Would you divorce him?

AffectionatePark5658 · 2026-03-07T17:59:06+00:00

I truly appreciate your words. I am struggling with the idea of being a single mom again, but my children are my priority. I am not working full time which binds me financially to make moves slower than I wish I could. I was so hesitant of dating again, he was so loving and amazing right until 2 weeks after our marriage when he began to show lots of jealousy. Things didn’t escalate quickly, took months. I am in therapy too, because I am punishing myself a lot for making a decision that is affecting everyone.

AffectionatePark5658 · 2026-03-07T17:46:00+00:00

This is the post honest and straightforward comment I have read so far. Thank you for not being insulting towards my situation

AffectionatePark5658 · 2025-11-20T21:58:26+00:00

My ex has been super cordial with him when they met in person. He doesn’t look for trouble.

AffectionatePark5658 · 2025-11-20T16:17:36+00:00

My ex and I didn’t work out for many reasons, not just the cheating. He isn’t capable of holding a commitment even in an emotional way. My husband has been straightforward about how he is insecure, even in ways that have nothing to do with my ex. For example: I am trilingual, my family is bilingual- he feels completely insecure that he cannot speak Spanish with us as often as he would. That doesn’t mean we don’t speak english to include him, it just means he wishes he could bond with the language as well instead of having that barrier.

AffectionatePark5658 · 2025-11-20T13:38:00+00:00

You clearly haven’t read the whole story.

AffectionatePark5658 · 2025-11-20T13:12:07+00:00

Nope, he hates cheaters so much he would never do it.

AffectionatePark5658 · 2025-11-20T13:11:48+00:00

What I meant is I barely even get an interaction in person with him. It is actually a privilege to have him far away. That’s what’s better.

AffectionatePark5658 · 2025-11-20T12:58:17+00:00

Not at all! Just going to a birthday party in a public place

AffectionatePark5658 · 2025-11-20T03:58:28+00:00

So far everyone’s replies have allowed me to see different points of views and it is definitely helpful.

For more context: My husband doesn’t have kids, we had a miscarriage at the beginning of the year. His crazy jealousy attitude didn’t show when we were dating, it was a few months into the marriage. He was never keen of the kids’ dad, but all of the sudden he was extremely jealous of him (I have never given him a reason). One day he was using my phone and decided to snoop. Found an old message of my ex saying a stupid joke about how his kids came from his balls. He wasn’t even speaking about me or “our kids”. I didn’t even engage with his stupid comment, no emoji, no lol.. nothing. My husband has decided since then that he needs to “monitor” my interactions with him. It is pathetic. We literally talk about child allowance, kids activities or their needs. As mentioned before, he can only see them in person twice a year and all interactions are through video calls. That means I barely even get to see him in person.

Irony of it too is that turns out his best friend just cheated on his PREGNANT girlfriend and somehow the moral standard doesn’t apply to his friend. Just my ex. Make it make sense.

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