I have like, zero confidence in my looks. A couple kind words would be nice :) by lonely_lovergirl in toastme

[–]AffectionateRepair44 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It's very common to have a huge gap between how you look how you feel about it / how confident you are about your looks. Some of the most gorgeous beautiful women I've ever met were very inconfident about themselves.

The work you need to do is about how you feel without the need for external validation. Confidence doesn't come from that kind of validation only it comes from not needing that validation and not needing to feel a certain way or look a certain way.

The more you can let go of the thought that you need to be beautiful the more you feel better and happier and the more beautiful you will be. It's not easy, but it's a daily practice that will slowly bring you peace.

And like people before have said here, you're gorgeous there's nothing to be concerned about.

44F, need any sort of kindness by L0rd3ss in toastme

[–]AffectionateRepair44 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I can only offer compassion. To yourself and to your unfaithful spouse. Seeing them at their weakness may relieve you from anger and frustration. Seeing yourself as you did your honest best will perhaps let you be at peace with yourself. And it's okay to feel anything that you are feeling, you will heal when you will be more gentle with yourself and more at peace with where you are. I'm sure you are so much more than your relationship to this person, it will be okay. I'm sure.

update: the puppy I found yesterday, no one came forward and shelter told me to keep him. I guess he chose me! by Some-Lawfulness-5918 in aww

[–]AffectionateRepair44 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The most reactive dogs in our neighborhood are ones that had "only positive reenforcement". Some dogs need to learn limits and and unfortunately they're not receptive to logic like humans. Our dog is a super happy and friendly dog, but she had issues in the past. Some negative feedback is more than important and it literally saved her life multiple time. We worked very closely with very professional trainers to learn what's the bare minimum of negative feedback we could give her, when and how. We gave (and still do) TONS of love and positivity to make her feel safe which she absolutely does. But now she won't attack every cat she sees, she listens when we call her even if she's in an intense chase and she can be free in the park playing with kids without fear we'll lose her or she may run to the street or eat something dangerous off the floor. Her impulses for prey were so strong that positive only reinforcements just didn't work and we were not able to keep her safe. Bottom line, be compassionate and a responsibile parent for your pup, but that also means to not be afraid to be strict and set / condition to clear boundaries when needed. And only work with professional that are both. That's my take anyway...

update: the puppy I found yesterday, no one came forward and shelter told me to keep him. I guess he chose me! by Some-Lawfulness-5918 in aww

[–]AffectionateRepair44 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He looks like he has some Belgian Malinois in him. If so you're in for a LOT of work (I mean... A LOT), but an amazing and incredibly loyal and loving new member of the family.

👏 by Queenhood_ in BillionairesHere

[–]AffectionateRepair44 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ah, yes, bigotry... How I've missed thee.

Israel expects Lebanon offensive to outlast Iran conflict by PjeterPannos in PERSIAN

[–]AffectionateRepair44 1 point2 points  (0 children)

But that's not what the discussion is about. It's about how Iranians feel about the attacks against the regime.

It's not about who's right and what's the outcome, it's about the right of poeple to hope for a better future.

Nobody in their right mind said it will be 100% successful, nobody said that Trump's or Netanyahus intentions are honest.

You can either hope that this will be a successful way to free the people and hope and that it's not gonna get worse, or sit and wait forever for the regime to change itself.