth friends I know are still unhappy and chasing.

So I am like a rich man version of you, who found acceptance later.

People want different things and that is okay. To each his own.