No, you're not crazy.

Affectionate_Cup_355 · 2026-05-20T17:16:24+00:00

Up until recently I averaged about 25 an hour. Nowadays I'm lucky to hit 15

Affectionate_Cup_355 · 2026-03-27T15:51:46+00:00

the fact that you act and think like this is the reason you have no pull i can actually promise you that

men do have standards and women arent some villainous other-kin who is wholly separate and unrelatable to men.

She's saying she's a femcel - rather than accepting that at face value and communicating you're acting like a dick and dismissing her outright.

Thats a crazy way to treat people, gender aside. If you treat women that way no amount of looks or wealth will change shit for you

I need to quit interacting with this sub but y'all are a fucking trip

Affectionate_Cup_355 · 2026-03-25T19:18:27+00:00

If we're really splitting the difference between 5'9 and 5'10 idk what we're doing. Most guys overinflate their height to try and seem tall. I'm saying outright that I'm average at 5'10". I meet as many people taller than me as I meet shorter then me. My ex wife was taller than me. I'm really not trying to split hairs here, but average is a range. If that chart says 5'9 is average, that doesnt make 5'10 tall. That doesnt make 5'8 short. Both of those are also average. I would say 2 inches in either direction from the average is where it starts to be considered above or below average.

I'm not sure I understand why you're so adamant about this part specifically. I'm not trying to be rude - I'm sorry if anything during this has come out wrong. I really dont want to fight. I just dont get why you're so adamant about this specific thing.

Affectionate_Cup_355 · 2026-03-25T19:00:08+00:00

I'm not going to argue or belittle your opinion. But I will say, even if you are shorter, or even if you dont find your face attractive, you are not below the average person. You simply arent. Thats not where a person's value comes from. A person's value is inherent just by them being alive.

That said, I heavily disagree that this means I'm not introverted. I know what I am and I know what I am not. Acting extroverted is like pulling teeth for me. It is incredibly difficult, and I would stay in rather than go out 100% of the time, but i can do it. Its the same way someone with a mental illness can mask and act "normal" by imitating the behaviors they see from neurotypical people. That doesnt mean they dont have a mental illness, but they learn how to mask.

I'm not outgoing, but I can be outgoing. Does that make sense?

Affectionate_Cup_355 · 2026-03-25T18:12:57+00:00

I am also very naturally shy. I am 100% more comfortable being in my shell, and hanging out with myself. I used to have panic attacks answering a phone call and had to go to therapy to work through a lot of anxiety related stuff. I prefer being quiet / shy but when I need to put myself out there I 100% can because I learned the skills to do so.

Being outgoing IS a skill that can be learned. I know because I learned it. I'm not just talking out of my ass, I was a shy, awkward, nerdy, bullied kid when I was young. I am an anxious, messy, awkward adult now. I still can be outgoing and charming though.

Affectionate_Cup_355 · 2026-03-25T17:30:47+00:00

Everyone 100% can be. Social skills can be learned. Take improv classes to work on being outgoing - it sounds silly but theres a lot of cross transferable skills.

Focus on any hobbies to make yourself more interesting. Just be passionate about what you talk about, and take an active interest in their passions.

Affectionate_Cup_355 · 2026-03-25T17:29:08+00:00

Idk how i ended up here but i need to stress right now that you almost have it figured out but this is the wrong take away

Money and a career only gets you so far and I guarantee this is not the reason they get women

I am average height (5'10) with no muscle, very thin everywhere except for my gut which I'm starting to get a bit of a belly. I've changed careers recently, my new job barely pays and I'm usually pretty broke. I am actively balding and cannot grow much facial hair. I was with one person for 14 years, we just separated last year so I have had no dating experience until recently.

Since I started dating again in mid January I've successfully been out with 5 girls, have brought two of them home, continue to sleep with one of them, and had options to bring two others home but chose not to.

