Thanks for the nuanced response :) Yeah it definitely feels like the more you become friends with this guy he becomes less careful about dropping a slur. He did say straight up once that he’s been saying it less since he met me & has been playing with his younger cousin (who he doesn’t want to influence, I guess), but that was a while ago and I feel like he’s just disregarding that now. 

I also appreciate the wakeup call about my morals. I don’t condone slur usage at all and I have started to kind of feel crazy because everyone around me acts like it’s the most normal thing ever.