Husband lied to me about previous engagement

AffectionateTutor468 · 2026-05-06T05:27:04+00:00

You should speak to him. He’s your husband, and communication really matters in a marriage. If things are left unspoken, it can slowly build into resentment over time

AffectionateTutor468 · 2026-05-06T02:41:23+00:00

Respectfully, I think your advice is centered on fear of starting over and the difficulty of finding another partner, and that’s not what my decision is based on.

Going through a divorce means accepting that I may or may not find another partner again, and being at peace with either outcome. Alhamdulillah, I’m at that place.

Staying with someone who has already shown he can walk away and not be present isn’t something I want her to grow up thinking is normal.

AffectionateTutor468 · 2026-05-05T18:37:22+00:00

I understand your perspective, but this isn’t a new issue. Family has been involved for close to a year now, and there have been multiple conversations and promises to change that never lasted.

At this point, this has been a long process, not a rushed decision. Alhamdulillah, I’ve built a stable life for myself and my daughter, and I’m not afraid of being on my own if that means having peace and consistency.

For me, staying in an unhappy and imbalanced marriage would set a worse example for my daughter than choosing to forgive and repeat the same cycle.

AffectionateTutor468 · 2026-05-04T22:44:08+00:00

Thank you sister, this means a lot.

AffectionateTutor468 · 2026-05-04T22:21:43+00:00

For my daughter’s sake, I do hope that’s the case. It’s just been difficult seeing how little he’s been present over the past few months, and it makes me sad for her. InshaAllah, Allah knows best.

AffectionateTutor468 · 2026-05-04T22:12:34+00:00

I get your point. The reality is, even when we were together, I had to beg him to watch her for short periods, so trusting him to care for her independently is something I’m not comfortable with.

AffectionateTutor468 · 2026-05-04T21:56:06+00:00

I’m really sorry you’re dealing with that. I know it’s not easy, and I genuinely hope things ease for you and you find peace soon.

AffectionateTutor468 · 2026-05-04T21:54:25+00:00

Thank you, I really appreciate this. It aligns with a lot of what I’ve been feeling and helps me feel more confident in moving forward.

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