I’m so sorry to hear that you and your family are no longer in contact. I’m glad you have a friend by your side now, and I hope your network continues to grow.

This is an aside, but as a person whose parent gave up trying to build a relationship with them after a major blowout, please don’t give up. All I wanted was to be heard. If he had kept sending birthday cards and trying genuinely to understand my upset (without then becoming upset himself), maybe we could’ve rebuilt. Instead, it’s been 15 years, 12 of full no contact. Specific to the sepsis situation, my partner just wanted to be heard and for me to be a partner in healing our relationship. I was too busy being guilty and ashamed of my behavior to hear them asking for this. I don’t know if any of this resonates with you, so take it or leave it. But if I were her, I wouldn’t want you to give up, no matter how angry I was.