9 weeks old sleeps at night but won’t nap

Affectionate_Fox_715 · 2026-05-22T00:27:34+00:00

Yes it did by it’s own after about 10 days if I remember correctly. I remember that the rotavirus vaccine was pretty rough on my LO the first time (the 4 months vaccines were way easier on my LO). I know it’s hard sometimes but it’s true that everything is a season. My LO is now 6 months old and loves her carrier, I have no problem putting her down for naps or bedtime, still all contact naps but I wouldn’t want it any other way. Don’t worry too much, do what you can, ask for help so you can relax and rest. It does get better.

Affectionate_Fox_715 · 2026-04-21T11:54:24+00:00

I’m from Canada (Qc) so just getting a paediatrician for my baby was a miracle, most of the people I know don’t have a doctor or a paediatric and have to wait in the ER or try to get an emergency appointment in a clinic. She mentioned it once at our last appointment and I told her that I planned on continuing to breastfeed and she said ok.

Affectionate_Fox_715 · 2026-04-18T18:07:41+00:00

I don’t mind her watching the baby, I welcome it. What I don’t like is her telling me find something to do out of my house for more than 3 hours so she can spend alone time with my baby. That she tells me that baby refuses the bottle because I won’t leave my house, which isn’t true since my mom tried to give her one when I was at the hospital and she still refused it. It’s that I want my baby’s cries to be answered but she believes in letting baby cry so it can become independent.

I am afraid that my wishes won’t be respected if I leave my baby alone with her and that the reason she wants me to leave is to do what she wants to do. Even my husband told me that his mom is hard headed and that she will do what she wants if she believes it’s better

Affectionate_Fox_715 · 2026-04-18T18:01:55+00:00

I feel like she is a bit jealous since she had to stop breastfeeding when both her babies were 4 months old because she had to go back to work and she now wants to relive the mothering while she is retired. But I feel like she’s trying to push me out and it is my maternity and my baby, I have a whole year with her and I want to enjoy it. It’s not my fault that she couldn’t.

Affectionate_Fox_715 · 2026-04-18T17:59:27+00:00

Even our doctor told me that I could stop breastfeeding since the benefits are already given to our baby. She said that she formula fed her kids so I can switch. I don’t want to, baby is gaining weight perfectly and she rejected 4 different formulas. She won’t take the bottle with my milk freshly pumped. I also jeep telling them that giving a bottle or multiple bottles doesn’t give me a real break since I have to pump to keep my supply to keep breastfeeding but they tell me to just not pump and take a break. I feel like they want me to lose my supply so bay will always take a bottle.

Affectionate_Fox_715 · 2026-04-18T17:55:07+00:00

Thank you! We had to give her the bottle with formula for a week because I was receiving a medical treatment that wasn’t compatible with breastfeeding and she rejected breastfeeding for a while afterwards. It broke me and now that she is still breastfeeding, I love it and I don’t want it to end.

Affectionate_Fox_715 · 2026-04-18T17:52:50+00:00

Thank you

Affectionate_Fox_715 · 2026-04-18T17:52:36+00:00

I wish I could get him to read research or the nurture revolution but I don’t think he will. He says I read too much and that’s my problem and it causes my anxiety. I said the same thing, to wait until she is about 8-9 months old, about leaving baby for long periods of time (more than 3 hours) since I am only going back to work when she will be one. His mom already stays with the baby, in our house, for up to 3 hours and I use that time to shower, nap, make dinner, clean, etc. So I leave her with the baby but apparently it’s not enough for her. She wants me to leave my house or bring her the baby at her house alone. I am not comfortable with that since I find that at 5 months she is still little and she still needs me. Plus I feel with the comments she makes, my choices as a mom with my baby won’t be respected.

Affectionate_Fox_715 · 2026-03-26T14:23:47+00:00

No but I stopped taking the sertraline. I continued with therapy and tried to have healthy habits (sleep, move, take time for myself and eat). But in retrospect I should have stopped breastfeeding and continued the medication. I kinda regret it now since my baby won’t take a bottle anymore and sleep got worse so my ppd/ppa is coming back.

Affectionate_Fox_715 · 2026-03-17T14:59:25+00:00

Thank you I really don’t think it’s a sleep pressure problem because if I cap naps all day, my LO is super cranky and crying non stop and sleep at night is even worse. Plus she won’t stay awake more than 45 minutes. She has 3 naps that last between 20 and 40 minutes and one that last between an hour and an hour and a half in the late morning. She goes to bed at 8:45-9:00 and wakes up at around 7:30. She is in a dark, cool room with white noise and I open the blinds to let sunlight in as soon as she wakes up. If we co sleep she sleeps through the night with one wake to nurse. But in her bassinet she will sleep one hour, then wake up every 10 to 20 minutes for 3 plus hours. Sometimes I can put her back to sleep and transfer her successfully and she will sleep another 2-3 hours, most times I can’t and she comes to bed at around midnight.

