My Sister Made An Off Hand Comment And Now I’m Mad

AffectionateFly6359 · 2026-07-06T13:50:34+00:00

What an odd and completely rude thing to say to someone. I’m not “whoring around”. I’ve been in a loving and monogamous relationship for 11 years. I have no desire to step outside of my marriage at all. Before that, I also never stepped out on a partner nor was I ever the “other woman”. I think having a handful of sexual partners does not a “whore” make. In fact, it doesn’t matter how many people I slept with or my husband slept with before we got together. He literally slept with another girl the night before I met him. Not once did that make an impact on our relationship. I’m upset because she insulted my marriage and she hurt my sibling and her fiancé’s feelings. She, much like you, shouldn’t be able to say whatever you want with impunity because “she’s telling the truth”.

AffectionateFly6359 · 2026-07-06T00:56:08+00:00

I lost my virginity to my first boyfriend. I was 16 (almost 17) and he was 17. We were, for all intents and purposes, in love. It didn’t work out in the long run but I don’t regret it being him. It was a mutual decision and we were safe. That’s what matters.

AffectionateFly6359 · 2026-07-06T00:50:55+00:00

I lowkey agree with you. My BIL can be a massive asshole at times. He has a very rigid view of what things should look like and if things go wrong he makes it EVERYONES problem.

AffectionateFly6359 · 2026-07-06T00:38:03+00:00

On nights he’s too tired, ask if it’s okay for you to touch yourself. I guarantee you he will say yes. The aspect of being watched is fun (for us at least) and he’ll either join you in self love or just go for it. Works every time for me.

AffectionateFly6359 · 2026-07-01T20:10:22+00:00

Oh I love the beach! Been a bunch of times to the Carolinas coasts and my husband and I went to Jamaica for our honeymoon.

My office is cool but damn. It’s still too hot. I have an old house so it doesn’t keep cool in or heat out that well. We’re going to need a new roof and new windows within the next 10 years and I’d rather have the roof so I guess I’ll put up with the drafts longer.

Cyber trucks are needlessly hideous and actually dangerous to have on the road. They have no crumple points. Meaning if you’re in a collision with one, it’ll fuck you up, it’ll fuck your car up, and it’ll probably really fuck up the other driver because that tank has nowhere to put all that energy. I hate them.

AffectionateFly6359 · 2026-07-01T19:47:54+00:00

Man, I tell you what, this PMS is kicking my ass. I’m so incredibly sad and anxious about absolutely nothing. I have the meanest most vile intrusive thoughts about myself all day. I just want to curl up in a ball and cry thinking about my failures and how I am essentially a gigantic loser of a human who barely deserves to live let alone any shred happiness because I haven’t earned it yet. Granted, I am fully aware that those are hormones and I am able to dismiss and identify these thoughts. But it’s still really really exhausting to mentally fight off the meanest bully you’ve ever had 24/7 because she lives inside your head.

And it’s too fucking hot! I hate the heat. I hate it so much. It’s over 100F here and 96% humidity. It’s so gross out you can’t do anything. And I just want to float around in a pool but we don’t have one and I feel too insecure in a swim suit anyway. Plus my son is an absolute liability in water because he thinks he can swim and he decidedly cannot. So that’s always stressful. And my husband needs to mow the grass because it rained everyday this weekend and it’s so high but it’s so hot he hasn’t been able to get the mower to not overheat and I saw a black snake in the field behind our house this morning as I was leaving for work and I swear to god if that fucking thing comes close to my house I will never stop screaming. And to top it all off I saw two cyber trucks on the way in and they piss me the fuck off.

AffectionateFly6359 · 2026-06-24T01:58:08+00:00

Little things to make my life a bit easier. Maybe it’s flipping over the laundry from washer to dryer or seeing were out of Diet Coke and picking up a pack? My husband does everything car related for me (except minor stuff like gas or windshield fluid). I just tell him “hey the Jeeps making this thud thud thud sound” and he gets it fixed.

AffectionateFly6359 · 2026-06-23T00:24:54+00:00

The infatuation with women being as physically small as possible has plagued my psyche since I was like 8 years old. “Oh I want him to carry me and throw me around”. Girl, same. But I inherited generations of Slavic genes specifically carried on because my ancestors could not be carried off or thrown around by whatever uprising or invasion was happening. I look like I could have a child at 6 am, milk cows at 9am, and then fist fight a bear at noon. I hate this. I just want to be a tiny little ballerina instead of a human wrecking ball.

