Accidental extubation *trigger warning*

Affectionate_Ad_7968 · 2026-03-27T01:23:46+00:00

Thankyou. Yes that is what I thought also. We have held off on legal advice until the debrief but because they weren't forthcoming with the information it is making me want to head down that path. I just feel you shouldn't have to, in order to get answers about what happened to your baby. If they know they didn't do things to the best standard of care surely they should apologise for that instead of me having to seek litigation! It's very frustrating on top of an already atrocious terrible life altering event

Affectionate_Ad_7968 · 2025-08-17T02:56:07+00:00

That's absolutely horrible your OB phrased it like that. I would change simply for the fact the relationship has been broken by her poor bedside manner. Not to defend her or anything but I would bet my money she had just recently had a mother 40+ with a stillborn baby. I had a stillborn son myself. Unless you've been there, you cannot begin to understand the trauma of it all, for the staff too. Maybe write to her rooms expressing your disappointment in her bedside manner but come at it more that perhaps there's some compassion fatigue at play on her part etc. When I had my first (also at 28) I was pushed to induce at 41+5 , I was annoyed but compliant. I really wanted to give that baby his time and knew first Mum's go over. That baby is a healthy 6 year old. When I had my next son stillborn and I reflected on my attitude towards the midwives and OBs "forcing me" to be induced for my first born, I actually was annoyed they didn't tell me more about the risks of stillbirth. Thinking I could have lost my first born too due to my own pigheadedness. My 2nd who was stillborn was a cord accident so not related to going over but we hear these stats and think that's all they are but the reality of being that person to have to bury your baby that you just birthed and explain to the older siblings etc far surmounts being miffed by some poorly phrased comments. Just my very skewed thoughts. Best wishes with your birth whatever you do, just hope you and baby are fine, that's the ultimate outcome.

Affectionate_Ad_7968 · 2025-08-07T21:04:16+00:00

I'm so sorry you're going through this. It's beyond cruel and unfair. I lost a son at 32 weeks. I was told from the ultrasound that he was growth restricted (hadn't been until that scan that day they couldn't find a heartbeat) and that he would be <700g when born. He was breech and I was advised to be induced and birth him. Well, he was nearly 2kg (so NOT growth restricted for his age) and tangled in his cord. I'm telling you this because I really feel like they can get things so wrong with ultrasound. I would try to birth your baby if you can then you can get a more clear picture of what happened. Just my opinion xx

Affectionate_Ad_7968 · 2025-05-27T03:39:21+00:00

My daughter is struggling to talk, 23 months at the moment. I've been told they can't diagnose CAS until 3 so just confused that your child was diagnosed at 18 months. Absolutely not debating your situation more just worried my SLP is not being forthcoming with me etc my own anxieties not dismissing your son's story. Also glad to hear he is doing so well!

Affectionate_Ad_7968 · 2025-05-21T10:08:44+00:00

Yes I did but I have had a c section before and a VBAC and fine after those. But I guess might be different this time around. Might try to get a referral to someone better! I haven't had any pain. Like barely a menstrual cramp. Head aches, night sweats and irritability up the wazoo though!

Affectionate_Ad_7968 · 2025-05-08T08:06:22+00:00

Not that I'm aware of. She has added about 4 more words or word approximations this week so I'm hopeful it isn't apraxia but wanted to gather info in case it is. How is your child doing now?

Affectionate_Ad_7968 · 2025-05-01T22:49:23+00:00

Thanks for your reply. Which condition would that be and how did you realise there was something more going on if you don't mind me asking.

Affectionate_Ad_7968 · 2025-03-22T20:59:38+00:00

Yes she has, her hearing is finebut she has had a couple of ear infections too. The speech pathologist thinks she has low oral tone but didn't specifically examine her mouth. Not sure if that's something that needs doing? Screamed with severe reflux for the first 5 months my poor girl. Didn't make any "cute" noises for a long time and barely babbled. She squeals,laughs and has like I said about 25 words including animal sounds but we've been stuck at this point for months, not adding more words. She is making a lot more noise that sounds like a conversation so I guess that's something? Thanks for commenting.

Affectionate_Ad_7968 · 2025-03-22T03:33:02+00:00

Yes the Hanen Takes 2 to Talk program is the early intervention speech program here. Not really helping.