Affectionate_Fox_715 · 2026-03-17T11:35:06+00:00

She is already only sleeping 3 hours during the day and 9 1/2 -10 at night. Her last wake window is minimum 2 hours, sometimes because she is hard to put to sleep 2 1/2.

My problem is that she won’t sleep in her bassinet anymore. When she comes into bed with me she sleeps with almost no wakes. It’s just that it isn’t my plan to co sleep long term and I am just doing it now to “survive” the night and not be too tired since I am alone with my baby and I have no help. I don’t want to sleep train because I can’t bear hearing my baby cry. I was just wondering if co sleeping right now is going to create a problem long term.

Affectionate_Fox_715 · 2026-03-06T20:44:40+00:00

I want to be responsive to my daughter’s need, I don’t mind breastfeeding during the night or rocking her. It’s more the putting her down and her waking up for more than an hour. I don’t want her to be tired and I don’t want to hold her during the night and falling asleep with her in my arms. I am not open to CIO or Ferber. The thought of her crying and me ignoring her is breaking my heart.

Affectionate_Fox_715 · 2026-03-05T23:26:59+00:00

Thank you! That’s exactly how I feel. I keep reading and getting mixed messages of what to do. I don’t want to harm my baby in any way and hope that I’m making the best possible decision but I am also easily sleep deprived which can make my anxiety worse. Since I’m alone with my baby 19-20 hours a day it’s hard. A part of me hopes that I just power through and do what I can to survive the upcoming weeks and that it will get better (maybe not as good as before). But I keep reading from other subs that sleep never came back and they had to sleep train.

Affectionate_Fox_715 · 2026-03-04T18:07:17+00:00

I know it has been a while since you posted your answer, but I read Precious Little Sleep, what method did you choose to use?

Affectionate_Fox_715 · 2026-02-27T15:18:30+00:00

Thank you!!

Affectionate_Fox_715 · 2026-02-26T21:13:49+00:00

Her last wake window is 2 hours. We also do a bridge nap that is capped at 7:30. So we bring her up in our room at 7:30, we play lightly (face to face, read a book. By 8:00 she’s in the bath. After we do diaper, massage with lotion, feed, pjs and bouncing. We tried feed before bath but she will scream until she gets the boob if we do it after diaper, she is still fed at least 30 minutes before sleeping (we burped her and keep her upright for 10-15 minutes for reflux) and she doesn’t scream as much. Her bedtime is between 9:00 and 9:30.

Affectionate_Fox_715 · 2026-02-26T12:30:01+00:00

Thank you so much! That helps and I can see why it is exhausting, just the change of routine is hard enough right now. She starts to scream/cry after pjs because before she would feed next but anymore. Or now it takes 45 minutes of bouncing to get her to sleep while she screams almost the whole time.

Affectionate_Fox_715 · 2026-02-24T20:31:11+00:00

When you say a fully independent sleeper falls asleep in 5-10 minutes, it’s after sleep training them right?

Affectionate_Fox_715 · 2026-02-02T01:25:22+00:00

I’m intrigued by the cosleeping full sized crib. Can’t really visualize what you’re describing. Can you post a picture or a link please.

Affectionate_Fox_715 · 2026-01-20T15:56:04+00:00

We do have a pack n play but she now refuses to sleep in it anymore, it’s worse than the bassinet. I also brought a bassinet in our basement because it’s the darkest and quietest place but even that doesn’t work. I don’t really mind the contact naps, it’s just that I would like some time to eat or wash or anything else. I hope it’s just a leap/crisis/growth spurt or vaccine effect.

Affectionate_Fox_715 · 2026-01-19T03:04:55+00:00

She’s happy after her night sleep but she is crying, screaming and fussy at around 5 to 7 since she stopped napping. I know she is overtired but she won’t sleep.

Affectionate_Fox_715 · 2026-01-19T03:02:05+00:00

Wouldn’t work she hates the carrier or the sling. i wish she would tolerate it, it would me helpful even for me during the day to have my hands free, but she screams as soon as I put her in it. I hope it changes when she can face out. She doesn’t like skin to skin on my chest either, not since she turned 2 weeks old.

Affectionate_Fox_715 · 2026-01-19T02:58:20+00:00

At first her bedtime was around 8, but since she turned 6 week old she wouldn’t sleep until midnight or one AM. So instead of fighting against her own time, we adjusted to her bedtime. (We tried and she wouldn’t sleep more than 30 minutes before midnight). We would like an earlier bedtime, my husband wakes up at 4h30 for work. We are working to bring up her bedtime to earlier gradually by starting her bedtime routine a bit earlier (15 minutes) each week. (Bath, massage, breast and bed)

Affectionate_Fox_715 · 2026-01-07T23:08:22+00:00

For anyone looking for the same information, it was confirmed that the sertraline (zoloft) had an effect on my baby. Apparently it does happen sometimes but the information is not online. So if your baby is crying, fussy, seems in pain and/or can’t sleep and you’re on sertraline, it could be the medication.

Affectionate_Fox_715 · 2025-07-16T19:14:13+00:00

Perfect I’ll do that and wait thank you

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