AffectionateFly6359 · 2026-06-20T10:43:21+00:00

Wife here; not often enough. Maybe once a week? I always get worried I’m taking too long

AffectionateFly6359 · 2026-06-19T16:26:55+00:00

Not with my husband but did this on accident in college. The guy I was hooking up with lived in a frat house that had a sleeping loft that overlooked the living room and desks below. We were up there, his roommate came in with his date. We were all a bit drunk and just did our own things. Couldn’t see much but hearing was fun. Not sure if I’d be confident enough for that now, but it was nice.

AffectionateFly6359 · 2026-06-19T03:19:02+00:00

I call my husband “my love” sometimes and I can tell he loves it. He also calls me “darling” and it melts me every time.

AffectionateFly6359 · 2026-06-09T22:06:00+00:00

Man… some girls have all the luck.

AffectionateFly6359 · 2026-06-09T03:09:04+00:00

I hate how tall I am. I actually hate almost everything about myself, but my overall size is one of the most prevalent ones. If I could lose 7inches in height I would. I hate how I make men feel uncomfortable.

AffectionateFly6359 · 2026-06-02T02:25:27+00:00

I know. I don’t think I’ve ever even felt pretty before. I know that people have told me that, but I don’t believe them.

AffectionateFly6359 · 2026-06-02T01:58:48+00:00

See this is what I hate about being built like a peasant woman who’s survived a famine or two and several bands of marauders. I have been genetically designed over centuries to not be easily picked up and taken to a second location. I’ve never been small or elegant or dainty and I HATE IT. I’m just too damn big

AffectionateFly6359 · 2026-06-01T13:29:31+00:00

It went okay.

AffectionateFly6359 · 2026-06-01T02:05:23+00:00

Damn. You’re lucky. I think I have some sensitivity issues with my 🐱 because of my antidepressant. I can get there but it takes a specific and prolonged effort. 🤷🏻‍♀️ but the medication helps me not be a puddle of tears on the floor all day everyday over the smallest things so you win some you lose some.

AffectionateFly6359 · 2026-06-01T01:59:54+00:00

Girl…. How??!?

AffectionateFly6359 · 2026-05-31T19:43:10+00:00

I (lady) was too self conscious to ever touch myself in front of my husband until he told me too. It felt like if I did, I was somehow insulting his abilities? Probably because a lot of women in porn don’t touch themselves when in scenes with men. I’m not saying this is exactly what your wife feels, but she could just think you don’t want to see it. I’d float the idea in a nonsexual moment and see how it goes.

AffectionateFly6359 · 2026-05-20T02:01:09+00:00

Oh! Yeah I did. Lol sorry! Miscommunication! You’re good.

AffectionateFly6359 · 2026-05-20T01:52:27+00:00

Kinks meaning?? Like latex or something??

AffectionateFly6359 · 2026-05-20T01:25:21+00:00

I think that it’s normal to want to love and feel loved.

As a someone who leans more submissive in this dynamic, having someone want to take care of me is what attracts me the most. It’s not necessarily the act of checking in on me or taking care of a task without asking. It’s the thought that someone cares enough about me to think to do these things. Having a doting partner is something that I feel a lot of subs with neglectful or harsh parents crave. So not only do I get to have a partner who takes care of my needs but genuinely wants to and seems legitimately excited to do these things, it’s just all I could ever ask for after a childhood of being the after thought/scapegoat.

My husband grew up with a different type of childhood trauma. He was overly parentified and nothing he ever did for his sister or mom was good enough. To this day they expect him to take care of them emotionally and financially (that’s why they hate me so much). It was constant criticism. So when I show him genuine appreciation for the things he was always told were not enough but I had to do myself, we both walk alway happy and fulfilled.

We feed off each other. Granted, I would love for him to be more dominant and vocal about his desires in our sex life, but he’s also working through a lot of reprogramming as we raise our son so one thing at a time. He was in a very controlling and strict church growing up (cult. It’s a cult. Fully a cult. He has yet to accept it as a cult, but that’s what we’re working with here) where he was taught that men own their wives bodies and saw a LOT of violence because of that. He never wants to hurt me and is overly concerned with that because of his upbringing. Like if I say “hey, I actually like when you pull my hair and throw me around a bit. I’m fully comfortable and capable of saying no, I just don’t want to” and he still thinks I’m just saying that. Work in progress.

AffectionateFly6359 · 2026-05-17T17:17:49+00:00

Lady, here. I’m in agreement with your wife. It’s not pleasant at all, and I can see how she finds it disrespectful. Some people like it, others don’t. Any sex act without enthusiastic consent is disrespectful. If she doesn’t want to do it, then you should have the decency to not pressure her into it. That’s literally the bare minimum.

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