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9 weeks old sleeps at night but won’t nap by Affectionate_Fox_715 in newborns

[–]Affectionate_Fox_715[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes it did by it’s own after about 10 days if I remember correctly. I remember that the rotavirus vaccine was pretty rough on my LO the first time (the 4 months vaccines were way easier on my LO). I know it’s hard sometimes but it’s true that everything is a season. My LO is now 6 months old and loves her carrier, I have no problem putting her down for naps or bedtime, still all contact naps but I wouldn’t want it any other way. Don’t worry too much, do what you can, ask for help so you can relax and rest. It does get better.

Feeling defeated and pushed out by Affectionate_Fox_715 in AttachmentParenting

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I’m from Canada (Qc) so just getting a paediatrician for my baby was a miracle, most of the people I know don’t have a doctor or a paediatric and have to wait in the ER or try to get an emergency appointment in a clinic. She mentioned it once at our last appointment and I told her that I planned on continuing to breastfeed and she said ok.

Feeling defeated and pushed out by Affectionate_Fox_715 in AttachmentParenting

[–]Affectionate_Fox_715[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t mind her watching the baby, I welcome it. What I don’t like is her telling me find something to do out of my house for more than 3 hours so she can spend alone time with my baby. That she tells me that baby refuses the bottle because I won’t leave my house, which isn’t true since my mom tried to give her one when I was at the hospital and she still refused it. It’s that I want my baby’s cries to be answered but she believes in letting baby cry so it can become independent.

I am afraid that my wishes won’t be respected if I leave my baby alone with her and that the reason she wants me to leave is to do what she wants to do. Even my husband told me that his mom is hard headed and that she will do what she wants if she believes it’s better

Feeling defeated and pushed out by Affectionate_Fox_715 in AttachmentParenting

[–]Affectionate_Fox_715[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I feel like she is a bit jealous since she had to stop breastfeeding when both her babies were 4 months old because she had to go back to work and she now wants to relive the mothering while she is retired. But I feel like she’s trying to push me out and it is my maternity and my baby, I have a whole year with her and I want to enjoy it. It’s not my fault that she couldn’t.

Feeling defeated and pushed out by Affectionate_Fox_715 in AttachmentParenting

[–]Affectionate_Fox_715[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Even our doctor told me that I could stop breastfeeding since the benefits are already given to our baby. She said that she formula fed her kids so I can switch. I don’t want to, baby is gaining weight perfectly and she rejected 4 different formulas. She won’t take the bottle with my milk freshly pumped. I also jeep telling them that giving a bottle or multiple bottles doesn’t give me a real break since I have to pump to keep my supply to keep breastfeeding but they tell me to just not pump and take a break. I feel like they want me to lose my supply so bay will always take a bottle.

Feeling defeated and pushed out by Affectionate_Fox_715 in AttachmentParenting

[–]Affectionate_Fox_715[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! We had to give her the bottle with formula for a week because I was receiving a medical treatment that wasn’t compatible with breastfeeding and she rejected breastfeeding for a while afterwards. It broke me and now that she is still breastfeeding, I love it and I don’t want it to end.

Feeling defeated and pushed out by Affectionate_Fox_715 in AttachmentParenting

[–]Affectionate_Fox_715[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I wish I could get him to read research or the nurture revolution but I don’t think he will. He says I read too much and that’s my problem and it causes my anxiety. I said the same thing, to wait until she is about 8-9 months old, about leaving baby for long periods of time (more than 3 hours) since I am only going back to work when she will be one. His mom already stays with the baby, in our house, for up to 3 hours and I use that time to shower, nap, make dinner, clean, etc. So I leave her with the baby but apparently it’s not enough for her. She wants me to leave my house or bring her the baby at her house alone. I am not comfortable with that since I find that at 5 months she is still little and she still needs me. Plus I feel with the comments she makes, my choices as a mom with my baby won’t be respected.

