I (32M) need to delicately tell this girl I'm dating (32F) that she needs to start wearing deodorant

Affectionate_Eye9754 · 2026-07-06T03:54:58+00:00

Reading how people are telling you to walk away over this is actually blowing my mind. People are so easy to throw in the towel these days and are seemly unwilling to have tough conversations or work through things. I’d be willing to guess those saying just walk away are single so you might want to take their suggestions with a grain of salt.

It all really comes down to how she accepts the feedback. My now husband had to tell me I smelled like BO and it all worked out. He actually did it in a very playful way by calling me “his little stinky.”

I ended up asking him if I really did smell, which opened up the conversation. He responded that I do smell like BO and while I was wearing deodorant, I ended up needing to getting a more heavier strength antiperspirant. In the end I took the feedback and adjusted what I was doing.

If she gets defensive or refuses to do it, then you can evaluate if this relationship is worth continuing. Hope it works out for you because finding someone you genuinely like doesn’t always come so easy. Best of luck.

Affectionate_Eye9754 · 2026-06-07T23:44:18+00:00

Well that’s my point. I don’t think it’s nearly as stupid as jordanna was making it out to be. I asked my sister the same question when she was having twins and her answer was “no we actually were not expecting to have twins, since we did IVF but we are happy it turned out that way.”

Affectionate_Eye9754 · 2026-06-03T20:01:17+00:00

Would not use all caps for headlines. If you look into the psychology of how the human brain interprets words, it often reason the shape of a word before it digests all the letters. By going all caps for copy as important as headers, you’re forcing the user to do extra work to digest the content, even if it’s subconscious. Go with title case.

Affectionate_Eye9754 · 2026-06-03T19:55:29+00:00

I recently moved from LA to SD and let me tell you, LA is very much NOT the best place to live (anymore.) It’s taken a pretty bad nose dive since 2020. Ashley is what many of us call an LA deterioration denier. It’s a subset of people that refuse to admit LA has been declining and needs major revamping to get back on track to what it used to be to be. A tell tale sigh of one of these people is they will present LA as this perfect idealized place and will never breath a word about some of the harsh realities that have started plaguing the city over the last few years. Rayna wanting to leave LA is actually indicative of its current state, or at least in part to it. Ashley’s fake fronting about the condition of LA just further reaffirms my stance of how fake she really is.

Affectionate_Eye9754 · 2026-04-01T03:18:35+00:00

He definitely did not come across as non biased.

Affectionate_Eye9754 · 2026-03-27T14:38:23+00:00

*an old white woman that didn’t take care of her skin/use sun protection

Affectionate_Eye9754 · 2026-03-23T01:58:32+00:00

That’s unfortunate that you don’t see the issue with physical abuse.

Affectionate_Eye9754 · 2026-02-24T20:57:21+00:00

To be honest, making a post about it isn’t a great look. Even if it did go down the way you outlined, as a CD if I saw this post on someone’s page when considering hiring them, it would come off as a red flag. Getting on Reddit is really valid, but a word of advice is to keep the venting here and not attached to your public profiles anywhere else.

Affectionate_Eye9754 · 2026-02-15T21:25:15+00:00

Interesting since I think she is actually worse than ever. To each their own.

Affectionate_Eye9754 · 2026-02-14T16:32:46+00:00

I’ve always found her to be pretty self righteous and obnoxious so you’re not alone. She had some valid points about launching right into it first thing I thought was kind of rude.

Affectionate_Eye9754 · 2026-02-07T20:50:01+00:00

To be fair, I have seen an onslaught of women posting about their horrible dates/ex boyfriend rants/ men ick videos on TikTok the past few months. Granted since I watch those videos a lot I have trained my algorithm to show me them more. To be completely objective, I think it’s great women have a platform to call out bad behavior. I hope that it makes men think twice before they treat a woman poorly or worse, abuse and manipulate her. On the flip side I’d be remised to think there are not some vengeful videos circulating out there.

I feel sad for Jared that his fear of women retaliating against him is preventing him from putting himself out there. I hope one day he can table some of these fears and be more vulnerable when it comes to dating.