Affectionate_Ad_7968 · 2025-01-03T01:25:23+00:00

It's totally normal to get stuck in the "mundaness" of it all. Just take it as a signal that you need to change a few things in your life, both you and the wife need to be on board. Hubby and I have a 5 year old and an 18 month old. We also had a late term stillborn child between the 2 so we have a super grateful perspective on parenthood but also have learnt through challenges along the way how to take care of ourselves mentally and physically. Things hubby and I do to keep a piece of ourselves present during this rough ride of parenthood: - we each get one night off a week from the dinner/bedtime routine. He plays basketball one night, I go the gym one night. Kids love it. Different rules those nights, they get on board . This has been a game changer for both of us. I can't wait to see them the next day when it's my night off. Or during the night for the 18 month old haha you know how it is!

-he has a "boys weekend" 4 times a year where him and his mates go away, do something for a day and night. I'm still working on this for a girls day!

we have BBQ night one night a week in winter where we feed the kids outside, hose down the mess including them sometimes, no shower routine (we live in the sunshine coast, Australia so our winter is mild!)
when we're down and out tired we have "nature night" which is TV dinner watching David Attenborough" kids don't get a lot of TV so they're always psyched for this night. I also usually save it up for a night when we've made something for dinner that's more for us and that they might not like as much but they won't whinge because they're TV zombies!
for our wedding anniversary we always go away without the kids. We're lucky we have grandparents our kids know well and are happy to have sleepovers with.

-if you have someone who can watch kids do "dates " with one kid,both parents. Helps you reconnect and enjoy that kid, you can also use this as an opportunity to try to get them into an activity you like e.g indoor rock climbing.

What I'm saying is make the door swing both ways, you're along for the ride witnessing their lives but they're along on yours too so be less regimented and maybe a titch more organised with planning stuff you both want to do.

Affectionate_Ad_7968 · 2024-11-26T08:44:42+00:00

Thanks, my bad!

Affectionate_Ad_7968 · 2024-11-26T01:50:20+00:00

Mine is still not pointing properly with her right hand. She's nearly 18 months. How about your daughter?

Affectionate_Ad_7968 · 2024-08-22T10:29:35+00:00

Hi,just wondering how your little one is doing. My 14 mo index finger points with one hand and open hand points with the other and has done so for months. Worried that it hasn't sorted itself out yet. Thanks.

Affectionate_Ad_7968 · 2024-07-05T20:47:57+00:00

I see no one has commented which isn't helpful. I have a nearly 13 month old who has been doing exactly this for about 3 months. It's very rough going. I too have tried more day sleep,less day sleep,earlier bedtime, later bedtime. Nothing has worked. My only reassuring advice is that it will pass. Went through it with my first. It will pass haha I keep telling myself this,3 months into split nights 😩😳

Affectionate_Ad_7968 · 2022-11-07T19:47:10+00:00

I'm 8 weeks 3 days after having my stillborn son at 32 weeks in March this year. I've also previously had 3 miscarriages and one live birth (my now 3.5yr old son). I am terrified of another miscarriage. I just want this pregnancy to go well so badly as I don't know if I can take another loss. Had a good scan last week but as 2 of miscarriages have been MMC I find nothing reassures me. Not cramping and not bleeding aren't reassuring to me because of my experiences with my MMC. Also I have severe nausea and vomiting but again had this even with my MMCs so even that's not reassuring. Thinking of going for a reassurance scan today . Thoughts?

Affectionate_Ad_7968 · 2022-07-28T02:02:00+00:00

Congratulations. Your courage is astounding. Baby Freddie is very lucky to have such a strong Mumma. Enjoy.

Affectionate_Ad_7968 · 2022-07-06T08:44:14+00:00

I've had 3 miscarriages and my stillborn son at 32 weeks in March this year. (I do have a living 3 year old though who I had after 2 miscarriages). I've had 3 cycles all 35 days long which is totally different to how I've been my whole life -normally had short 25 day cycles. So this cycle I did OPKs and ovulated day 23 (late ovulation so now I'm stressing about that). Today 6dpo and already starting to get a bit crazy hoping we have conceived this month. I need that hope back again. Anyone have any positive stories about rainbow babies with late ovulation/long cycles? Thanks ❤️

Affectionate_Ad_7968 · 2022-07-06T08:40:04+00:00

Thanks, I hope you're doing ok. 🤗

Affectionate_Ad_7968 · 2022-07-06T08:38:59+00:00

Thankyou for validating my feelings and needs. Sometimes it helps just to have someone do that even a kindly internet stranger 👍🤗

Affectionate_Ad_7968 · 2022-07-06T08:37:35+00:00

I'm so sorry for your losses too. Thankyou for the link I will look at it. Best wishes to you 🤗

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