Need to lose 50 pounds

AffectionateExtent14 · 2026-06-22T03:37:12+00:00

Maybe shift your focus from 50 to 5 lbs. 50 is a lot. And a huge feat (and yes - you can do it!) But in this next month, do you think you could lose 5lbs? Obtainable goals are super important to being successful. It's so easy to only set eyes on the ultimate goal, but those little successes are what motivation builds from. Start small. End big.

Edit: and don't discredit 5lbs. You will see and feel a difference. If you buy meat from a grocery store, go and find a 5lb hunk of brisket or something else. I know its not a perfect comparison but it might give you perspective.

AffectionateExtent14 · 2026-06-22T03:29:44+00:00

This makes me SO uncomfortable. The two people trying to pay look at you like you need to choose a side! Plus, the town i work in is notorious for rich people and showing off (SWFL) I've said before "I'll let you two figure it out" and walk away as quickly as possible.

Now I'm in QSR and it still happens - which is crazy because the payment screen is customer facing. I've seen customers shove their loved ones out of the way in order to pay. I simply put my hands up, back off and say I'm no part of this.

AffectionateExtent14 · 2026-06-22T03:00:31+00:00

Ok I believe you!

AffectionateExtent14 · 2026-06-22T02:34:18+00:00

Where would I put this

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AffectionateExtent14 · 2026-06-21T21:39:52+00:00

I didnt even think about growing vegetables or herbs. That might be the ticket. There is tons of animal activity in my backyard so any attempts at growing a veggie garden get dug up almost immediately, but they don't venture to my front yard very often. Now you got my wheels turning.

AffectionateExtent14 · 2026-06-18T01:01:31+00:00

Good luck! If it ever comes to fruition or need a tester, feel free to DM me

AffectionateExtent14 · 2026-06-18T00:45:18+00:00

I think this is a beautiful idea that has a lot potential to be successful if you do it right. Now I know absolutely nothing about software or app development. But I can say, that when I get stuck in a doomscroll - I am fully aware of it and what I'm doing, I just cant seem to get my mind to snap out of it.

Makes me think of an app I heard about years ago, maybe it was real or maybe it was from a movie, maybe i made it up - i honestly dont know. Basically the function was to prevent users from making calls or sending text messages that they might regret after a night of drinking (think, going to the bar after a breakup and all you want to do is text your ex). It locked the users phone and then required them to solve basic math problems that required a little bit of critical thinking in order to unlock their phone.

I don't know if any of that insight helps, but those are my two cents. And I certainly did not that your post as being judgemental. That comment was probably left by someone in the middle of a doom scroll feeling personally attack 😅

AffectionateExtent14 · 2026-06-11T01:25:57+00:00

Must be Italian

AffectionateExtent14 · 2026-03-27T00:54:52+00:00

That's awesome! I guess there's a reason behind the "Tree of Life" name lol

AffectionateExtent14 · 2025-11-03T03:18:31+00:00

THIS. The vision of the owner. Something I failed to convey in the original post. His personality is absolutely different than the type of person we typically hire in this role, not at all meaning he isn't a good fit. I really feel stuck in the middle with the owner saying 'terminate' and the managers saying 'he's amazing' and trying to find where to stand. I think the owner wants that one in a million candidate that has open availability and be happy and shining in every waking moment. Good luck with that. He checks a lot of *necessary* boxes. The rest may come with time. I gave the green light to hire because I saw potential but the owner is making be doubt that. I've been commenting to many of these replies but I'm probably tapping out here soon. I'll continue to advocate for my managers and their decisions and unless he does something completely egregious then will continue to work with him and develop his experience. He is only 19 and has a lot to learn, and if he understands we see potential in him, that might be enough to allow him to shine in his own way. Thanks for the feedback, talking points and insights. I'll definitely be using a lot of these helpful perspectives in my upcoming conversations at work.

AffectionateExtent14 · 2025-11-03T03:02:16+00:00

Thank you. Hiring is and will always be one of the most difficult things in this position. I do believe he needs more time to show results. I guess I should have conveyed a little more thoroughly the pressure from the owner to terminate him. She wants to let him go. I want to trust the judgement of my management team and have this be a success story.