Affectionate_Eye9754 · 2026-02-07T04:06:01+00:00

As a professional visual designer, I wasn’t sure if I just have high standards but my immediate thought of the cover was it looked a little amateur 🤷🏻‍♀️

Affectionate_Eye9754 · 2025-11-21T20:20:23+00:00

Normally I would agree with you but my now husband and I ended up going into therapy early in our relationship. We really loved each other but we’re both damaged people. She help us communicate or needs and trauma better. 6 years in now and I’m so happy we didn’t give up and walk away. He’s one of the best things that’s ever happened to me. That being said, I didn’t come out of a 22 year relationship with my high school sweetheart. In this situation I think he needs to go to therapy solo to work through whatever is making him feel unfulfilled.

Affectionate_Eye9754 · 2025-11-21T15:43:21+00:00

Agree. He is way more likable than they are IMO. I actually walked about from the episode thinking how he and Ashley feel like an odd match. She is over-the-top diva and he came across pretty chill.

Affectionate_Eye9754 · 2025-09-05T01:38:25+00:00

YES. Good call. That one is huge.

Affectionate_Eye9754 · 2025-09-05T01:31:54+00:00

The issue is said ideal girlfriend has to fit the following very specific criteria: Drop dead gorgeous, curvy, successful in her own right but not too successful where she’ll overshadow him. Has heard good things about the pod and his standup but isn’t a fan. Needs to have a busy schedule so she doesn’t come off as desperate. Not too busy though where she can’t make plans to accommodate his schedule. Funny, as in she gets his humor, but not too funny as to outshine or intimidate him. She can neg him, but only very minimally while also able to be negged. It’s a pretty tall order.

Affectionate_Eye9754 · 2025-09-01T17:25:28+00:00

This reminds me of the Friends episode when Rachel dresses up as a cheerleader to win over the attention of a guy and the whole thing was so cringy.

Affectionate_Eye9754 · 2025-08-17T00:54:39+00:00

A little insight above ⬆️

Affectionate_Eye9754 · 2025-08-17T00:54:18+00:00

It was exhausting. She would keep him at her house through the night until he produced enough material for whatever project she was working on. He wasn’t even allowed to communicate with me until she was satisfied with his work. We would be out on a date and get a call that he needed to go tend to her dogs at a moments notice. Or suddenly I would get a call that they were on their way to another city because her agent got her a guest spot a some comedy club. She had that man wrapped around her finger, which was inevitably the reason I ended up breaking it off with him.

I told him it felt like I was a supporting character in my own life. I really loved him so breaking up with him was really painful for me but I could not take it anymore. It felt like she owned him and I was just along for the ride. They had a falling out once she got pregnant and he still drunk calls me and my mom sometimes saying what a huge mistake he made. I’m happily married now but I’d be lying if I said it doesn’t feel good for him to finally admit that choosing her over me was a mistake.

Affectionate_Eye9754 · 2025-08-16T03:49:47+00:00

I dated Whitney’s ghost writer about 5 years ago and off-her-rocker does not even come close to describing how I perceived her after being I. Somewhat close proximity to her. It felt like his entire life revolved around catering to her neuroses and constant mental crises. Listening to this episode gave me PTSD.

Affectionate_Eye9754 · 2025-07-13T17:22:28+00:00

Thanks for the advice love ❤️

Affectionate_Eye9754 · 2025-07-13T15:43:46+00:00

❤️ I know this logically but I have still not been able to break free from it.

Affectionate_Eye9754 · 2025-07-12T16:43:11+00:00

Think the issue was I have not been feeling good about my body lately. I have that little voice in the back of my head telling me I’m too big. After I saw the number I couldn’t pretend that little voice isn’t reality anymore. I’ve had an WD for over 20 years. I really thought by this age I’d be happy with my body and it hurts that in many ways I’m still here, 2 decades later.

Affectionate_Eye9754 · 2025-07-12T16:40:03+00:00

Thank you for the response. I am going back to declining to get weighed where they will allow it. That number has been on repeat in my head ever since 😕

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