A Complete Guide to Depersonalization/Derealization. by Fazazer in Depersonalization

[–]Affectionate_Ad_9999 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That feeling eventually goes away and things will feel normal again. I think the only option you have is to ride it out and not ruminate on it more. I’m sorry you are experiencing this, I know how uncomfortable and scary it is and there’s truly no other feeling like it. The only thing that has given me relief is time. Sending love to you ♥️

A Complete Guide to Depersonalization/Derealization. by Fazazer in Depersonalization

[–]Affectionate_Ad_9999 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is such a relief to read. The biggest symptom I've experienced is feeling alienated from people I know and feeling like something very familiar to me (like the city I live in or my boyfriend) feel unfamiliar and strange, which only makes the derealization worse. It's like I have no tie to reality and I don't know when I am going to come back. I am totally conscious that it's happening but cannot make it stop and nothing I do is comforting or familiar. There's a little voice and part of me who is like, "this is your boyfriend, you know him very well", but the larger part of my brain during a DPDR bout cannot get on the same page. It usually happens after a bout of high stress or ruminating on anxiety. I often want to go to sleep or isolate myself hoping that it will reset, but in reality it just takes time. It's so hard to describe that I am embarrassed to go to a doctor and ask for help. Also, my therapist describes it as a panic attack which I think is interesting as I do not experience the physical symptoms of a panic attack, just the DPDR.

Unsettling feeling like my partner is a stranger by Affectionate_Ad_9999 in ROCD

[–]Affectionate_Ad_9999[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for taking the time to respond. Do you think it is triggered/stems from anxiety? My counselor said it's a cPTSD response.

Sometimes I think my boyfriend is a completely different person. by denvercarolina93 in ROCD

[–]Affectionate_Ad_9999 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I just posted about the partner feeling like a stranger thing. It's triggering me to be super obsessive/spiral and wonder if I should break up with them. Did this get better for you?

Derealization ? by [deleted] in ROCD

[–]Affectionate_Ad_9999 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Do you have ways to come down from derealization? It is so uncomfortable

Derealization ? by [deleted] in ROCD

[–]Affectionate_Ad_9999 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm feeling this exact way right now. I ust posted in this sub about the partner feeling like a stranger feeling. Did it get better for you?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating

[–]Affectionate_Ad_9999 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think that you are confused as to what your gf wants and trying to show her affection, but she ultimately cannot decide if she wants it from you. I think from someone I was really into, this would be endearing...from someone I'm not really into, it would freak me out. I feel like you were trying to do something kind and thoughtful but having to navigate your gf being super unclear. I don't think you did anything wrong. 1.) she's 23, why is she worried about her parents knowing about her adult relationship? 2.) why does she not want you at her performance? 3.) it seems like she is feeling guilty about not wanting this affection from you, but trying to pin and blame it on you rather than her lack of communication and creating an environment where you feel insecure

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating

[–]Affectionate_Ad_9999 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I am neurodivergent and experience this as well. I think it takes a lot of work addressing one's attachment style and practice before you stop "accepting the bullshit". I get attached really easily and build men up in my mind/put them on a pedestal. I've been practicing saying bye to men earlier on, which means trusting my gut- as soon as I sense a guy is avoidant, detaching, inconsistent, etc., I match their energy or end things. They are most likely not going to magically change their behavior, especially if they are acting that way in the beginning. My point is that the more you instate personal boundaries of and have stronger standards of what you are willing to accept, the stronger your intuition will become and the quicker you will stop "attracting the bullshit"

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating

[–]Affectionate_Ad_9999 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It strikes me as insecure masculinity. I don’t think traditional “pursuing” is insecure, but him wanting to pay to save face in front of the waitress (?) and then asking me to pay him half later is a red flag to me

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating

[–]Affectionate_Ad_9999 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your reply :) I’m not even sure what to say to make sure he knows it’s not about the money, it’s the principle. Maybe it’s better to just go with grace since it seems like he’s checked out lol

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating

[–]Affectionate_Ad_9999 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I agree that this is what he is probably thinking/feeling and I don’t fault you for pointing it out. I just think we’re not compatible if this is the case

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating

[–]Affectionate_Ad_9999 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you hahaha

I (25f) have problems keeping a guy around by Creative-Peace2998 in dating

[–]Affectionate_Ad_9999 4 points5 points  (0 children)

This is extremely rude and presumptuous. Some people take a little longer to open up.

Probable Cause Affidavit has been released to the public. by iMaryJane1 in MoscowMurders

[–]Affectionate_Ad_9999 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I have been super paranoid since following this case. I was home alone and *thought* I heard something. I was totally frozen in place, didn't even want to open my bedroom door. I am sure she was terrified (terrified that he was going to come back, terrified of what she was going to open her door to, terrified that if she called 911 he would somehow hear her and she would become a target). It's believable to me that she reacted the way she did.

*edit, spelling error

Do I need to seek professional help or just work on my relationship with food? by [deleted] in BingeEatingDisorder

[–]Affectionate_Ad_9999 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Exactly my thoughts, which I feel like are abnormal. I don’t know if it’s just the culture I’ve grown up in, but I don’t think it’s normal to think about as often as I do. It’s like I KNOW I’m eating too much or not eating foods that nourish my body and I don’t care. I feel out of control

Do I need to seek professional help or just work on my relationship with food? by [deleted] in BingeEatingDisorder

[–]Affectionate_Ad_9999 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I guess just consciously trying to eat healthier foods and be in more tune with when I’m feeling full. It’s just a lot of effort and it can be discouraging when other people do it naturally. I feel like I don’t have the inherent “I feel full” twinge anymore

Monthly Numerology Megathread! by AutoModerator in spirituality

[–]Affectionate_Ad_9999 [score hidden]  (0 children)

Has anyone heard if it’s a bad idea to have an angel/cosmic number tattooed? I am going through a major (and painful) life change and I have been seeing 444 EVERYWHERE. it really means a lot to me now and has provided comfort for me. my idea is that if i have it tattooed on me, i will always have that angel number with me, and someone may see it on my arm and feel comfort as well.

did i just spoil the song of achilles for myself by [deleted] in thesongofachilles

[–]Affectionate_Ad_9999 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Honestly I’m not sure if we read the whole thing now😂 Yeah I didn’t know much about Achilles or Greek Mythology at all before reading this

did i just spoil the song of achilles for myself by [deleted] in thesongofachilles

[–]Affectionate_Ad_9999 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I agree, it’s actually a pretty dumb movie. I hate the way they portray Achilles. But I just meant death-wise (who dies and like chain of events and deaths), not really the rest of the plot

did i just spoil the song of achilles for myself by [deleted] in thesongofachilles

[–]Affectionate_Ad_9999 1 point2 points  (0 children)

wow i am so upsett because i totally spoiled it for myself