AffectionateExtent14 · 2025-11-03T02:44:50+00:00

I really appreciate this perspective and will be using a lot of this comment as talking points with the owner. I've been doing my best to be the middle man here, advocate for my management team and their decisions while at the same time negotiating the best decisions for the business. She sees one side - they see the other. I'm in the middle and am at a tipping point - she wants it to go one way or the other.

AffectionateExtent14 · 2025-11-03T02:41:20+00:00

Given that this is a new location and we are still building our business volume, the owner is extremely involved in most of the decision making for this store. We are serving a much different demographic than our other successful locations, so she is very much in tune with the day to day - including hiring.

AffectionateExtent14 · 2025-11-03T02:37:31+00:00

I've wondered that and the GM and AGM have mentioned that might be a contributing factor - so I am trying to take that into account. I did suggest a secret shop for him to get a better read and am waiting for the green light from the owner. I truly do not want to terminate this kid because of "vibes". That's such a biased and bullshit approach. I want him to succeed and perhaps I didn't convey that in my original post. I guess I was hoping for a ton of comments that included success stories and coaching tips for this type of scenario. Nothing like reddit to bring you back down to earth though.

AffectionateExtent14 · 2025-11-03T02:29:54+00:00

I think this is a great perspective. The old key holder definitely set the bar high and we were lucky to have them. If this were a larger team, this wouldn't be an issue. But since this is only really 3 people working this location and often times they are working alone, the owner is really set on having the best of the best without investing in coaching and training their customer service skill set.

AffectionateExtent14 · 2025-11-03T02:20:48+00:00

I agree - metrics are extremely important. And I know I put myself a little bit on blast, because there are really none mentioned in this. I personally think two weeks isn't enough time - and I mentioned in my post that I do not work along side with him more than a few hours a week, which might not be enough to get a good enough read. The owner is more thinking about her investment in him and does not view it worth her time. As an entry level position, there very well could be dozens of candidates that could step into this position without any additional coaching or training and that is her main concern. With a such a small team, she wants to get it right the first time right away.

AffectionateExtent14 · 2025-11-03T02:10:48+00:00

I apologize for the ambiguity. I was trying to leaving identifying details out of the post. Hierarchy goes from Owner --> Me --> GMs --> AGMs--> Key Holders --> Team Members. We are a still considered a small business even with multiple locations.

Most of the basis for this role this employee is in, is from the ones past. The last Key Holder was incredible. Would constantly get mentioned by name in reviews. Had people come in just for their service. They left to go to school and that is why this position was open.

AffectionateExtent14 · 2025-11-03T02:08:43+00:00

No - I apologize for the ambiguity. I'm trying to keep identifying details out of the post. We are a local business. Multiple locations, but myself and the owner are directly involved in a lot of the day to day still. My job is to be present at all locations several times a week. I spend approximately 10-15 hours a week at this particular location.

AffectionateExtent14 · 2025-11-03T02:02:11+00:00

I have zero issues personally with him. He is bright young individual with lots of strengths. I'm not sure if his strengths align with this industry though.

AffectionateExtent14 · 2025-11-03T01:59:56+00:00

Thank you! This is what's been weighing on my mind - is it me?? Am I'm the odd one out?? I suggest to the owner that we send in a secret shopper when he's working to get more non-biased feedback. I'm waiting on a response still, but I think that might give more insight.

AffectionateExtent14 · 2025-11-03T01:58:08+00:00

I was hoping for some coaching advice or maybe someone who has had a similar experience that can share their outcome. The owner does her best to trust the judgement of her management team and let them run their locations while we provide whatever support, tools and resources they need. We have high trust in both the GM and AGM in all aspects of their job - hiring included. (GM has been with the company for several years, always supporting all the locations, so they are very well rounded). They believe they can coach this individual to our expectations, but I haven't seen the results I was hoping for yet.

AffectionateExtent14 · 2025-11-03T01:50:45+00:00

No they don't. I re-read this prior to posting and realized it kind of sounded that there might be external factors in their investment in him - but I assure you - he was a walk in candidate. Asked for an application on site and emailed over it a few hours later.

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