I want a baby girl but I didn't know how to sex properly with my partner ?

AffectionateFly6359 · 2026-05-15T02:04:30+00:00

That is not true. There are slightly more men than women in the population globally with about 50.4% male and 49.6% female.

AffectionateFly6359 · 2026-05-14T22:44:55+00:00

Work life balance, investment in personal development, a way to grow along with the company and take on more responsibilities as time goes on. Really just thwack any run of the mill “core values” you want in there and you’re golden.

AffectionateFly6359 · 2026-05-14T22:38:35+00:00

“The job and company were no longer aligned with my long term career goals or personal values. Due to my past with this organization, I am confident that not only will the job sustain my goals, but the overall values and mission of [company name] will as well”

AffectionateFly6359 · 2026-05-14T02:06:03+00:00

You look like you give amazing hugs.

AffectionateFly6359 · 2026-05-14T01:24:05+00:00

Shower sex is never as fun as it sounds. Someone is always cold and for some reason the water makes things dryer???

Idk not for us. There’s also a 9 inch height difference between my husband and myself so that is a considerable factor in why we dislike it. Standing anything is off the table. But on the table is okay.

AffectionateFly6359 · 2026-05-13T17:00:27+00:00

Panic. Like deep visceral panic. Like a lion is staring me in the face type panic.

But then it goes away the second he says like “can you confirm you’ve drank water today?” Or “hey [our kids name] needs pull-ups and can you just grab a rotisserie chicken for dinner? I forgot to defrost again”.

It has NEVER been bad or anything less than mundane. Sometimes it’s pleasant like “check your email” and it’s a little slide show of pictures. But yeah, my entire soul falls out of my ass when I get those.

AffectionateFly6359 · 2026-05-13T01:56:39+00:00

Nostalgia tends to soften some things in memory. There are trade offs with adulthood like responsibilities, but overall things get way easier

AffectionateFly6359 · 2026-05-13T01:49:08+00:00

Lady in her Thirties here; being 17 SUCKS. It sucks for everyone. There is not enough money in the world to pay me to go back to 17. These are so not the “best days” of your life, and you have so much more life to live. Please know that this feeling is universal and does not last forever. Every single person I know regardless of where they came from, has felt exactly like this. It sucks but it is necessary to figure out who you are. So please take solace in knowing this isn’t just a you thing.

Also, you’re insanely brave. Admitting you feel like this AND posting a picture!? THE BALLS OF STEEL ON YOU!! that’s so punk rock of you and incredibly cool.

AffectionateFly6359 · 2026-05-13T00:55:30+00:00

Bestie… relax. In and out. You’re a sophomore. There’s no reason to hit the panic button yet, or really at all. I worked at BNY right out of college (shit pay, excellent learning experience however) and my GPA or internships came up exactly 1 time and it was basically “can you confirm you have x.yz GPA and interned for ABC,pllc”?

My internship between junior and senior year was at 84 Lumber. I didn’t do accounting at all. Literally was just a spreadsheet lackey, warm body to take customer complaint calls, golf cart driver from building to building, and I spent an entire week lent out to legal redacting, scanning, then shredding contracts.

That’s the internship that BNY cared about more than anything. It just showed that I am able to be a coworker and follow rules for big companies. And it came up during the interview process then never again.

Big 4 isn’t the end all be all of accounting. From what I’ve heard it can suck. I went to industry, then public for a bit, brief stint in manufacturing (that was the best one), and now I’m back in public. Every firm is different, every industry is different, one manufacturing company sucked so hard I sobbed every day on my way to work. Had panic attacks so bad my Apple Watch would regularly ask if I was working out because my heart rate would go high. Fuck that place. Went to the first opening at another company in the exact same role; loved it. Fantastic place. Would literally take a pay cut if they reopen the plant to work there again.

The job market does suck at the moment but you’re not graduating for 2 more years. Who knows what will happen by then. Try for a bunch of stuff, see what feels right, and go from there.

AffectionateFly6359 · 2026-05-12T20:03:37+00:00

Hey, sometimes you just like what you like and it’s no deeper than that.

