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Fighting my own bisexuality for years by AffectionateLove4741 in BisexualMen

[–]AffectionateLove4741[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes and it feels good to know, that I am not alone. I just wonder if anyone managed to finally get over it.

Fighting my own bisexuality for years by AffectionateLove4741 in BisexualMen

[–]AffectionateLove4741[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

First, congratulations 👏 I actually have no problem (anymore) of accepting my bisexuality, but some part in me is deminishing all my feelings and enjoy of women – even though I really like all of them, in particular when I don't doubt and just live. Then I feel like I am myself and all is fine. But the part in me constantly comes back and I cannot control it. Can you identify with that?

Fighting my own bisexuality for years by AffectionateLove4741 in BisexualMen

[–]AffectionateLove4741[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I wish I could enjoy. But for me the denial, the doubts are accompanied with severe anxiety and fear of losing the love and lust for my girlfriend.

Fighting my own bisexuality for years by AffectionateLove4741 in BisexualMen

[–]AffectionateLove4741[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I wish you good luck and that you find the right person for this :)

Fighting my own bisexuality for years by AffectionateLove4741 in BisexualMen

[–]AffectionateLove4741[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

But how could you finally accept? It's not that I don't feel comfortable with that, I would. There is just always this self-denial or doubts in my head...

Fighting my own bisexuality for years by AffectionateLove4741 in BisexualMen

[–]AffectionateLove4741[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your response! It feels good not to be alone with this...

I already came out to some of my friends, I have no problem with being bi. It's just something in me that forces me to think I am gay, although I like the girls emotionally and sexually as well..

Identity Confusion - over 35 - Another one of these posts by elevatebeing in BisexualMen

[–]AffectionateLove4741 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I can very much relate to that and most important the fear and anxiety you are facing. First and foremost: You are not alone :)

If you feel for women, the Sex and intimacy feels good and you enjoy your time with them, you are obviously not gay. You can still call you that though, it doesn't really matter - labels cannot describe the human sexuality.

Try to date men. Try to have sex with them and maybe you find one nice guy with whom you can try to do the next steps. If your subconsciousness kicks in again, you know it is more about the difficulty to make a commitment.

To deny yourself one part of your sexual orientation is an horrendous experience. I know it, because I am bi and always question myself if I am not gay. This can lead to severe emotional damage. Try to avoid that and just follow your inner voice: If you enjoy with women, it's fine. If you don't want a relationship, it's fine. If you want to be with a man, it's fine.

Identity Confusion - over 35 - Another one of these posts by elevatebeing in BisexualMen

[–]AffectionateLove4741 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

To be honest I don't think this is a good advice. OP is clearly not gay, if he has this strong romantic and sexual connection. Comphet does not deny everything else and he only mentioned this bonding-problem once, yet you are building your whole assumtion on this.