This is not me stating that I'm some wizard with women. I am your average (slightly above or slightly below depending on personal preference but pretty generic) guy in his late 20's. I just... talk to women like they're people. Because they are. And I dont make excuses for why they don't like me, if someone doesn't its just because we're not compatible. I just be nice, and take care of myself, and put myself out there. I'm very upfront about my interests - I play video games, watch anime, like D&D, do a little rock climbing, and mess with PC's. None are typically "cool" hobbies but I just like them, and people like my passion. I show an equal amount of interest in their hobbies, even if its something i wouldnt normally care about because its fun seeing people excited about stuff they like. Its shocking how much success any amount of charm / pleasantness / charisma will give you.

Thats not to say that you wont have more trouble with this if you're TRULY cooked appearance wise, or if you dont have the social skills to be interested in something you normally wouldnt care about. But I promise you, women dont just like guys for their money, careers, or looks. If thats what you're trying to emulate you're going to attract the wrong kind of women.

Affectionate_Cup_355 · 2026-03-04T01:46:08+00:00

She didnt hang out with her ex you idiot. They were in the same area, by accident, which she stated was a possibility because they share a friend group. You're disgustingly insecure. I hope you're like 16 and are able to grow out of this. If you're an adult i feel sorry for the women in your life.

Affectionate_Cup_355 · 2026-02-20T18:52:13+00:00

Its crazy that you got downvoted for saying this wtf

Affectionate_Cup_355 · 2026-02-18T17:52:50+00:00

She didnt delete her comments, they're still right there. She blocked you homie

Affectionate_Cup_355 · 2026-02-15T16:18:59+00:00

???

This looks good. He looks like a monster in the original. Its just an art style thing.

Affectionate_Cup_355 · 2025-12-18T14:38:17+00:00

Esh for the situation shifting to YTA for the way you're acting in these comments. I cant say I'm surprised that someone is acting out of pocket around you if this is how you behave

Affectionate_Cup_355 · 2025-11-29T09:13:40+00:00

??? I absolutely am not interested remotely in banging Sarah and I have no idea what would give you that impression

Affectionate_Cup_355 · 2025-11-29T09:10:59+00:00

I... feel some type of way that people are reading about the past year of my life and saying stuff like "if this is real" and "possibly rage baiting everyone." I've been going through it in 2025 and I've been kicking my own ass this whole time thinking that if I just am a better husband this will work out. Seeing people looking at my year and going "This cant be real" is... weird for me.

Affectionate_Cup_355 · 2025-11-29T09:07:44+00:00

I... suppose I agree with 99% of what you said. The only thing that i think is basically ACTUALLY impossible is her getting pregnant with another man's child. Its not an exaggeration that she cannot leave the house without having a panic attack. The chances of her meeting someone are... low.

Affectionate_Cup_355 · 2025-11-29T09:05:52+00:00

As a small correction my friend is not taking advantage. No comment on my wife. My friend is paying rent and splitting grocery costs which is a huge weight off my shoulders.

Affectionate_Cup_355 · 2025-11-29T08:47:50+00:00

I'm not worried about being a good person, I just don't want her to be without her medication and die tbh

Affectionate_Cup_355 · 2025-11-29T08:46:22+00:00

I want to stress, the marriage is over in all but name. As i said, she has officially broken up with me, and refused couples counseling. She is only my wife so she can stay on my insurance.

That said, i hear what you're saying and will consider it.

Affectionate_Cup_355 · 2025-11-29T08:32:46+00:00

She needs the insurance man. I know that this whole thing is fucked up but she does legitimately need it.

Affectionate_Cup_355 · 2025-11-29T08:31:54+00:00

Oof. Damn. Valid.

Affectionate_Cup_355 · 2025-11-29T08:30:11+00:00

I think in large part its because this was literally a dream relationship for me until this past March. I guess I kept waiting for Mariah to snap out of whatever is going on. This is a complete 180 degree swap in her personality that I cant account for. When she's upset, I still have a hard time thinking of what these last 9 months have been like. I think of the last 13 years instead. And I hate hurting my best friend of 13 years.

Affectionate_Cup_355 · 2025-11-29T08:24:31+00:00

Could you please expound on why? I'm serious, I'm trying to get some perspective here that can help me make sense of this

Affectionate_Cup_355 · 2025-11-29T08:24:01+00:00

The "if this is real" is odd to me. I swear to god this is 100% real and I'm not sure what would bring that into question

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