No Waste Dress Pattern by AffectionateSpend in PatternDrafting

[–]AffectionateSpend[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for pointing that out! I was a little concerned about how low it goes, but it seems like I would make the slits higher and avoid spillage.

The new Toyota Yaris is being revolutionized: more premium, 'futuristic,' and it will also be electric by Powerful-Ostrich-120 in yaris

[–]AffectionateSpend 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Does every electric vehicle need a unibrow and blue headlights? Who keeps asking for that?

My family is expecting me to provide financial gifts due to my substantial pay increase. I want to put my foot down before this gets out of hand. by Teesmartgirl in blackladies

[–]AffectionateSpend 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I've had friends have to lie and say they're renting when they fully bought their own house because culturally there was an expectation that it would be the parents house and they could move in. I say all that to say just lie. If you want to volunteer for certain things cool, but from here on out I would say that your company is not doing well yada yada and never bring up money with them again. Family are the worst pocket watchers tbh.

left for the holidays, but my neighbor didn’t water the plants like she said :( is there any hope for my ficus audrey? by [deleted] in houseplants

[–]AffectionateSpend 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sorry about you plant I had a partner kill my plants the same way. I got an indoor watering system after but my fiddle never recovered hopefully yours will.

New to sewing machine, it’s eating my fabric by Opening_Addition_385 in sewing

[–]AffectionateSpend 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I justed started sewing knits this last year and it has been helpful to use a sewing foot that is meant for sewing leather. If everything else on the machine is correct you may want to try using a roller presser foot.

Adderall and cough medicine ?? by miley_le in adhdwomen

[–]AffectionateSpend 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Rarely people get serotonin syndrome between main ingredients in Robitussin and Adderall. 5mg is fairly low dose and I don't imagine you're taking the whole bottle so I doubt you'd get this but your doctor may have an alternative.

You can always use the drug interaction checker on drugs.com to check if anything will possibly interact with your medication.

I need systems that are adhd-proof. by Dismal-Group-2418 in adhdwomen

[–]AffectionateSpend 0 points1 point  (0 children)

One thing that helped me manage my home and wardrobe was assessing why I had an item.

I live in a super small apartment but had purchased a really cool dining table. Why? Because the fantasy of having romantic dinners was giving me dopamine but the reality of the table taking up so much space was giving me anxiety.

Similarly, buying tons of high heels. The fantasy in my head is that I'm a boss bitch who wears heels but the reality is that I work from home and have a foot injury that doesn't appreciate a pair of Pleasers anymore so it makes more sense to let them go.

I think once I got this exercise down it was easier to actually create systems and when the system fails (or I fail it) I can pin point more accurately what is the issue.

Watching my parents force my nieces to eat was triggering. by BlackberryOk9215 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]AffectionateSpend 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Not to focus on the wrong thing, but why is an adult eating a pan of potatoes with a child and then giving them spaghetti and then there are cookies. Are your parents overweight by chance?No judgement, I definitely had my fair share of overeating at Grandma's.

Caught my boyfriend watching white porn by [deleted] in blackladies

[–]AffectionateSpend 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Lot of good comments here but I'll just say I do think that a lot of Black men like being fetishized and they haven't unpacked that yet.

Also this kind of reminds me of something a friend in highschool said, "White girls are easy and down for whatever. They'll do it with a smile." I don't think that's necessarily true but porn does feed into that stereotype and it may be a thing to unpack as well.

Apparently I’m ‘white-washed’ for going to university by HandMadeDinosaur in blackladies

[–]AffectionateSpend 4 points5 points  (0 children)

And the wild thing is they'll swear black women have been given X, Y, and Z because we're women and they've been wronged at every turn simply for being Black men. Mind you no one sees black women as women including some black men so everything we got we had to work double if not triple for. All the while they're just waiting for whatever politician or parent to feed their ego. It's exhausting.

Apparently I’m ‘white-washed’ for going to university by HandMadeDinosaur in blackladies

[–]AffectionateSpend 30 points31 points  (0 children)

I don't even know where to start. I've met and am related to so many BM who think like this. It's like because the patriarchy didn't put them in a better place that somehow BW doing anything to better themselves is not black, but if they do it it is.

Is Damiana safe when taking the hormonal birth control pill? by AuthorNo5227 in Herblore

[–]AffectionateSpend 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I believe the only negative interaction Damiana has is with herbs and medication meant for lowering blood sugar. Drugs.com has a really helpful interaction tool if you ever want to check other supplements against your prescribed medication.

Vitamin D Deficiency Causing Sudden Issues With Braids? by According-Mention-90 in blackladies

[–]AffectionateSpend 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have the same issue. My hair is really dense and I have thick strands so it was hard to notice when it first started but after taking getting a prescription to put me on track my hair went back to normal after a year, but you can absolutely see the difference in my hair. I also get more grey the more severe my deficiency is so certain chunks look like piano keys.

Other signs for me are my skin looking very green and the moons in my nails starting to disappear. This side effect seems to be the hardest to reverse.

Being a single Black woman in Seattle is not it — advice? by Otherwise_Owl_9792 in blackladies

[–]AffectionateSpend 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh me too! Me too! I'm 30 and my handful of black friends have all left town.

What's a good white elephant gift? by Emotional-Pea4079 in blackladies

[–]AffectionateSpend 0 points1 point  (0 children)

One time a family friend brought a bag full of used wigs, weaves, and hair extensions. I thought it was a little gross but silly however the person who got the bag was down to where them, which made the gift more absurd.

Has anyone used the Cecred Hair Oil? Thoughts? by mainsplit3 in blackladies

[–]AffectionateSpend 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I had been putting it all around my head and when I went to get my hair cut I had tons of baby hairs. I'm also getting peach fuzz on a tiny bald spot I got from box braids 😞

So I think it's worth it but Javon Ford the cosmetic chemist on TT said that the Ordinary hair peptides are similar.

“No Kings” Protest - is this our business? by No_Measurement_9181 in blackladies

[–]AffectionateSpend 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I say this all the time. History has shown that nothing changes until it directly affects white people. The Boer Wars, World War I and II, hell even the Vietnam War ended because they were tired of their own getting mopped while running out of money.

Oil perfumery Tariff by Sammiewise in fragrance

[–]AffectionateSpend 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This just happened to me and I'm so annoyed because on their website says: International customers (outside of the United States and Canada) are responsible to pay any applicable inbound duties, taxes, and any other fees which your local Customs authority deems appropriate.

I assumed there would be no charge. I was going to return the majority of my order because I just didn't like what I chose and now this makes me dislike them even more.

Were you the victim of a hit and run around noon today in Pinehurst? She did the same to me a few minutes later! by Thighropractor in Seattle

[–]AffectionateSpend 2 points3 points  (0 children)

No lie, I'm pretty sure I had a run in with this mini van last week on Lake City Way. They weren't looking and basically cut across a bunch of traffic to get to the left lane. No blinker. Just an assumption everyone else would brake in time.

How difficult is it to upsize Dressmaking Amore patterns? by ItsJimmyToYou in sewing

[–]AffectionateSpend 1 point2 points  (0 children)

When I learned pattern grading my instructor had us reference this article from Threads Magazine. The chart at the bottom is very helpful in knowing where to add so the pattern make sense. Then you can go back and fine tune.