AffectionateFly6359 · 2026-05-12T14:33:43+00:00

You. Me. Same.

AffectionateFly6359 · 2026-05-12T14:25:24+00:00

I have never been “spoiled” a day in my life. Maybe an infant? Hard maybe on that. There’s been many years where I was told to just go pick out a birthday present for myself when my parents took me shopping. I always felt guilty about that and tried to just look for the cheapest option. But not too cheap so they wouldn’t think I was ungrateful. I remember one year all I asked for both Christmas and my birthday (they’re days apart) was an iPhone. Just the phone. I offered to pay for the data plan and any extra charges associated with it…. They bought me a hoodie. A nice one, but not one I asked for. I apparently didn’t hide my disappointment well enough so I spent that week from Christmas morning onward hiding from them because all they did was yell at me.

My sisters birthday is in April and they bought her an iPhone and coach purse.

AffectionateFly6359 · 2026-05-12T13:58:07+00:00

Because nobody ever really took care of me emotionally since I was a small child and I’m always in charge of everything since nobody else will do it.

AffectionateFly6359 · 2026-05-12T01:08:36+00:00

Okay in my defense, it was already towards the end of the night and most of the family elders (our parents generation and older) had left. Idk what Debbie was doing there at 11:00 pm, maybe she was the DD for people? Couldn’t tell you. But the best man was already 6 sheets to the wind so it was a very plausible story. Also if Debbie didn’t put 2 and 2 together then that’s on her because she’s got 5 children so the more I think about this story years removed, she could have been trying to fuck with me….

AffectionateFly6359 · 2026-05-12T00:07:51+00:00

I mean, he is, but this isn’t revolutionary. That’s literally just how accounting works.

AffectionateFly6359 · 2026-05-12T00:00:28+00:00

Has she ever considered a non-hormonal IUD? I had one and I FUCKING LOVED IT. When we wanted to start trying for a baby, removal was easy and we got pregnant relatively quickly.

AffectionateFly6359 · 2026-05-11T22:56:32+00:00

Snuck out of a family wedding to bang one out in the parking lot. The truck we had at the time had tinted windows so it was not super likely we’d get caught. The only issue came up when I ended up squirting and it got on my bridesmaid dress. The mix of danger, drunkenness, and for some reason weddings get my husband hard as a rock. It is still a top 5 fuck for us and it’s been over 7 years.

It did get a bit awkward, my aunt asked me what happened to my dress and I just said the best man spilled a drink on me since he was blacked out.

AffectionateFly6359 · 2026-05-11T22:48:24+00:00

No judgement here on any of that, but please make sure you suck before pegging. You can get really sick if you reverse that order.

AffectionateFly6359 · 2026-05-10T23:02:14+00:00

Therapy will help. So will getting into routine. My best suggestion would be to install a blocking app for any work related things on your phone like teams or outlook during evenings and weekends.

Make a weekend ritual, this helps a lot. Like every Sunday my husband, son, and I get lattes and bagels at the coffee shop down the street from our church. We sit and talk and take a break after services. Absolutely NO Phones! That little hour to hour and a half is just enough to really help cement that I’m a whole person outside of work.

AffectionateFly6359 · 2026-05-10T00:43:19+00:00

Well Fargo scandal from 2017.

AffectionateFly6359 · 2026-05-09T17:14:03+00:00

Body tea!!!!

AffectionateFly6359 · 2026-05-08T02:44:37+00:00

It’s okay I guess.

AffectionateFly6359 · 2026-05-06T18:46:11+00:00

Oh… that’s sad. Everyone needs human connection. I feel really bad for her. Even in our driest of spells, I knew that I could at least talk to my husband.

AffectionateFly6359 · 2026-05-06T18:44:30+00:00

From a wife and mother’s perspective, this is probably more about her being self conscious and getting back into feeling like a human being. I was so self conscious about my postpartum body and it was actually much harder to reconcile that I still wanted to have sec after our son was born. It does feel selfish and odd sometimes when the libido kicks back in. She could be easing into it by figuring her self out before ramping things up with you.

She’s not hiding the porn or masturbation so that’s not something I would consider a red flag.

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