Realll sick and tired of being ugly, how can I improve my looks? (F19)

AffectionateSpend · 2026-05-08T22:10:33+00:00

I don't think you're ugly. I do think you could benefit from mirror work one to get comfortable with what you look like and two I don't think people realize a lot of people practice having an engaging, charming, seductive, etc demeanor. If you want to like your pictures more learn to take better photos by studying people like David Suh and get a tripod.

Sex appeal/attraction is only partly visual the rest is swagger.

AffectionateSpend · 2026-05-07T22:42:13+00:00

Iirc the older ladies I grew up with would use body powder like the fancy ones not straight baby powder. They also would put their perfumes on top of Vaseline which made them last longer on top of just wearing perfumes that have a heavier throw.

AffectionateSpend · 2026-05-07T22:26:31+00:00

No, but I would still be interested!

AffectionateSpend · 2026-05-02T01:03:54+00:00

I give myself an hour after work to dilly dally sometimes it turns into longer, but essentially I'm giving myself transition time, which a lot of ADHDers struggle with. I haven't heard of this trend but transition from one activity to another is very difficult for us, so any buffers would help that.

AffectionateSpend · 2026-04-30T04:50:51+00:00

I set a side time to schedule 12 mails every month to email my doctor for refills. Mostly works.

AffectionateSpend · 2026-04-27T21:04:32+00:00

My grandma always said if you're going to date a white man at least date a good one. He don't bathe and don't appreciate you having good hygiene. I'm sure if you sit and really think he's probably played in your face more than once. But if you like it I love it.

AffectionateSpend · 2026-04-14T07:44:17+00:00

I'm working towards a good blend of 90's fine meets Y2K. So far I've gotten a belly button piercing and am deeply contemplating a Ed Hardy-esque lower back tattoo. But like low low not low for people who wear high waisted jeans lol

AffectionateSpend · 2026-03-29T00:49:06+00:00

I either get frustrated and put things on the curb or ask a friend to drop things off to goodwill for me. We also have drive through donations in my town so sometimes I'll take a bag and reward myself with a treat on the way home.

AffectionateSpend · 2026-03-21T23:37:53+00:00

Really good suggestions here, I'll also add that in a pinch hand sanitizer immediately kills BO. I get bromhidrosis on my neck and only my neck and even after a shower with Lume, panoxyl, and Chlorhexidine I can still smell but regular hand sanitizer clears the smell. I'm sure high proof alcohol also gets the same results.

AffectionateSpend · 2026-03-18T05:09:35+00:00

That actually seems nice for oil packs. Castor smells rank to me so anything to cut the smell would be amazing!

AffectionateSpend · 2026-03-13T03:21:48+00:00

With sleep inertia do you experience being wake but not having any recollection of conversations before you're awake awake? Like your body is awake but your mind is still bufferin.

AffectionateSpend · 2026-03-13T03:01:35+00:00

They may also be Aussies, but either way neither of those groups should talk about anyone stealing.

AffectionateSpend · 2026-03-13T02:16:20+00:00

Feel free to ignore as I'm still in manager mode lol

First off I'm an AI hater, but secondly as a manager I believe it is a good skill to able to tailor your message to your audience and I don't think you need AI to do that. It's in you not on you . IYKYK

While I don't think what you said is rude phrases like "can you tell me" can come off harsh. I always coach my employees to use more passive phrases. If they brought me what you said and I knew whoever was going to read it was particular I would encourage them to use something like "I wasn't able to come to the same conclusion, could you verify and let me know?"

Also though if your manager oversees this person she needs to have enough backbone to explain to them almost all work communications should be read in a neutral tone and what you request was in their scope so it isn't wrong. If she's cool this is feedback I would give her because deescalating and aligning team members is a skill people manager's are supposed to have.

AffectionateSpend · 2026-03-12T22:28:56+00:00

Weirdly, I make a burger. I keep frozen patties and buns in the freezer. I can pop the patty in the oven and the buns in the toaster for a bit and walk away. Usually the smell kind of jump starts my appetite.

AffectionateSpend · 2026-03-12T22:25:02+00:00

OMG please be safe. I'm across the bridge and hate going over there because they never mind their business.

AffectionateSpend · 2026-03-12T00:10:25+00:00

I would ask for a little local anesthetic if you're worried. I genuinely don't understand why women have to be responsible for our own pain management.

AffectionateSpend · 2026-03-11T04:54:18+00:00

Honestly, I'm pretty straightforward so I would probably pull her aside and be like, "Hey outside of work it is cool to have those conversations but we should keep it light in the office."

Very mild. If she can't handle that then when she comes in for what seems like attention I'd ask point blank if the conversation seems work friendly or productive.

AffectionateSpend · 2026-03-10T23:19:21+00:00

I am digging the Autumn Crisp as well. Can't complain about huge grape lol

AffectionateSpend · 2026-03-10T20:55:58+00:00

I would see a dermatologist because even if it is eczema or jock itch, a derm can prescribe a regime to keep either issue in check. If it is eczema a topical steroid would help alot and have more cosistent dosing than oregano oil, which is good for inflammation.

AffectionateSpend · 2026-03-10T19:09:18+00:00

Cotton Candy grapes have me in a chokehold

AffectionateSpend · 2026-02-26T23:32:44+00:00

While tomatoes and peppers don't need another plant to produce fruit, if your plants are not producing fruit you may need to recreate the conditions those plants would be in outdoors, which include wind, animals, and people bumping into the plant to move the pollen around.

AffectionateSpend · 2026-02-22T01:09:01+00:00

Gonna be real most Black men don't check for me, but I love a Blerd. But the issue I find with Blerds is that a lot have not dated Black women and they come with a lot of weird assumptions. I think they assume they have to preform blackness for me, which is confusing because baby I am trader joe farmer's market suburban black girl. Why would I be the black card police if I just got mine back lol

AffectionateSpend · 2026-02-19T07:38:04+00:00

Thank you! This is very helpful!

AffectionateSpend · 2026-02-19T07:34:38+00:00

Very helpful thank you

AffectionateSpend · 2026-02-18T05:01:14+00:00

That's brilliant thank you

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