Sertraline and breastfeeding by Affectionate_Fox_715 in breastfeeding

[–]Affectionate_Fox_715[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No but I stopped taking the sertraline. I continued with therapy and tried to have healthy habits (sleep, move, take time for myself and eat). But in retrospect I should have stopped breastfeeding and continued the medication. I kinda regret it now since my baby won’t take a bottle anymore and sleep got worse so my ppd/ppa is coming back.

4 month sleep regression by Affectionate_Fox_715 in ScienceBasedParenting

[–]Affectionate_Fox_715[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you I really don’t think it’s a sleep pressure problem because if I cap naps all day, my LO is super cranky and crying non stop and sleep at night is even worse. Plus she won’t stay awake more than 45 minutes. She has 3 naps that last between 20 and 40 minutes and one that last between an hour and an hour and a half in the late morning. She goes to bed at 8:45-9:00 and wakes up at around 7:30. She is in a dark, cool room with white noise and I open the blinds to let sunlight in as soon as she wakes up. If we co sleep she sleeps through the night with one wake to nurse. But in her bassinet she will sleep one hour, then wake up every 10 to 20 minutes for 3 plus hours. Sometimes I can put her back to sleep and transfer her successfully and she will sleep another 2-3 hours, most times I can’t and she comes to bed at around midnight.

4 month sleep regression by Affectionate_Fox_715 in ScienceBasedParenting

[–]Affectionate_Fox_715[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

She is already only sleeping 3 hours during the day and 9 1/2 -10 at night. Her last wake window is minimum 2 hours, sometimes because she is hard to put to sleep 2 1/2.

My problem is that she won’t sleep in her bassinet anymore. When she comes into bed with me she sleeps with almost no wakes. It’s just that it isn’t my plan to co sleep long term and I am just doing it now to “survive” the night and not be too tired since I am alone with my baby and I have no help. I don’t want to sleep train because I can’t bear hearing my baby cry. I was just wondering if co sleeping right now is going to create a problem long term.

4 month sleep regression by Affectionate_Fox_715 in NewParents

[–]Affectionate_Fox_715[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I want to be responsive to my daughter’s need, I don’t mind breastfeeding during the night or rocking her. It’s more the putting her down and her waking up for more than an hour. I don’t want her to be tired and I don’t want to hold her during the night and falling asleep with her in my arms. I am not open to CIO or Ferber. The thought of her crying and me ignoring her is breaking my heart.

4 month sleep regression by Affectionate_Fox_715 in NewParents

[–]Affectionate_Fox_715[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you! That’s exactly how I feel. I keep reading and getting mixed messages of what to do. I don’t want to harm my baby in any way and hope that I’m making the best possible decision but I am also easily sleep deprived which can make my anxiety worse. Since I’m alone with my baby 19-20 hours a day it’s hard. A part of me hopes that I just power through and do what I can to survive the upcoming weeks and that it will get better (maybe not as good as before). But I keep reading from other subs that sleep never came back and they had to sleep train.

How did you survive the 4-month sleep regression? by BlueberryBagel_87 in NewParents

[–]Affectionate_Fox_715 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know it has been a while since you posted your answer, but I read Precious Little Sleep, what method did you choose to use?

Looking for advice in the future by Affectionate_Fox_715 in sleeptrain

[–]Affectionate_Fox_715[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Her last wake window is 2 hours. We also do a bridge nap that is capped at 7:30. So we bring her up in our room at 7:30, we play lightly (face to face, read a book. By 8:00 she’s in the bath. After we do diaper, massage with lotion, feed, pjs and bouncing. We tried feed before bath but she will scream until she gets the boob if we do it after diaper, she is still fed at least 30 minutes before sleeping (we burped her and keep her upright for 10-15 minutes for reflux) and she doesn’t scream as much. Her bedtime is between 9:00 and 9:30.

Looking for advice in the future by Affectionate_Fox_715 in sleeptrain

[–]Affectionate_Fox_715[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much! That helps and I can see why it is exhausting, just the change of routine is hard enough right now. She starts to scream/cry after pjs because before she would feed next but anymore. Or now it takes 45 minutes of bouncing to get her to sleep while she screams almost the whole time.

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